I dont know if this is in the right spot, so if its not, i am sorry, mods please move it. Now to the juicy stuff. I am a dude and have been fantasizing about playing around with another guy lately. Im not physically attracted to guys, other than their penises. Havent had a girlfriend in a long while, so no limitations. I definately want to try sucking, and i want to get sucked by another guy, but the biggest thing i want is anal. I want to just submit to another guy and let him have fun with my virgin hole. Now, i am kind of leary about this though. Honestly, i am REALLY tight. The last couple days i have tried fingering myself, and it takes a bit of a struggle to get one finger in. I definately can not get two in, even lubing up real well. Now im looking for a little insight or advice. While i had my finger in there, the whole time i felt like i was about to crap myself. After i was done playing with myself, i had the biggest urge that i had to crap, but when i tried it didnt happen. Since then, ive been having that feeling for hours. Is this normal? Also, what is the odds that i actually will? I dont want to be getting anal for the first time, and the guy pulls out and i crap all over the place. That would be embarassing as hell. Also, i know this is my first post. I used to be a member on here a couple years ago, but for the lift of me i couldn't remember my password, and i dont use the same email adress as i used to. And i never posted in this section, i was exclusively part of the marijuana and psychadelics forums. Thanks in advance.
Judging by your post, I'd say that you want to play around with a smaller size dildo, loads of lube, while being ready for all kinds of ehm, emergerncies. Once you master that basic bit, and realize that nothing bad really happens, you may want to take the next step, and have another dude do the honors. You may or may not want to have your first time be a memorable one, but you ought to make sure that it does not stay in your memory as a most traumatic experience of your sex life either. Being too tight might drive your top into either breaking in regardless of the agony you may be going thru or simply giving up on you after a few tries. None of which is really any good. Even though you are really not likely to massively embarass yourself by craping all over the place, such things have happened and you may really want to stay on the safe side here. Even more so, you want to try and enjoy the experience for all it is worth rather than worrying incessantly about the possible fallout. Good Luck and Stay SAFE... KD
Thanks for the advice. I think i might run out to the, errr, store today and pick up a couple things to help me get ready for the real deal.
Here is a short tutorial I typed up a while back. It's how *I* learned.. The key to this is to take your time and go slow. You learn how to control your butt and sphincter muscles. You learn how to RELAX THEM and you get used to the feeling of it all. Anal play for beginners Disclaimer: I am NOT a doctor and I do NOT play one on TV. This is the way *I* learned how to discover anal play. As usual care needs to be practiced. GO VERY SLOWLY. First start off with a TRIMMED index finger. You may even want to put on a latex glove first to help make it even smoother. Use KY or the drug store brand of KY and lube the finger well. Place it VERY GENTLY near the anus and lightly circle the hole with the finger. DON'T INSERT YET. Just circle it for a few minutes. After a few minutes without insert, just put the finger over the anus and gently press a bit without entering. Just apply a bit of pressure. Do this over and over a few times and after a few minutes SLOWLY begin to insert JUST THE FINGER *TIP* in about a quarter of an inch then take it out. Do this a few times then go a LITTLE further in. Repeat this until you have you whole finger in. DO NOT FORCE IT, IF HE OR SHE OR YOU SAYS STOP, STOP! Within a week or so of trying this the person should be fairly used to the finger and inserting and pumping it in and out should become easy. Also try moving the finger around while inserted, back & forth,etc. Orgasms ARE VERY VERY INTENSE when you leave your finger or butt plug or dildo in. Soon you will want to try something slightly bigger than your finger. Try your middle finger or graduate to a SMALL butt plug. Same rules apply to the new toy as did with the finger. Start off using the finger as usual then after getting loose begin with the plug. Plugs have flared bottoms to prevent them from going all the way in. If you graduate to dildos later get ones with a flared base or ones that have the balls at the bottom. This prevents them from slipping all the way in. You don't need a trip to the ER to retrieve it, that would SUCK! After a while you will become very used to anal play and you won't need much time to prep for your session. You'll loosen up very quickly after you learn how to relax your anal muscles. It takes me less than 5 minutes to go from start to riding a 8 inch silicon dildo like a bucking bronco! GITTYUP LITTLE DOGGIE! The key to learning anal play/sex is to TAKE YOUR TIME.
Awesome advice by Tommyhot. TAKE YOUR TIME... By that very same token, do not expect that your top dude feels like taking a week off, for the simple purpose of giving you a ride. When you get to that stage, you ought to be well-prepared, ready to relax and take what comes your way... KD
