Dad wants to me join the military..

Discussion in 'Men's Issues' started by MyImagination, Nov 7, 2009.

  1. MyImagination

    MyImagination Member

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    But I don't want to. He really wants to do ROTC in college but I think he just wants me to do it because our family is in a financial crisis and not really thinking about me serving 4 years in the military for something I DONT WANT TO DO. I need help.
     
  2. Psychedelic Rocker

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    Don't do it. It's simple.

    Talk to your mother. Talk to a relative.

    Talk to Grandma. Start there.

    Tell them you don't want to do it.
     
  3. Zorba The Grape

    Zorba The Grape Gavagai?

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    Don't do it. It'll be the biggest mistake of your life, especially if you don't want to do it. Even people who do want to are risking a lot, but if you don't even want to, don't. Your dad can't force you. A lot of people get guilted and end up agreeing to something like this because of one big scene -- don't. No matter how disappointed your dad is right now, at least you'll still be alive when he eventually comes around.

    EDIT: I'm assuming you're in the US, in which case joining the military means you'll likely see combat.
     
  4. LJDV

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    Well there are two sides to this coin. It's clear that you don't want to join the military, so then don't. They aren't very tolerant of people who make it apparent they don't want to be there. I've never served myself, but I've done extensive research into it, and plus my dad was in the military for my entire life until just recently, when he retired. I am 20.

    Then there's the other side of it. The military isn't all bad. They can provide money for your college tuition, and it looks excellent on job applications. Also, you just learn a lot from the discipline and structure. Depending on your aptitude, you may be able to obtain a high-paying job in the military itself.

    I'm not trying to sell the military to you, I'm just one for informed decisions. You probably already knew all that stuff, though. I, personally wouldn't completely disregard the possibility just to spite your dad. Maybe he just thinks it's what's best for you, even if he's wrong. Have you discussed your point of view with him?
     
  5. MaccaByrd

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    How any one of us feels about the matter (against!) here, it doesn't matter because you don't want to do it. And you don't have to.
     
  6. JeepGirl

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    If you don't want to serve in the military, don't sign up. You shouldn't sign up strictly due to financial reasons. Your father can't make you. Sure, they'll help pay for your education, if you survive. Like everything in life, it's a gamble. They can send you wherever they want, whenever they want. Once you sign on, you're at their mercy, to be used however they see fit. I see the updates of the number of bodies that are sent home every week. These are mostly young men and women. They haven't even had a chance to experience life yet. My heart aches for them and their families that will never get them back.

    You should live your life in persuit of what's in your heart. If you decide later you would like to serve, you can always sign up.

    For the record, I have former military men in my family. My brother, for one, served in the Air Force for 24 years. He was lucky, never put directly in the line of fire. He's now retired from the military and has a great paying job because of what he learned while serving. But there were plenty of moments his fate was in the hands of others. It was a gamble. But his heart was in it, fully. He loved what he did.

    Decide what road feels right for you, don't let someone else decide for you.
     
  7. Formertechno34

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    Do what YOU wanna do.
     
  8. MikeE

    MikeE Hip Forums Supporter HipForums Supporter

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    If your family can't afford to send you to college, its up to you, Mr. Adult, to pay for it.
    ROTC is one option for paying for college. If you don't like that option, choose another.
     
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    join the army, you fucking pussy...
     
  10. MyImagination

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    I'm not a pussy... :(
     
  11. LJDV

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    As a matter of fact, I almost joined the military myself last year. I was having no luck finding a job at the time, and it was like a last resort. I didn't want to go there either. In the end, I decided against it, even though the recruiters tried really hard to make it seem all honky dory, I knew it wasn't what I wanted to do. They gave me an pre-ASVAB aptitude test, called the EST. I scored in the top 13 percentile, which based on what they told me, made me eligible for 'stabilization'. They would pay for me to go to college, and I would not be at risk of deployment. However, the catch was, when I finished getting my college degree I would have to commit a number of years to being in the active military. There's always pluses and minuses to everything.
    :cheers2:
     
  12. Mother's Love

    Mother's Love Generalist

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    i scored a 96 on the ASVAB, and went in for electrical rating for the navy (FC for those who care) but never completed training. they sent me home due to medical stuff.

    if you join, its you who sign the papers, swear the oaths etc. and no contract should be signed nor oath sworn if you dont believe it is the right decision. if you dont want to go, dont. see what grants you can get for college. take a different path, but dont join the military if its not what you want.
     
  13. MaccaByrd

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    How's that bait taste? ;)
     
  14. MikeE

    MikeE Hip Forums Supporter HipForums Supporter

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    You say that the US could use more military and then give a quote that you don't believe in, in order to convince folks that you're right.

    Instead of the fable* that you quoted, could you share your reasons for wanting more military? It would be more convincing if you advanced reasons that you think are the truth.

    *fable-a fiction that teaches a lesson.
     
  15. largeamount

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    be careful i wouldnt join the military if i were you you could get killed or even worse held hostage by terrorists
     
  16. yellowcab

    yellowcab Fresh baked

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    Do what your heart tells you to do not what your dad wants,you are the one who is signing up not him.He wants what he thinks is best for you but you are the one that must decide what IS best for you.
     
  17. MaccaByrd

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    Which sector of the military are you in, out of curiosity...?
     
  18. paperairplane

    paperairplane Banned

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    dont join the military.. what if u kill somebody that would suck, all the wars this country gets involved in since WW2 are very questionable, they are not worth devoting even 2% of your life to, and 2% is a low guess. because you could die.

    but idk i feel this country has wronged me in many ways, and is very hypocritical, im a contiencious objector, im about peace, so im biased.. but seriously

    how are you gonna fight if your heart is not in it?
     
  19. paperairplane

    paperairplane Banned

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    do you live near a dock/the sea? or eat a lot of fish?
    you are a wise person, your ways are strange, but you are wise IANABIAP

    much love to all <3
     
  20. largeamount

    largeamount Senior Member

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    who are you talking to known of us attacked innocent people so please go away i hope your just really drunk because if not ur an idiot
     

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