Does your family know that you are gay?

I don't think that I can ever come out to my family. I have had several relationships with other males, but my family thinks that my female friends are my girlfriends. I don't tell them either way, they just assume. Although I am openly gay with my friends, I don't know if I can ever come out to my family, they would probably never speak to me again. Has anyone felt the same way and ended up coming out anyway?

 

My family knows....my parents dont discuss it....Matt knows...and is friends with my ex girlfriends...my kids know...and they could care less..

 

Nobody in my family knows, and they won't for a long time, if ever.

 

From what I've read, your husband and children seem like really loving, well-balanced and all together wonderful people. How are your parents? Did it take you a while to come out to them?

 

My parents don't know, but I'll definitely tell them by the end of high school, quite possibly before I finish sophomore year...

My sister knows I'm gay, my brother thinks I'm bisexual. I told him that back when that was what I identified myself as, and he said "Well at least you're not a complete homosexual - that would take a few more drinks". So I don't particularly feel the need to elaborate any further to him, now that I refer to myself as gay: as long as he knows I'm attracted to men that's enough, I think.

 

How do you think your parents will react?

 

They'll probably be fairly unhappy about it at first, I doubt there will be any intense arguing or yelling or anything though...they're not particularly homophobic, per se, but they definitely have a very "us and them" attitude, as if gay people live on another planet sorta. No matter how blatantly, stereotypically gay I could act, they would be shocked no matter what.

 

Well, most parents would be.

I'm straight myself but I can imagine my parents reactions if I wasn't.

Dad: ":cuss:"

Mom: ":lol:"

 

my mom knows,(that i like girls) she was pretty cool about it,shes not homophobic. but then again my mom works at a theatre
i told my aunt(who i live with) and i regret it , she didnt yell or any shit, she just acted like i was doing it to try and upset her,like why would you say that ?
she was like ''well sometimes you like something, but that doesnt mean thats what you are'' like i was a kid and i'd grow out of it

 

ugh. I hate that...its the last thing a lgbt teen needs to hear!

 

I told my mom first...and she just laughed and said that already knew...because I wasnt BOY CRAZY like the other girls..and that I was only bringing girls home.
My Dad was scared I wasnt going to ever have kids....but he still lovedme...Ive always been a daddies girl.

 

my family will never know, I don't think.
I remember one day in jr high, I wrote a letter to a friend of mine to tell her that I was bi and my mom went through my purse and found it and read it out loud. I was so embarassed when she did that, especially when she shook it in my face and yelled, "what the HELL is this!?!?!?!?!" She freaked, to say the least. When that happened, I just denied it and said that I wrote it a long time ago, forgot about it and it was just a faze. I just don't want to go back there again. My mom is one of those people who are overlly conservative and two-faced. Someone you would never want to know ANYTHING about you. My dad on the other hand, he and that side of my family just make fun of anyone not like them. It would be a waste of time and energy to tell them anything. So far, I am content with me and my hubby knowing, I just wish I could tell more people. I'm SOOOOO afraid that they're all going to react like my mom did.

 

Im sorry baby...that had to be HORRIBLE....I could never do that to one of my children...when my youngest son told me he was Bi....I already knew it...and I am still friends with one of his ex boyfriends that lives down the street...they were both pretty young....and I took the boy to my heart like he was another son.

 

I am bi my husband knows he is fine with it. My niece knows she is also bi. However there is no way in hells the rest of my family will ever know. I already know I would be disowned completely. That has been made very clear. My family is very narrow minded. My dad freaked when my older brothers girl friend called him and tol him she thought my brother was gay. We thought he was truely having a heart attack. Now he calls him his worthless excuse for a son. Hell the gave my dad two beautiful grandkids. If makes it really hard to be your self. My husband and our friend that know make it easier for me and my niece. The family makes it very hard for us. She was scared to tell me and I was like so am I it is ok she new at 16 I figure it out at 24.

 

Wow...I guess I was verry fortunate.....!!!

 

No i will never tell my family about my bisexuality... they are ultraconservative and my mother believes that homo or bi sexuality are sicknesses that are contagious like mono or strepthroat... it has been made very clear to me my whole life that any one who is homosexual will be shunned by the entire family...
my husband knows and thats fine by me...

 

Yesh, my dad hates me but that's okay - he did anyways I was never jock enough - my mom just wishes I would settle down with someone, says I'm getting old enough to actually commit commit, rather than just fool around, my mom is the only one in the family like her, she says "let's just keep this between us." And I'm cool with that.

 

Your mom and dad sound JUST LIKE mine. You just described my parents to a tee. I think my dad would still love me, but I think my mom would make life so miserable for the both of us that he would take her side. He always does anyway.

 

my family doesnt know but they suspect it

 

Thank you Jerry for such a wonderful thread...it has really opened my eyes to how parents react to their Babies..... I honestly had no clue as to what some of you have to go through...you all deserve so much respect !!!