Do you have a Living Will? I don't have one at this moment but we are working on putting one together. When we sat down to discuss some of the things we want included in our Will I became depressed. I have a hard time thinking of the worst.
I don't like thinking about it either, but me and my partner have talked about it and agreed what we would like. It's just the writing it down that seems so final and scary. One day soon.... Honestly.
No, but my family and my partner know my wishes. We are working up to getting one offically done, but we haven't yet. I highly doubt I would ever end up in a battle like Terri Shiavo's.......my family has been through enough deaths that I've seen how it's handled. My grandmother died in September after starving herself to death. She was alert and knew us, but had early stages of Alzheimer's.....she simply didn't want to eat anymore, and she never complained of pain. We didn't try to force a feeding tube on her, she would not have wanted that. Her official cause of death was dehydration. When my great-grandmother died 10 years ago, her Alzheimer's was so advanced she was bedridden and didn't communicate anymore. She died of gangrene, rather than cut off the leg of a 90 year old vegetable. She had plenty of morphine.
My mother and I have discussed what I want done if something should happen in the next...5 or 10 years...before I get married or have children... The thing that I really made sure she knew was what I wanted done if I were in a coma...and the fact that I want all of my internet friends notified if I were to die...I would want her to post in this forum and send email to all of my friends...I would hate to think that they think I just fell off the face of the planet or something...I'm so addicted...
I dont have a will because I have nothing to give or anything.. But it i should die anytime soon, Im taken my stuff with me
Nope... I own nothing.. and My mother and boyfriend know how I feel about things... I would hope that they would respect my wished if something happened.
Don't have it written down either, since I'm single & have no family but my mom, I think it's enough to just talk about it with her... we did that, before and now again with Terri being in the news and all... There are no others in my life who might have any power to decide stuff like this. If there would come anyone in my life, and especially if there'd be different religions involved, I think I will write it down just in case.
My brother and I both have them, we did them about a year ago. We have the whole shebang...power of attorney in case of mental deficiency, the other one that allows to make "pulling the plug" decisions... we did it all. I even signed a paper stating that I want to be cremated as opposed to being buried as a person. These things are SO important to do, especially if your family situation becomes complicated the way my family's situation has. Simply talking about it isn't enough... even if you can't imagine your family having a battle about it, you never know what happens down the road. People's emotions get in the way, and suddenly everyone "forgets" what you wanted. Write it down, make it legal...give a copy to your lawyer, put a copy in a safe deposit box (or safe in your home if you have one) and make sure people know where it is.
I know what you mean Peanuts. I have a very, very difficult time when it comes to the thought of dying. I am completely terrified. I was always afraid, but when I came so close to dying the day after I gave birth to my twins, it really scared me. I have nightmares about it. I wish that I could come to terms with the fact that hey, everyone is going some day, but I just can't. It's too depressing, too heart-wrenching, and I'd rather focus on the now. When I think about my grandmother, my mother, my father...they're not getting any younger. I don't know what I'll do when their time comes. I can't even think about it too much or I'll get myself all worked up. Anyway, no, I don't have a Living Will. I know it should be done, but, *shudders* I just can't seem to face doing that right now.
i just realized that only 3 or 4 people in this thread actually list where they live instead of some obscure statement in that space.
What I don't understand is how everyone is always saying, "we don't want to talk about that" or "I don't like to think about that" or "it makes me depressed". I've heard that all over the news and everything and I totally don't get it. I am someone who is always deeply hurt when someone dies but I have no problem thinking about the fact that I am going to die eventually and it is better to be prepared than to just put it off because it's sad...I don't get it.
