Does This Mean I'm Gay?

Please bear with me here, because I'm pretty confused! I'm a 28 year old male, I consider myself straight. I am attracted to women in every way possible. The reason I say "every way possible" is because I am not attracted to men romantically or emotionally.

However, for the past several years, I occasionally fantasize about doing sexual things with men. I look at gay porn and things like that. Sometimes it is a turn on, sometimes it's not so much. I can be very picky about it, but I also sometimes get the urge to act out on it.

I just don't know if it's something I SHOULD act out on. It's gotten as far as me talking to men online, who live nearby, even on the phone a few times, but I was never able to take the next step. I can never see myself in a romantic/loving/emotionally invested sort of relationship with another man, because that is not how I feel at all.

But sometimes, I wonder if I'm attracted sexually to some men. And it's not even in the same way I'm attracted to women. I don't look at men and think "he's hot!" or anything like that. It's very hard to explain, but it's in a totally sexual way, nothing more than that. And as far as looking at most men, I'm not even attracted to them! It's so weird.

My "taste" (for lack of a better word) in them is VERY picky. I just don't know what to do. Does this mean I'm gay? Does this mean I should try to do something sexual with another man? Or is it something I'll regret, and just some weird fantasy? I'm not sure how to figure it all out.

 

Whatever it all means. You are attracted to guys.
But you figured that out already.

 

Thank You For Consulting With Dr GLEN....

His Diagnosis Is That You Are" Bi-Curious" ..

My Bill Is In Da Mail....

Have A Nice Day....


Cheers Glen.

 

Like the other guys have said you could call it bi curious. However I wouldn't call it anything yet. Look, what you're experencing is not uncommon. There are a lot of men who are attracted to other males purely for the potential of sexual pleasure/satisfaction. I have to confess that when I was younger, one of the attractions about Gay sex was the joy and freedom of just blissfully fucking each other silly without any expectations of "love". Sex is a great way to experience pleasure and one man knows just exactly how to please another man. I mean, they've both got the same parts. I know what feels best to my dick, I can give that pleasure knowing how it will feel for another guy. Sex purely for pleasure, no strings attached. Fuck buddies weren't always considered a bad thing. Guys might know each other solely because they enjoyed each others bodies. They didn't need to consider marriage, a cottage, trips to the theatre...just get together and fuck each other blind and weak-kneed and then stagger off grinning.

I say don't call it anything yet because it only exists in your mind as a possibility. If you get to the actual experience of having sex with another guy then figure it out.

 

Yeah, don't try to label yourself.

Like most guys you are capable of having sex with either gender and maybe like some with other species.

What you do for sexual enjoyment doesn't even have to fit your sexual identity. Guys thrown together with nothing but other guys have been having sex with each other since forever. It's just sex - enjoy it.

 

I don't know about the rest of it, but porn doesn't count. Porn is a whole other universe. I've been as near to 100% gay as possible my whole life, but I don't enjoy gay porn even slightly. Tend to prefer hetero porn where the guy is more dominant. It's apparently not that uncommon either.

Point being, I wouldn't read too much into it. Whether you're attracted to men or not, you don't ever have to choose a sexual orientation if you don't want to. Experiment if you feel like it, but if watching porn or having the odd fantasy is as far as you want to go with it, you needn't let societal expectation push you any further than you want to go.

I'd also add that it's not that weird for hetero guys to have an appreciation for male attractiveness. Women have the same, and I wonder if the reason there seem to be way more admitted bisexual women has more to do with them misreading their admiration than with a broader sexual orientation towards women.

 

No. You're not gay, you want relationships with girls.

 

You got the full blown gay.

Well I dunno. But theres only one way to find out.

I mean
A) If your attracted to some dudes
and
B) enjoy objects being put in your anus

then it might be worth trying

thats just dirty.

 

your look gay porn?

 

You have to get right in your head before you can enjoy any kind of sex.

If you can bring yourself to be comfortable with gay sex, then you will enjoy it. If you are more comfortable with hetero sex, then you will enjoy that more.

It really is that simple.

 

Do you ever think about guys when you jack off?

Yes?

Then you're not straight

 

Bi men make the best lovers And I don't have to convince them to let me fuck them with my strap-on, usually.