Dad caught me.

I just came home from a friends to find a piece of paper with pictures of some of my stuff on it and my dad's writing. He was looking at me from the doorway. I immediately felt like shit. He basically said that he couldn't help like feeling that I had been taking advantage of him, and the fact that he gives me my space. He said he was so pissed lastnight that he didn't sleep.

He then went on about how he wasn't angry now. When he asked me how long I'd been up to it I said about 5 months. He then said, well now this isn't going to happen at all. "I'm not going to take away your computer, or not let you see your friends. I still want to you to remain my (sort of) roomate and friend as well as my son " is what he said. He also told me that he wanted to keep my mom in the dark about this. He's afraid that if she knows that she'll immediately file for a divorce (my parents are just split up, living in different households, but not divorced) and blame it on him.

I respect my dad's wishes enough to stop smoking for a while. Later today I'll talk to him about why I did what I did and maybe he'll understand were I'm coming from a little more.

 

Man, that sucks. good luck, i hope your parents work things out. Just tell your dad that you are really stressed out about school and them getting split up and shit, and that the weed just helps you relax and forget about your problems for a little bit.

 

Dude COREY! That sucks man.

 

Such a bad idea. You're pretty much admitting that you are self medicating using an illegal drug. The first thing he'd say is that if you're so stressed, go see a shrink and get some pills... or maybe thats just my parents.

 

I'll just tell him the positive aspect of it. How I wasn't going out, getting fucked up and doing stupid shit.

 

I'm telling you, avoid saying its something you "need", because that makes it look like an addiction fast. Make sure he knows you're not being dumb about it or taking unneccesary risks, but let him know you can stop if you wanted to, you just dont.

 

Yeah, I always think that saying you need weed for "stress" or anything like that is a bad idea. Because like someone said, it makes it seem like you are dependent or in need of it.

Basically, just don't make it seem like you are slightly in need of it or dependent on it.

 

Despite what these guys say, just say what you have to. He's your father, he knows what your saying and isn't going to nitpick your choice of vocabulary. He'll get the gist.

 

agreed

 

I dunno. I do have depression, and it does help me. And my parents obviously want me to get help, but weed is the only thing that works. Just tell him that it helps you relax, deffently dont use the word NEED. Just let him know, its nice to come home after a long day and be able to kick back relax and forget about all the stressfull things in life like school. I have used this technique, all my friends have used this, and all of us smoke with our parents understanding and OK.

 

I'll post up the letter im writing to him when I'm done with it.

 

I don't feel like I can explain all of this to you in person, so I decided to organize something that I would feel comfortable emailing to you.

The first time I tried pot, I was unhappy, doing horribly in school and a little depressed. I had been reading up on the risks of pot and found a lot of interesting things. I found that, contrary to what I had learned about marijuana from the school system and the mainstream news, pot does not make people do violent or stupid things. It's not physically addictive, and there is no link between pot and any for of cancer. Many medical researchers have found pot actually attacks certain forms of cancerous tumors, causing them to shrink. I would have never tried smoking pot if I thought that anything potentially harmful could come out of it.

At first, I smoked pot to escape from unpleasant thoughts about life, including but not limited to excessive conflicts with mom, absolutely hating school, and being somewhat unhappy in general, but that seemed to be a phase that passed. I started to realize something. I had stopped taking anti-depressants cold turkey without any negative effects at all. I was able to manage my anger much better then before. For the first time, schoolwork didn't seem to be quite as agonizing. I started to complete assignments that in the past I would've blown off to play video games. You may or may not remember this trend that began, but it was definitely there.

For the first time in a while I could honestly say that I wasn't really depressed. I stopped smoking to escape anything that troubled me. When I smoked I gained a new perspective on things in my life. I was able to look at a situation or something that would have normally pissed me off in a new way and reason it out without getting a yelling match. I started to wonder more and more why pot was illegal. The worst thing I've ever done after I smoked was knock over an orange soda (I had to scrub hard, but the stain came out). I never went into stupid situations while I was "stoned", because I still retain the ability to tell when something is a stupid idea. I've never had any desire to start shooting up drugs, or snorting coke. I have smoked cigarettes, but not more then a pack total, (I've never disposed of the boxes for some reason) because I think they're disgusting. As you also know, I've also consumed alcohol, but never enough to get drunk because I've never had any desire to get drunk.

I've pasted the URL's of some articles from reliable sources. If you have extra time, please take a look at some of them.

http://www.webmd.com/mental-health/news/20030701/heavy-marijuana-use-doesnt-damage-brain
http://www.mapinc.org/newscc/v01/n572/a11.html
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Medical_cannabis
http://www.mapinc.org/norml/v06/n1751/a06.htm

My only regret (that has to do with pot) is that I've added more stress to your life and betrayed your trust. For that, I'm truly sorry.

Love,
Corey.

 

lol....a truseted source...wikipedia. lmao

 

Thats funny xD. I thought that exact same thing when I pasted that link in...
Here's what my dad wrote back to me early this morning (Dad, If you ever google search what you wrote to see if I posted it online, sorry lol).


Corey. I guess it's not the pot that has me so concerned. What seems to accompany the use of any drugs is the attending culture of deception, illegality, and the people you must deal with to use a substance such as pot. I mean. it's OK to buy beer and drink it because it is legal and out in the open. You can get it anywhere and it's big business. Thus, it is OK,,,,Right? So my biggest complaint with pot is not its use in general. It is the people who encourage its use in an effort to get you to "go further" and try something stronger. Legalize pot and those people disappear. If you are so naieve as to think RJ Reynolds, Phillip Morris, and other cigarette manufacturers don't have huge fields of Cannibus ready to harvest just in case it becomes legalized, then you are only kidding yourself. They know the marketing potential of this substance as well as they did tobacco.

This past year I witnessed Freshmen drinking in class and people telling me they came to school drunk and didn't get caught. I understand you are a lot smarter than those kids and would never do anything that stupid.

As far as using pot for medicinal purposes I am also aware of the benefits that can be derrived from its use. And I can believe that there is a lack of habit forming pathogens like niccotine in tobacco. However, smoke is smoke. Pollution is polution no matter how you want to disguise it. Any time you introduce any substance into the body there is a risk of some kind. That's why they tell us to watch out for four-hour hard-ons if we use Viagra. Certain people can OD on almost any substance.
There's probably a bigger chance for addiction to chocolate than there is to marijuana. It's a lot more available.

As far as cancer is concerned, any burned carbon particles that are introduced into the body on a regular basis could cause cancer. The lungs are especially vulnerable because we have to use them to stay alive. I have had too many close friends become ill or die because of smoke that they introduced into their lungs. In fact almost anything used in excess may cause cancer. Nobody chain smokes pot (well, maybe somebody does) so the comparisons to regular tobacco cannot be correlated in an equal light. People can die from the intake of small amounts of Asbestos. Each substance affects each person in a different way. Making any broad general statements about anything has no foundation in one or even a few studies. Conclusions concerning tobacco weren't drawn for decades and after billions of dollars in research.

Cannibus may or may not cause cancer. A few studies will not change that. Years of research and thousands of studies have to be conducted before making such a conclusion. When it comes to cannibus we really don't know. If someone is looking at pot as a carcenogen they will undoubtedly find that it is. If someone is looking to prove pot is a great medicinal herb with no side affects, that is what they will find. Remember, if it is bad for us, we will probably give it a try just to find out for ourselves.
If smog, which includes all sorts of carbon particles, is killing 4,000-year-old Bristlecone Pines three hundred miles north of Lost Angeles (this is a fact) then why wouldn't you believe any form of carbon particle introduced to the lungs might be detrimental to one's health.

Used medicinally is the best argument for pot. Used recreationally it's just another drug like coccaine, alcohol, or amphetamines. It may be unfortunate that pot is presently connected to the illicit drug trade but that is just a fact of life at the present time. I pot is legalized, for any reason, sales will skyrocket because a lot of people that wouldn't try it otherwise will become regular smokers just because the law says it's OK. Undoubtedly some will become addicted. It is a natural phenomenon.
If it is widely used all sorts of causes will emerge.

Just because the law approves of something doesn't make it right. However, at the present time the law says it is wrong and we must be aware of that. Until the time it is legalized I don't approve of its use. But, that's just my opinion.

Love, DAD

 

Lost Angeles. I was under the impresion that we still know where it is. Lol. Just tell him, that he is being steriotypical. Not all people fall into that lifestyle. Throw in the stat that over 50% of american adults have tried pot, and he can not even try to claim that that many live in the lifstlye he is desscribing. Also tell him about vaporizors and ask him if he would be more open to the idea if you used those.

 

^ So we're going to take a leap from apologizing to flat out asking him to contribute? If his dad was mad in the first place, the idea of a vaporizer is definitely not going to relieve him.Besides, with weed there are safer ways to smoke it, but it really doesn't matter one way or the other.

 

Who said anything about asking him to contribute?

 

To the OP,

It sounds like you are lucky. (In a left handed way.) Because of your mom and dad's situation, he is thinking before taking action.

Just a couple of points, I think you should remember:
1) There is a good chance he's smoked more times than you have. (Not recently, but..)

2) In the long run, he is trying to help you. His goal is "a fine son", not to ruin your fun.

3) You don't have to agree with him, but the ability to calmly listen to something that you disagree with is considered by most parents as a sign of maturity.

4) Do you want to talk with your dad or practice deceiving him? Give him the kind of honesty and respect that you want from him. (Alternatives to this suggestion will appear in this thread.)

Good luck!

 

Practice deceiving him? What the fuck lol.

I meant everything I said except that I've smoked a little longer then I told him. I'll look over his letter again tonight, then talk to him about everything in it face to face.

 

I expressed myself poorly, some of the posters have said the equivilant of "say whatever will get him off your case". I disagree with that position.