Did you get a graduation present from your parents?

Well, BSR, read my post above yours...I did ask for a little help and I got a big fat "no"...

I do try and look at things in the perspective that this makes me a better person, but I don't know, it'd be nice to get a little help every once in awhile...I'm not too proud to ask...I just don't really NEED anything...and I don't usually ask for anything unless I really NEED it. I don't really need the laptop, but I do like online banking, especially since I will be on an island and banks aren't really readily available...and I can't go to the mainland very often since it costs 50 bucks round trip...

I don't know...

 

Yeah, I wrote that before your post showed up, so there goes my point...

 

that really sucks that they just give her stuff, and you only asked for half the money for the laptop. But what i agreed with is that you do have more independence and when you leave, you can stand on your own 2 feet. Your sister will be coming back home alot for a place to stay.

 

i got a guitar...

 

Have you ever pointed this out to your dad, DancerAnnie?

 

I know my family is doing her a disservice by giving her everything...my brother is a mess thanks to my family giving him everything, and I can see her heading in the same direction.

I like doing stuff for myself, it makes me feel accomplished and proud...feeling self sufficient makes me feel good about myself.

Do you know what she said when I told her that my dad didn't give me anything for either of my graduations?

"Well, you should have thrown a fit like I'm going to if I don't get that Mustang." I just sort of looked at her and said, "You're the biggest spoiled brat I know."

She just smiled and shrugged, "I know."

Ugh, irks me...and makes me feel a little sick.

 

she cant throw fits through life, so you have the upper card.

 

He denies treating us differently and denies that I don't get anything from him and denies that I do everything around the house...

Basically, he's in denial.

My theory is that he's getting social security money from my mom's death for my sister still because she's under 18, so by keeping her in the house and keeping her happy it brings in money...as sick as that sounds...I think it just might be true.

He knows that my sister is a brat...but figures it's too far gone for him to do anything about it. He's told me that before. AND he feels sorry for her (just like everyone else in my family) because my sister was 9 when my mom died...

Somehow he doesn't feel sorry for me...not that I want him to and not that he needs to...but I lost my mom too...so...you know...it is what it is...

I just can't believe he's going to buy her a 30,000 dollar car...after already buying her a brand new Ford Escape just a year ago.

 

It might honestly be they think you are more competent and arent really conscious of the different ways they treat their kids

 

hmm that's odd. You would think your dad would want to make you feel spoiled the last week you live there. Do you think he said no because he does not want you to go to Catalina?

My family is being freaking weird with me moving to Nevada. At first it was these crazy shopping sprees and checks from my grandparents and now it's threats that I can't come home and 'have things be the same way they are now'. They go from crying that they will miss me and talking about stories from when I was like 3 to ignoring me completley to my mom actually trying to be a parent 25 years later.

 

Yeah, fat chance...I'm sure he'll be happy to have me out of the house...of course, I don't know what he'll do when he comes home everyday and the house is a complete disaster and my sister is sitting on her ass doing nothing all day.

*shrugs* parents are weird.

 

I hate to sound mean...but I think all of this agravation will be so worth it when you see this situation play it's self out. Your sister is going to have a rude awakening.

 

Nah, you don't sound mean...and yes, she'll have a rude awakening...if my family stops doing for her, that is...

Which is not likely to happen...she is a great manipulator...I've never been good at manipulating people, mostly because I don't get any practice...nor do I really want to manipulate anyone...

Someday though...maybe she'll see..

 

i got a laptop and a piec eof luggage (laptop hidden in the luggage... my parents joked about buying me luggage for grad to kick me out with)
i also got some dishes and housey stuff from my grandma, but thats because i was planning on moving out like two months after HS grad. i expect something for my university grad too, because my family i slike that... im an only child, my grandparents only grandkid and my grandma loves buying people things. i try to not take advantage of it for big things or antyhing though.. i really neede dthe dishes and she told me she found them on sale id ont know what ill get when i graduate university, but honestly id like some money i could set aside to grow for me (invest or bonds or something) so i can access it in 5-10 years... 5ish maybe when i plan on buying a house i f i can, or 10 when i move back to this provine and buy a house then... who knows


anyway. it sounds like there are some crazy double standards at your place. your sister is a nasty spoilt princess and pouting will get her her way. its obviously a tactic that works on your father, whereas observing hard work and deservedness, well, doesnt for him. so you can either a) learn to accept the situation or b) practice princess behaviour around him til you get what you want

 

how frustrating. i hear about this stuff so much from other families. i am soooo glad i don't have siblings like that, except the littlest who is 6. and i think (hope) she'll grow out of it. my parents have helped me out a lot in the past year by paying for my and my brother's rent and car insurance. before that there wasn't much help at all, except moral. they just wanted to keep me from running away to canada so they gave me an offer i couldn't refuse... i feel a little spoiled now honestly. and to be honest it feels pretty damn good.

and for HS graduation i got some stuff from my dad, who is normally very financially irresposible.. he gave me a stereo and a ring... i think the ring was just costume jewelry though.. it looked like it. and i had a little bbq in the backyard. i don't think i'm getting anything for college graduation, which i don't want anything anyway because of all the help they've been giving me.

unfortunately i see spoiled brats get their way a lot throughout their whole lives. maybe the families get sick of it until they feel obligated (when the brats get old) but businesses tend to cater to those types of ppl. big fits thrown by customers are bad for business... it sucks. makes me want to throw shit sometimes.

 

I got a laptop when I graduated from high school. I didn't get a present when I finished uni, though that was only this summer and I've not seen my parents in months. They paid for my uni tuition fees and that's more than enough, I'm so grateful for that.

 

My parents bought me a suitcase. I moved back to Mass after graduation. They also sent me money for a car which my Dad ended up driving back home with my suitcase in the trunk. lol They came and got me.

 

Your sister is going to have a heck of a time dealing with situations on her own where as for you because you've earned what you have, worked for it, your perspective is stronger. You have something inside yourself she doesn't have. Even though it would be nice to be handed things now and again the way you deal with a situation is much greater than someone who has been handed everything.

 

I didn't get a high school graduation gift. At the time I was helping to build my parents house.........But I get great gifts for good grades. hahaha My mom told me that she bought me stuff not to bribe me, but that she knows she stresses me out every semester.

I'm an only child, and I know I'm spoiled rotten. My dad bought me a car for my 16th birthday. He told me that it was in hopes that I would start driving. Oh and the car is a money pit for me. hahaha

 

That is just wrong