Dates do's and dont's

I have no idea what i'm doing. I'm supposed to go on a date tonight to get to know this guy ive been talking to but havent met (he knows my friends). He's really sweet and cute and he's somewhat insecure which is insane but endearingly so because he's a knock out and he doesn't realise it. However i'm really shy and I have no idea what to say..or do on a date. I know I should just be myself but I get really nervous. I want it to work out.

 

Touch his penis, that'll break the ice.



But seriously, have fun and be yourself. Good luck

 

I know what you mean...


I am usually nervous too.
Its kinda wierd.

Sometimes when i see a really handsome guy i get really shy and then sometimes when i see a really handsome guy i am just talkative and i am not shy at alll......

Just like lunar said have fun and be yourself.... usually when i am being shy to break the ice i start talking about music and then especcially if that doesn't work then i start talking about something wierd...

 

but for real, touch it.

 

I have a friend we called touch it.

 

Have questions and things to say prepared beforehand. Just don't text message on a date, I hate that! It's one of my pet peeves.

 

Stay cool.......even if you're like this inside..:dizzy2:

 

Have fun and be yourself is probably the best advice.

This one is pretty obvious but, don't talk about your exes.
And stay on positive topics...
you don't want to end up on a subject that puts either of you in a bad mood.

 

Just be yourself. Once you get past the first awkward parts, I am sure you will forget how nervous you are

 

+1 for touch penis.

 

Its better to ask and answer questions... don't spill your life story, but answer questions truthfully. Ask him or her stuff to, like whats their interests, hobbies etc..etc..

Stay off politics.

Stay off wage earnings.

all to often opinions are formed based on those two things alone, and you don't really get to honestly know the person.

Religion is ok, but stay away from core fundamental beliefs. Always avoid bible talk. Example, saying your jewish and talking about the holidays you celebrate is fine. discussing the differences in religions isn't a good idea.

Don't bitch, nag or make fun of other people around you...unless they do something really stupid and everyone laughs.

Don't text anybody

Only answer "somebody better be dead calls" better to just turn off the phone

Stay relaxed and calm... don't get excited...unless you touch it!

Don't argue over who pays, let them pay if they want to...

Have fun and enjoy eachother.

getting naked most times breaks the ice...

 

^ I would disagree with all the rules of what to talk about.

The only thing I would say as far as what to talk about is 'start off light'.

Deep conversations are a really big turn on for me, and religion and politics can very well lead to them.
Maybe don't talk about religion and politics if you aren't one fo the people that can do it civilly.. but otherwise, no reason to avoid it.

I never got any reason to not be yourself. You're going to be yourself eventually if the relationship lasts -- why not just get it out of the way.

I would definitely agree with the phone rules.

 

stay confident and keep conversation positive.

ask him lots of questions about himself, in a genuine way. that way, if you are shy about yourself you can direct the focus onto him.

talking is not the only element. use your body language to your advantage. turn your body towards him so that he knows you're into the conversation.

eye contact, eye contact, eye contact.

also, good etiquette is important. don't be a slob; he's probably already got that one down to a tee.

 

Lorz's advice sounds solid.

 

Do something productive and physically active. Take a long walk. Do homework. Play a game.

 

Note to guys. This doesn't seem to work both ways.

Not that I'm an expert, this just perfectly describes my behaviour on a date once that didn't lead to anything!

 

God i feel for you, i absolutely hate first dates. I always try to center first dates around an activity of sorts so we're not just sitting at dinner staring awkwardly at our hands. but if you do go to dinner, think of topics to bring up beforehand so that your mind won't go blank as soon as you sit down.

 

within the first 15 minutes say the following ''If we end up having sex later dont worry because I have condoms''

 

Never call your date a rendonkulous biotch. Some women don't find this funny at all.

 

yep. and once this guy named hitler killed a whole bunch of jews, so obviously everybody in the world kills a whole bunch of jews.