Does it make you mad?

When you think of the past and times you were taken advantage of?
I would love to pretend to relate all bad choices to learning experiences, but the truth is, I get upset a lot. I don't know if I'm upset at the bad choices I made, or others takign advantage of those bad choices.

 

I used to. But, after getting sober I look at them mostly as life lessons and necessary to get to where I am today.

 

I try and not think past a minute ago

 

At my age that's easy.

 

I need to get sober. I liek to try and trick myself into thinking pot's nto a real drug, but I know it is. It keeps me from feeling. It keeps me from being angry and dealing with things.

 

:rofl:

 

No.

And you shouldn't go around blaming others for shit that happens, even if they are to blame.

 

not usually. there are a couple events in the past that i'm still kind of bitter about, but mostly because i know that i could have prevented them if i had seen them coming.

and i rarely think about it anyway, so it really doesn't effect my current life much.

for the most part, i'm satisfied with where i am right now, so i can't be too upset with what brought me here.

 

I was serious.

 

what about times you were mean to others or stupid choices you made? Sometimes I let those eat me too. Or how I acted when I had my xanax problem. The sugar daddies, the stealing clothes (I also had money and bought stuff when I stole clothes, so I can;t even say it's because I needed anything), the bad desicisions in staying with people logner than I should have. Putting myself in situations I knew would be unhealthy.
Sometimes, I have a REALLY HARD TIME FORGIVING MYSELF

 

Really? Give me an example.

 

Lynsey, if you keep one foot in yesterday and one foot in tomorrow you end up shitting on today. Stay in the present. Don't forget the past, but don't dwell on it. Use your past mistakes as your greatest asset not your biggest negative.

 

haha, i love it!

 

I know that's true. I know it, but it's hard to live it.

 

Like anything it takes practice.

 

and that was funny. I need a bubble bath. I'm goign to take one when I'm done with this load of laundry.
Today is just one of those days where I want to go back to bed.

 

:cheers2:

 

That's a good point. What self-soothing skills did you develop after you quit everything? I need to develpp some coping mechanisims. I have a hard time enjoying things while sober because all I can do is think abotu the past and the PTSD.

 

I forgive rather easily....myself...and others...I'm really glad I started doing that too...it makes life alot easier

 

You say people have taken advantage of you. Everyone has had shit happen to them, but all you can do is learn from that. If you keep letting people take advantage of you, it's on you.

And if you go around blaming other people for things that happened in the past, and let it anger you, you're not going to be very happy. Resentment won't do you any favors.

So, you shouldn't blame others for the shit that's gone down, because you were at least partially accountable, and it's over now, so move on and let go of your anger. Live, learn, and be happy.