fighting and arguing are, unfortunately, inevitable occurances in any relationship, no matter how amazing and beautiful that relationship may be. me and my fiance have been together i don't know how long, and we had our third fight ever this morning. we both ended up in each other's arms, crying, telling each other how sorry we were. it was a fight over nothing, basically. i guess it's just normal to be all emotionally built up and stressed out and when you're at odds about something it's easy to forget and take it out on your partner. i see a fight and an argument as two different things. and there are also spats, disagreements, and debates as well. we share mostly similar political/spiritual views (liberal and agnostic/spiritual-but-not-religious, etc) so we don't have a lot of debates about political stuff or religion, but we do have debates about music, books, movies and basically pop culture stuff...we have had a few little spats and disagreements here and there, but those are pretty rare. i hate it when we fight (i'm sure it's no picnic for dario, either), but it's so rare that we ever do. we always work it out pretty quickly, too. we never fight over a period of days or anything like that. we've agreed to never go to bed angry at each other because we always want the last thing we say to each other before we part is "i love you..." i think the true test of a good and lasting relationship is how a couple works out a fight. basically to stop this morning's fight we both separated and went to different rooms to cool off (this works, believe me...it keeps you from yelling pointlessly at each other while you're angry), then we sort of came to each other when we had both calmed down and cuddled and talked, apologized to each other, etc. that's usually how we try to stop a fight, because when you're all pissed off it's just pointless to keep yelling at each other, because it just goes nowhere. it's better to wait until you're not angry anymore. i guess it's just life that sometimes you hurt the feelings of people you love, but it just sucks dealing with it. how do you guys deal with a fight or argument with your significant other? what kind of stuff helps? what kind of stuff do you avoid doing? etc. i think this is a good thing to talk about because it's such a normal part of everyone's life...not just in a love relationship, but with family, friends, roommates, etc.
you are sooo sweet! both of you!!! ok, im in a fluffy mood to say the least, but oh dear you've made me grin you 2 sound so amazing for each other, i just wanted to say that :&
I hate arguing with my boyfriend. It doesn't happen often, and if it does, it's usually over something that's just not that important. I've seen other relationships fall apart because one member of the couple was too stubborn and too self-righteous to apologize. Instead of trying to work something out, they just hide behind anger and put up a huge wall of self-defense. But I believe in communication and letting your feelings be known. My boyfriend and I don't let arguments last. We talk over our differences, work it out, and go on with our lives. You can't let stupid spats destroy something beautiful. I believe that you shouldn't go to bed angry.
The relationship between a boy at school and me is like Jim Morrison and his gf Pam. One moment it's 'I love you' and the next it'll be 'I hope you die in five seconds'....
