Either. I'm happily married but I still think about my first crush (and then gf). Sadly we lost touch.
I think about my first true love from time to time. I haven't spoken to her in many years, and there are some unanswered questions. I'd like to talk to her and work things out if that ever was possible. I don't want to go out with her again since, unfortunately, she and I are quite compatible as romantic partners. I just think it would be nice to have her in my life again, this time as a friend.
In my mid twenties I met her. The love of my life at that time. I never felt that way about anyone. 2 1/2 years we were together and then it ended. Heard she got married and it crushed me. Thought about her practically everyday for years. Had no contact for twenty years then one day she contacted me. Divorced and remarried. Facebook friend now but that's it. She is no longer the girl I fell in love with. I still think about her sometimes though as I knew her when we were together. Man oh man you never get that feeling again. I guess it's like a drug addict always chasing that first high. I dated many girls since her including my current wife but none compare to the rush of my first love. I think I'm still in love with the memory of her.
I'm not sure I've really been in love. I do think about my 3rd boyfriend a lot. We had great sex, and I always admired how smart he was. Recently we got in touch after nearly 30 years. For a month or so, we texted and talked on the phone. And then he suddenly just stopped. I'm still wondering why.....
I'm with my first love, can I still play with yins? I think about my first crushes and wish I could meet them..
My first love was in high school. We never dated but we were the best of friends. After graduation, we both went through bad break ups and got much closer as friends. After about a year he told me he was enlisting in the marines. The first and only time I ever kissed him was 2 days before he got deployed. He came home in a body bag 7 months later. I have never and will never love as deeply as I did with him. Although I love my husband deeply, my love for Matt was something much different and much more pure than any love I'll ever feel for the rest of my life.
No to both questions! I don't even think about my ex wife who I was married to for 16 years. The only one I ever have on my mind is the one I am with now. The rest mean nothing anymore. Not much of a live in the past kind of person.
I still think of my first female friend sometimes & wonder where she lives now & what if she's - married / single & what she may look like now. She was a very cute blonde. She was 5 when we met & she moved to another part of the country before she turned 7. But there are ways for me to track her down now but thats a 50/50 chance some others from my school days may know her whereabouts etc.
Honestly, I never think about my first love. That was many years ago, and the present/future is all that concerns me. But I do remember how cruelly she dumped me. So if by chance I ever saw her again, part of me would want sooo much to enact some equally cruel revenge on her :devil:. But the larger (more mature) part of me just doesn't even care enough.
I do think about my first love. She is one of five or six forming experiences for me. Or seven...or eight. Or nine. She did stalk me for about a decade, but I always avoided meeting her. At some point she said she only wanted to meet for coffee, but whatever curiosity I might have had, was offset by the fact that I am simply a very different person from the one she met. Since she was my first, I got the twu wub jitters and thought she was the one, blah blah. Now, putting her in perspective among everyone else I had feelings for, she does not seem like someone I'd have more than occasional sex with. She was pretty good in bed, though. Squirted, swallowed, the whole bit. I don't remember whether we did anal. ---------------- Edit: She's a New Agey liberal and stuff (like I was when I met her), last I checked, so we'd have pretty intense disagreements.