Do men really want sex 24/7? I'd argue with that.

Hello. My question or problem is : I dated a guy (27 y.o), my sex drive was much higher than his. We broke up for reasons other than sex, and now I am dating a great guy (31 y.o) and same problem again My sex drive is much higher. When I have feelings for a man I want him all the time. I never had sex on the first date, I usually wait for a month or more. But when I am in a relationship, I want sex all the time (more often than my b/f) Is that normal? I am not a sex maniac. I am 24, doing M.A., working as an interpreter, running business part-time. Please share your experiences.
Elena

 

Like the woman, it just depends. Some men are constant horndogs and some women are too. Men tend to be just more outward about it becuase we are looked up to for having lots of sex and women are looked down upon for having lots of sex but we know we want woman to have lots of sex so its like a social idiotic thing. Well if I hook up again sometime I hope I find a person with your drive, lol and may you have many happy nights, days ect. Find out what it is that a man can take to drive up his drive, lol

 

YO - I did have that drive and a woman to match - we were pretty evenly matched - except she mentally/emotionally wore me down - we'd have alot of arguments about heavy shit - jealousy,her kids,drugs,drink,music - in fact we argued quite alot but with it went this mad totally uncensored hardcore sex - for the first 3 years - it was full on - all the time - everywhere - anyplace or situation that was new - where we'd never done it - public places - all sorts - bondage - roll playing - we'd take it in turns to be in control - we'd go out in all kinds of weather - she'd try things she'd always wanted to try ... sometimes it wasn't nice... sometimes.... it was just right ... and we held some crazy parties - ......but it just kind of burned out in the end.It's like we were on a one way road - there was no going back - we pushed the boundaries all the time - and it would ultimately result in either: insanity or disaster.It resulted in both.... So - don't go down that road...! Don't regret any of it though - just feel a bit old before my time...

 

Yes, it is normal. But you might want to respect his boundaries and limits and get yourself off on your own at times.

Keep in mind that a low sex drive could also be an indicator for stress levels, and perhaps he's genuinely not interested in shagging you whenever you both are together. Be careful of burnout, as paddler mentioned.

 

yeah, I sometimes feel like my drive is a bit higher than another persons... but it usually stems from stress. Sometimes I get stressed out and all I want to do is fuck, and sometimes he gets stressed and it just doesn't cross his mind as often as normal...

 

Yeah, stress is DEFINITELY a factor. My husband's drive was insatiable to me, until recently. I became a bit more sexual, and now I think I may even be wearing him out!

Stress will kill sex drive. Have you two talked about this at all? What is his take on things?

 

I tend to get bored of sleeping with the same person. The novelty wears off.

Maybe thats why I'm bad at relationships.

 

Yes, we did. As I said the guy before the one I am dating now, wanted to hang out with his friends all the time (he even liked to bring me with him), but he rarely wanted sex. When we broke up, he said he was thinking about sex all the time. Go figure!
The guy I am dating now- he wants it, may be 3 times a week. I don't know if it is normal or abnormal, but my problem is that I want it way more often. I do not want to "fuck" every man....just the man I am with

 

As Adam puts it, I am permanently "ON." That may have more to do with being bipolar than anything, although when I am depressed I don't want to do too much, including sex. It works for us, though. We do it daily; however, somedays I could do three times. The problem is that we wear each other out!

Peace and love

 

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it depends on the person.
i know guys who have never slept with anyone and don't even think about it as something they would like to do. (yes, i hang out with really weird people). On the other hand... I have a friend that it literary adicted to sex. She just has to do it.
But i think that girls are more into it than guys. at least the ones i know.

 

I can relate to what you say Elena. I'm such a nympho.

 

We all go through phases, affected by different factors.

However to answer your question i think guys like to think they want sex 24/7 but in reality i dont think they can manage it!

No way.

 

I used to be 24/7, now I work, and study, and run a house, it kind of takes a back seat to the rest of my life.

 

I'd say they want it 24 x 7 until they get it. Once they get it, I think they still want it, but they won't be as vocal about it for a while.

But I would say most guys in relationships wouldn't turn down sex with their honey if the opportunity was there.

 

well at least some of us want it 24/7.....i usually like 1 or 2 times a day sometimes 3....that was one of the main issues that ended my last relationship tho....

 

That's sad.

 

yeah it is....

 

awww... Was it that bad? Were there other things involved or just a lack of sexual activity?

 

I would say I am not like most typical guys. I have to be in a relationship where I feel safe and secure to want to have sex all the time. If things are good in a relationship, I'll want to make love to her several times a day. If they are bad, than I don't desire it at all.