Okay, so its like this. Me and my girlfriend talked about anal sex for a while. At first she was not so pleased by the idea, but lately she told me that she would like to try it. Because its her(and mine) first anal, i would like it to be as good as possible. I know the lube thing, tons of lube, lots of foreplay, but im just still confused about one thing. The dirtiness of that place. What would be the best way to clean it up for her, to prepare for it etc. I wouldn't die if I saw some shiz on my penis, but im concerned about her. She might think of this as really disgusting and it might ruin the experience for her. Maybe she shouldn't eat for a while? BTW. Another reason for this tidiness is that i want to use no condom(cant on her pussy, so im in suuuuch a passion about cuming inside her). Now, i know its dangerious for your health. But if we eliminate the shiz from there somehow, could this be safely done?
lol, maybe she shouldn't eat for awhile. you kids are crazy. She should use the facilities an hour or so before you plan to get started. Providing she is in generally good health, you shouldn't get anything untoward happening. Hit the Walsgreen and get a home enema kit if you are that worried. When the time comes, warm it up with your tongue, and don't be shy about it. Then put a little dildo in there, tell her to clench on it for awhile, then slowly remove it. Then put in a bigger one, clench again, and so on. Each time you take one out, she will "gape" a bit as the muscles hold the shape they were when she clenched. Don't worry, this is temporary... anyway, have the lube handy when this happens, and put some right in there, so as to really coat the inner walls and hopefully get some inside. If you take it slow and make sure she is very horny, and ideally she has already had an orgasm or two, this process will make it almost painless for her when you eventually get your cock in there. Get yourself settled in there a bit, and start some gently movements that don't cause any actual friction, but get the area working some. Stop every now and then and have her GENTLY clench on you some. Keep in mind that you must stress GENTLY, as she can seriously harm your dick if she squeezes too hard. Start to slowly work into some more deep trusts, get some friction going, add lube at this stage - you don't have enough, even if you do have enough, you still don't. Get your hand good and lubed, and use it to constantly re-lube the penis and opening as you work it for the first little while. This makes the start of the actual friction much less painful, and if you are lucky at this point she will actually start to like it. From there its just about finding the right angles and technique to make it work the best, but that's something you get to discover on your own. As for the condom issue - it isnt a question. Use a condom. NOTE - a good way to get started with anal play is to get some buttplugs and use them during your normal sex. She will likely enjoy it very much, which will help to establish that ass play can be very pleasant and can be enjoyed, rather than something that is painful, and must be endured.
Don't worry about getting dirty. Worry more about making it enjoyable to her. I have been with several girls and never had on stain my dick. But i could have been with more if I would have taken the time to let them get used to it. I guess i wasn't that smart when i was young. Also, I don't use a condom with my girlfriend, but we both have been checked and monogomus for three years.
well my boyfriend and i just started anal. my ass loooves attention and my boyfriend really loves anal porn. i had been kind of curious about it but some of my friends told me it hurts like hell. about a week ago we tried, he could only get the tip in without making me feel uncomfortable. somehow this week was different....he just kind of lubes his dick and area and plays with my asshole for a bit and then slowly works his way in. I LOVE IT. i mean its def not as great as vaginal sex but id say its more an up than a down and im happy to let my boyfriend fulfill his fantasies as well as try to please me in different ways so as long as shes wanting to it'll happen
We tried 6 months ago with my GF. She always has been very sensitive at that spot and likes me to touch her and finger her. Once, after a good first fuck, when we were very juicy, I tried to give her anal. It took me 5 minutes to get in, very slowly, and she turned completly crazy and had a big big orgasm! Have to be in the mood and at an advanced stage of excitation, though. We do it from time to time, it's always that good for both of us.
I have to agree, preparation is the key to great anal. Without properly stimulating your receiver and the receiver properly cleaning the area, anal will be a mess, literally. Anal will hurt if the receiver is not properly stimulated and warmed up, only the most experienced receiver in anal will be able to do it with little or no warm up because their secondary sphincter is already acclimated to relax during times of sexual excitation.
i suggest you get a graduated butplug and try it on yourself. Once you see how the pain is in the beggining, how much lube to use, the rate at which your sphincter releases, you can use the same toy on her to slowly loosen her up for your cock.
