Okay, let me throw out some background support for my questions first. I am now reaching the 5month mark with the girl I know I am destined to live the rest of my life with. We both know for a fact it's not teenage loved up infatuation. Both of us are virgins. So the std worry is not too big for us, although still a small concern just becuase it should always be. The only real after-effect concern about it all is pregnancy. But for such a beautiful act, we are both willing to risk it(of course protection, and pulling out will be used). So my questions are not about health, or the aftermath, etc. really. 1.It will most likely go on this saturday(just becuase the situation/settings we will have). We both masturbate atleast once a day, but have made a pact not to until saturday(yes, some say sex should be spontanious, but this is how we want it done, so no flaming for this please). Will not masturbating for a week make me ejaculate quicker? I really don't want for her to not get any pleasure out of it, and don't want to spill my load quickly, and her get nothing. 2.Since it is her first time, this will mean "popping her cherry". After the initial breaking of the hymen, and blood if it happens, I was told that within a few minutes, it will all just be pleasure for her, true? 3.Would fingering her first, and getting her wet, and having an orgasim or two before the initial intercoarse, make the actual act of sex less enjoyable/special for her? Any other tips about the first time having sex would be so greatly appreciated guys. Thanks in advance for your input!
I see no reason why you should quit masturbating for a week. As a girl let me just say the first time I had sex it hurt. It was not excruciating but it hurt. There wasn't really any time where it was all pleasure for me the first time. The second time was when it was really good. Make sure she is wet. If she is not, use lube.
It usually hurts the entire first time, and second or even third time before it is all pleasure for her. Not doing it for a week usually makes it feel better but probably not the first time as an exception. It will cause you to cum too quickly, but as you said you could finger her first, and then after and go again if you are able to more than once. You probably won't give her an orgasm unless it is before you stick it in the first time. This usually makes the sex a lot more enjoyable after, when you speak about 'special' that is a tricky one, some people would not consider it special if it was planned but it generally comes down to personal opinion. Hope it goes well for you. I remember it took me a while to find a condom that works well and it broke on a few occasions so keep this in mind and practice safe sex.
My first time didn't hurt at all. I would definitely not do the whole don't-masturbate-for-a-week thing. That'll just make you cum faster and you won't be able to pleasure her like you want to. Also, it helps to get her really wet, give her an orgasm, then have sex. She'll still be wet and aroused. If she doesn't opt for that, wait until she's all hopped up again and then go for it. Hope things go awesome - and don't forget b/c.
1.Will not masturbating for a week make me ejaculate quicker? Yes you will very likely cum quicker. I know that some men masturbate before sex so that they will last longer. While your pact is noble you might want to consider a mutual masturbation session before you have intercourse. Look at it this way, you both kept your promise not to and it is great foreplay. 2.I was told that within a few minutes, it will all just be pleasure for her, true? All women are different, but myself and those that I know will tell you that sex hurts for the first few times. Only in romance novels is it a blissful experience within moments of the hymen tearing (think about that....the hymen tears.....not magically disappears....so yeah it hurts) 3.Would fingering her first, and getting her wet, and having an orgasim or two before the initial intercoarse, make the actual act of sex less enjoyable/special for her? It might make things better because the first time is rarely a sexually fulfilling experience for women. Tip~ No matter how "ready you both are things might not work out as planned (it might hurt her too much, etc) so just go with the flow and don't stress. You and she are in love and have plenty of time to engage in sex. So, no worries and have fun.
