Dating a guy with HIV...

So, this is obliviously kinda scary...

How many of you have HIV? How has it affected your dating life? What precautions do you take?

If it goes as far as condom time, those measures will be taken. But have any of you dated a person HIV positive?
What was it like?

 

I wouldn't touch anyone with HIV with a 10 foot pole.

 

ditto

friends..no problem


dating?...no way

 

It's doesn't bother me. I'm a hair stylist. My profession makes me touch people with lots of diseases.

You'd be suprised on how many people have HIV that you don't even know could have it....

 

I often question my advances on advice in these forums these days...

 

Damn.... I could be friends.... I don't think I could share pipes and the like... nothing against them, what if them/someone else bit their tongue or whatever?

To be bunt, you better REALLY like em', cause to be even sort of intimate with someone with HIV, you have to accept that you may get HIV. And just the fact that they have HIV USUALLY (of course not always, bad things happen to good people) means that they're not going to stick around that long anyway..... so.... HIV's forever, your bf/gf probly isn't.

 

Touching a customer's hair is different than getting their bodily fluids in you.

And you're right, I may know people who have it and I don't know about it. The difference is that I'm not dating anyone with it, and if I was, I'd gtfo. HIV is something you don't want to risk contracting.

But it's up to you, I'm just saying be careful.

 

not touching with a ten foot pole, or even not sharing a pipe is a bit ridiculous.
but seriously, if you aren't in complete love with him and/or planning on living with him forever, don't get sexually involved. a very few times would be fine actually. but as far as a relationship, it's pretty much a dead end.

 

Umm hun a condom doesn't protect you from getting HIV, he'd have to be wearing a full body suit condom to keep it from spreading.

I wouldn't date him, to me its like a ticking time bomb.

 

Ok, I have not been in this position ever. If I were to meet a man who was HIV positive and I wanted to have a relationship with him there are certain things I would probably do.

I would insist on a vaginal dam if we were intimate.

I would be tested regularly.

I would not take a risk that was stupid, after the fact.....as in not protecting myself.

I would want his full history.

I would need to know that he is doing all he can to be healthy.

You do not always choose who you are going to love, but you do choose what you do with that.

I would not necessarily turn away from someone with that condition, or heart disease, or cancer or.......... but if they are not looking after themselves, then yes I would.

 

...lack of knowledge.
HIV can only be transmitted through intercourse, blood, and through the mother's womb.

 

I see that you're trying to say that you're open to possibilities, but last time I checked someone with heart disease or cancer can't pass it on to you.

 

I have read all posts in this thread and I hope that none of you ever have a serious health issue and then will you be forced to face that alone, or will you be fortunate enough to have someone just love you enough to see you through the most difficult time anyone could face. Someone to love you enough to do so.

Love and light
Heat

 

I'm actually taking a pathology class and this came straight from the doctors mouth. There is still bodily fluids exchanged, a condom cannot fully protect anyone from HIV. It can reduce the risk but isn't a fool proof answer.

 

No someone with those conditions would obviously not pass those on, but would the experience of that be any less devastating to someone that loves them.

The whole fear and paranoia of HIV is controllable. In that there are safe guards. Not fool proof but nothing is.

I could have a relationship with someone and years later they are diagnosed as their immune system crashes and it is found. What is the difference in the end. Nothing. I would of been exposed and him without the knowledge.

I really thought about the original post before I replied and said if I loved someone.....what would I do. I love them in spite of the HIV. Then how would I counter that.

People today with HIV live long lives and treatments work.

Fear from others, ruin their lives. Not HIV.

 

That isn't the point of this thread. She asked for an opinion. I honestly couldn't be with someone how has HIV/AIDS. I want children and that isn't possible to do without risking the health of the child. I couldn't do it, if she can then that makes her a strong women. It'd always be on my mind.

If it was something else that may be terminal, I'd have to seriously think about it. To me it'd be hard to fall in love with someone knowing that they'd most likely die in a certain time frame. But I'm not sure it'd keep me from them.

I think its wrong for you to judge anyone because they don't want to be with someone how is HIV positive.

 

I am not judging you....you did that.

 

I didn't say me I said "anyone"

 

The only fool proof thing is abstinence. So if one wants to try that forever, then all the power to you. But the consequences of having sex don't seem worth it. Not only can you contract HIV but if you get pregnant than your child could be born with it. If you want to mess up your own life, it's all personal choice but it's different when a potential child is at stake.

 

My apology.I did in no way mean to single you out.

I will take your post then and ask you what would you do then if the person you are with and want children with ends up being infertile. Would you then just leave or would you find another way around that if you both wanted children.

What if the person you are with is involved in an accident and they are somehow incapacitated in a way that matters, would you be there or would you say I did not sign on for that.

What if the person you are with ends up terminal are you going to just be able to walk.

It is all relative. If you care about someone then you work with it. You will find a way if they matter to you.

This is not a personal response against you or your opinions, instead it a starting point of thinking.........what if.

There are many times in life we hit what if......



I meant no disrespect to you.