Feeling betrayed and ranting about it

I just found out the guy I lost my virginity to, someone I consider a good friend and is out of town traveling (and has been since June) has Hep B. He knew he had Hep B when we boned each other. He didn't use protection and he didn't tell me. He didn't tell anyone. I just found out today (5 month to the day later) because I broke down and told my boss (who is also Momma Bear) I had fucked him and she broke the news to me (apparently his stepdad told her).

I'm not too concerned about myself (though having Hep B would be really shitty), I'm concerned because I later slept with a guy I really care about (again without protection) who then slept with someone I consider my sister.

I called her today freaked as shit when I found out, and only after she calmed me down and offered to get tested with me did I realize that she had slept with the guy I care about so she's at risk, too. FUCK

 

Be glad that is wasn't Hep C and, as you know now, be more careful!

 

Many males are protected against Hep B with vaccine.. Maybe he is..

 

The dude I slept with definitely has Hep B, and the other dude never got any vaccines (past what he needed for school, I assume). So he wouldn't have it, either.

So fucking scared, anxious, angry, and guilty. I mean, what if I gave it to my homeboy? Or my sis? I was drunk and stupid and put people I care about at risk. I know it isn't completely my fault, that the dude should've told me he had it, but I KNEW he was an intravenous drug user, and that he shared needles, and I still didn't really care. And now I might have Hep B. FUCK.

 

"might" is a big word.. Blood virus like hep B dont transfer that easy with sex. its usually B2B .. But its still a chance..

 

It's transferred through semen, vaginal secretions, and other ways, too. It isn't strictly blood.

 

You aren't just feeling betrayed. You WERE betrayed. Don't let this go. One of the most horrid things a person can do to another.

 

I know what its transferred in.. Thinks in nature dont always work by the book....

 

So, Puppy, go and have some blood work to find out. If you have it encourage the others to do the same. It doesn't need to spread and make lots of people ill.

 

if you're going to sleep around, especially with people who sleep around, use protection. also, don't tell your boss about your one-night-stands (i don't know what the fuck momma bear is but i don't think it cares about your sexcapades either).

guy's a dick though.

 

She does care. Like, she's momma bear, meaning she's everyone's parent. I told her because I know I can trust her and I knew she'd rather hear it from me than from anyone else (word in this neighborhood gets around). And I don't sleep around. I've slept with 2 people in my lifetime. I trust(ed?) both of them. One of them was selfish and juvenile. I knew at the time that he is selfish and juvenile, I just wanted to overlook it. I was drunk and trying to watch the Lion King. It ended in a one night stand with a good friend.

 

And, really, shouldn't you count me lucky to have told her? If I hadn't then I wouldn't know he had Hep B, so I wouldn't know to get tested. If I have it, then not getting tested would've been shitty, because even if I don't display symptoms I might still pass it on, endangering more people I care about.

 

you said the dude is a drug user who shares needles with other drug users why would you even touch the guy. He seems like a real straight shooter

 

I'm am sorry to hear about this, it is a hard way to learn about this kinda shit.

 

Because I was drunk and wasn't thinking. And because even though I knew that, I also know that in his own fucked up way the dude cares about me, and I thought he cared about me enough to be honest. Apparently not. Apparently the kid will defend me from everything except himself.

 

:iagree:
Some people have indeed little no moral character
Such are the standards of morality in the world today that some folk have!
"Back in the day" when Love flowed just as freely, there was a touch more consideration and care about those whom one interacted with - If there isany consolation it is that people are aware now and can do something about it before children complicate matters (I trust?) and sadly, nowadays -Even it is a trap that we can all fall into, "in the moment' protection matters more than ever
"Be Good but Be Safe"

 

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Oh yeah , he cares alright ! Cared enough to give you the gift that keeps on giving .

Thank God it's not hep c . You need to get checked and see what else he "cared enough" to give you . See your doctor !

Let this be a life lesson to you . PROTECT YOURSELF . Being drunk is not an excuse for this situation . Only YOU , are in control of YOU . And to allow your judgment to be clouded by alcohol in this situation , was your making . If alcohol is the problem , stop drinking . At least in these type situations .

There are a lot of shit people in this world , who only care about themselves . Selfish, ignorant, assholes , who knowingly spread disease . Some of which can be fatal today like hep c.

You can't be too trusting of people today . You , have to protect you , cause no one else is going to give a shit . Listen to that little man or woman in your head .

Always protect yourself hun . It's a screwed up world for sure . And for the record , I don't think that asshole cared one ioata about you .

Good luck to you , and get further testing , if you haven't already .

 

it worked out in this case, sure. although you probably should have gotten tested anyway after having unprotected sex with two promiscuous guys.

just because it worked out this time doesn't mean it was actually a good idea.

 

Papa Wolf, I promise you this dude cares about me. He's gotten me out of some fucked up situations, protected me, had my back in some of the shittiest times of my life. He's also juvenile and selfish. Those two things made him hide his status because he was afraid of being judged by that. I understand that about him. It doesn't make it much easier, but I still love the kid, and I still know that he's got my back.

 

Just becareful please, I really hope this scared the shit outta ya and you use protection now.

Birth Control and condom.