Well there's this guy who says he's straight. He dates girls a lot. He's dating the new girl. She's a cheerleader. She comes originally from sweden. She's gorgeously beautiful. And well endowed. Anyway he usually dates these modellike beauties. He's more a jock. I think he's the hottest black guy I've ever met and I'm very attracted to black guys. Anyway starting this year, we became friends. I have had a crush on him for years. I'm a freshman. He's a junior. I'm not a jock just eyecandy for the girls really because I look a lot older blonde hair blue eyes look more like 20 or 21 instead of a 14 year old high school student and not so childish like my peer 14 year old peer. I don't even like girls my age. They're way too young imo. But I'm a total loner. I can do well at sports when I want to. I just am not that type of person. I don't have all that many friends but I don't get picked on. Well anyway we became friends and we started going over each other's houses. And well in November he's a good guy I guess hadn't even done anything before me and anyway we got high and we were at his place in his room and he kissed me and it was like for 3 minutes. He said he liked it that I was a good kisser. I thought he was just high. But later he said I was one of his best kisses and that he had a great time that night. Also he called me sexy on new year's party. I like him and am attracted to him I have just had a lot of bad things happen to me with guys. Anyway does it seem he likes me?
Duh. If what you say is true, he kissed you and said you were sexy. What more evidence do you need that he is attracted to you? Are you unsure of his attraction or threatened by the Swedish babe? Psht. I`d be having the most whoring threesome ever heard of by now. :biggrin: Edit: Sorry about my sig, it was sheer coincidence. :smilielol5:
not dead serious though. And he always says he's straight and talks about his enthusiasm in his gf. So to me I'm confused. He seems to be really his gf. As usual.
no I'm actually fine with being his friend. Just being around him I love him no matter our relationship really.
well, yes, it would seem he does like you, but without knowing either of you well, it is hard, impossible infact, to gauge in what way he likes you... i'd be very cautious if you have any expectations of him... sounds like you could have a lot of fun though hold up... you are 14? i only just noticed that... how old is he? (i'm from across the pond so i don't know how old a junior is)...
I'm from Bradford. I'm not originally american either. But he's 20. He's a junior in college. I'm not really sure what I even want kind of confusing.
my instinct is telling me that you could well be hurt in this scenario... you say you are a loner... maybe think about getting involved in outside interests where you'd get a chance to interact with more mature people?... what kinds of things do you enjoy doing? (apart from snogging older guys )
i just read another thread of yours justme1119... i must confess that it did occur to me, reading your words that you had been sexually abused in your childhood... if you are going to experiment sexually, i would recommend that you keep it to people your own age and make it non-penetrative sex... having said that, it could be safer to masturbate shit loads instead... however, having been sexually awakened you may find you want to take it further than masturbation... you stated that you like to suck cock and that that is all you want to do with males anyway... so, don't let anyone persuade you otherwise or coerce you into it... allowing others to persuade or coerce IS a result of the sexual abuse that unfortunately happened to you as a kid imo... my advice is to get yourself out there doing things that interest you... let your sexual life grow slowly.... there is no rush... you have bags of time... i don't feel i've said all i wanted to say to you, but it's nearly 2am and i'm knackered... btw, the advice you got from Leviathan was very good advice imo... (but i am a little confused as to why they would both say you shouldn't link the sexual abuse as a child to any further abuse you experience in your life, if any more does occur)... talk more soon i hope :daisy:
some passed mistakes I've made I've realized I didn't repeat them. It was good advice he gave. But staying to my age is kind of odd. People think we don't like match since I look so old. I know now I have boundaries and never to put myself in a situation where I'm that vulnerable. I don't particularly like blaming my passed for everything even though I do think it has something to do with my life now. But maybe it isn't a good idea with this guy. He just makes me feel great I guess maybe I'm just desperate idk.
i think it is as you said, that you are very fixated on sucking cock because of what happened to you earlier in life... this guy has made it pretty clear that he has a gf and intends to stay with her, or a woman atleast... and you have said that you love him, and that you feel good around him... i think maybe you are setting yourself up for a disappointment... you will probably always like to suck cock, and there is nothing wrong with that at all, but, you said yourself, you have a much more loving experience with women... ask yourself what that is about?
sorry i couldn't finish earlier... to continue... your post asks "do you think he likes me?" well, sexually, i would say he likes you, yes, but that doesn't mean to say that he has your best interests at heart... the fact that he is messing with someone (you) who is obviously a little confused and, more to the point, you are 14 years old, sex with you is illegal, and he KNOWS this, means that he is taking advantage of you... i personally think there should be a change in the law regarding sexual consent, but that doesn't alter the fact that it is currently illegal for him to engage in sex with you... i'm not sure if that just means penetrative sex or not, that is something you might want to check for yourself... so my answer is, yes, he fancies you, but, no, he doesn't really care about you... if he did, he would wait for you... he would be a real friend... i'm not saying that he is a bad person, (although he could be, i don't know him) but rather, he is making sure he gets his needs met, without consideration to you... he is probably bi-sexual or bi-curious but is not able to come out about it... hope that helps...
what it's about? That's just how I am. But more of a reason why I'm skeptical. He's pretty great to me but just as a friend I guess I realize that. I'm not sure though if I'm ok with that. Like you get a little connected more than just friends even if I know he's into her. Idk maybe I'll just wait it out and see if it persist what then idk...
btw it isn't illegal really since medically my bone age isn't of a 14 year old.. Therefore though it may be illegal it's the way my life is thanks for your posts were really helpful.
^^^ legally, that means nothing... if you continue with this "friendship" (although after getting more facts from you, i wouldn't call it a friendship at all), and a sexual relationship is formed, then someone could end up on a sex-offenders register and there is also the strong possibility of a prison sentence...
