Crush on neighbour ~advice needed.

Ok so my neighbour is sexy, and sweet and gentlemanly (uhh and tattoed and uhh yum). He has allways been nice to me and sweet he even asked if i wanted to have a drink with him when i first moved in here but the opportunity never came around specifically... Plus i've had a boyfriend pretty much the whole time, but not anymore!

He seems a little shy but i just feel like i know he likes me. I can tell by the way he looks at me. Sort of smirky and almost not meeting my eye. He re stringed my guitar and has offered to lend me cds in the past.. all pointing towards him liking me right?
We chat when we both see each other in our drive ways but neither or us have said hey you know what we should really hang out..

I guess i want to know how i can let him know i'm interested without possibly making him feel embarrassed you know llike putting him on the spot, or just scaring him off.. It's hard to know how to approach a man youn think might be a little shy..

I'm attractive and men usually like me but this is different i'm approaching him.

Can anyone offer me some advice as to what to say to give him some idea that i'm available and looking in his direction?

I soooo wanna seduce him but he's also a really nice guy.. I'd like to explore things further on all levels

Thanks in advance.

 

awww its like high school all over again!

You go up to him and ask him out for a drink...you don't just go up to him and confess your inner love for him...start slow. Its simple!

 

If you want a mutually respectful relationship behave accordingly (your twenty, you know how). If you could care less, then jump his ship and create a tide.

 

lol!

 

If he is so shy, then you can get right move...tell him, probably will not say to you NO

 

I'm a really nice guy. If it doesn't work out, you can seduce me

 

Lol thanks guys. I think i'm just gonna wing it. And i'm very respectful so no danger of insulting him. It's a really big full moon tonight hope i run into him, you know people and full moons. He's irish too i was thinking i might see him on St Patricks day ask him if he felt lucky hahahah ok well internally but i probably would have asked him what youre supposed to do on St Patricks day and he would have said drink (hopefully) and i would have said..wanna?
Oh somebody stop me lol.

Ugh can you believe i even had his number but can't find it now? lol

 

I wouldn't say i have inner love for him.. but damn i'm feeling quite flirty in his direction

 

No action yet lol. I'm gonna take matters into my own hands if i dont see him tonight i'm knocking on his door. I have the perfect excuse too. I will be in hospital on Thrusday fro a couple of days im gonna ask him if he can keep an eye on my place for me while im gone just like look out if he hears anything weird,..then i will find out what he's doing on the weekend.. Asking should give him a hint right? God i hope i dont go stupid and giggle lol.

 

Fuckin' seriously?

Determine what activity would be fun for the two of you, be it drinking, raving, calculus, or smashing mailboxes. Go knock on his door, and ask him if he'd like to go wherever you have in mind with you.

 

Hahaha actually a combination of all of the above sounds pretty good to me lol. Ok ima do it. Will report later lieutenant lol.

 

not so easy is it? Now you know how some of us dudes feel.

I'd say next time you run into eachother - just ask him if he'd like to grab a beer sometime (guys love beer), or just go out and hang somewhere? It's really that simple.

If you knock on his door, that will most likely tell him you are interested. not neccessarily a bad thing, but it will at least give him the idea.

 

Yeah i was just thinking that last night actually how hard this must be for guys. I'm normally pretty confident but in the face of uncertainty and potential rejection eeek lol. I just need a little sign that he's keen then once i have him in my orbit the rest should be a cake. It's just this first bit.. arggh lol.

 

I will speak for him

"You are totally hot and would love for you to knock on my door and ask if I like Foster's"

 

do you smoke weed? thats pretty much my game lol..."hey, you wanna smoke a joint?"

especially if he's your neighbor, i think it would be less intimidating to ask if he wants to stop by your house for a joint. It seems more casual than asking him out to a bar.

 

Hahahaha lol thanks.. if only i knew that for sure. Well i will be like Nike and just do it lol. And.. if he's like ehh noo well i will just go marinate in shame hahaha, i'm sure i will get over it.

 

Lol i do and in fact i found a fat one just yesterday that i'd forgotten about. I have no idea if he smokes though. And worse i will be a giggling fool if i smoke with him. Haha you have no idea i'm a shocker. I will probably giggle anyway it's just what i do partciularly in the presence of sexual tension and general awkwardness.
I do like that idea though.. this weekend could be promising. I just haven't been able to catch in his driveway yet to ask. And im not sure if i stay home i will catch him i'm allready borderline demoralised by my lack of progress. Plus my squadron of lesbain friends want me to go to some strip club on sat night lol god help me haha. but i'd take slow seduction of my neighbour over that if i had the choice

 

If you smoke, weed should come up pretty early anyway, because his acceptance (wether or not he currently smokes) or rejection of it will make or break the whole deal.

To be casual, if you ever cook out with friends or something, invite him over for that with a few friends around, should break the sexual tension. Then you can ask him if he smokes pot WHILE having a beer, it's the ultimate compromise (just make it clear to your friends that he's off limits before hand....)

If some girl asks me over to smoke before I know her and she's alone, it's cool, but can be strange as shit... Like ok, you invited me over with you alone to take aphrodisiac drugs, but I don't even know you... am I supposted to fuck you here and now? or are we just supposted to be bong buddies, or what?

 

Seriously just put your hand down his pants.

If he's gunna run away like a little boy if you come on strong, then he's not going to be man enough for the stuff anyway. It is kind of that simple.

And worried about rejection, you shouldnt, theres at least half a dozen reasons he might, half of which have nothing to do with you, performance anxiety usually being No 1

 

I understand about the giggles, I have this massive crush on a friend of mine and whenever we smoke together I get so giddy being around him that I can't stop laughing. Its kind of embarrassing lol.

Roor's suggestion about having a cook out and inviting him over is a really good idea. Its casual and would definitely be a great way to break the ice. Don't let your lack of progress get you down, this part is supposed to be fun