For people who've been single....

...Not for 2 months but for a while, say 11 months and up...


I've been single for 10 months and I thought I was going to be lonely not being on ANY dates but I love the single train Now and then I do get lonely, not having any one to flirt with but relationship wise? I stay away (only because I have commitment problems)

I think being single this long- helps you define yourself and what you like in a person, helps you find your own happiness and love yourself, then people see that, and are really interested in you

Everyone has been clingy in ONE relationship but you change when you take a long break like this, at least I did. My friends are still young and naive thinking they NEED to find someone to make them happy- No they dont. You never rely on someone for your happiness- only for to SHARE your happiness with them. Thats what I believe

How do you feel about this? Some find it hard living life single (I understand) and some find it as a breath of fresh air (I also understand)

 

My fiance broke up with me after coming out in July. I've had another fling since then but what I've come to realize is the only desire to really be with someone is because I'm so used to it. It's when I'm alone that I really feel at peace, although rather lonely. It's such a mixed feeling. I'm not worried about anything, I can totally be myself and relax, and do what I want. But at the same time it feels meaningless. I can do whatever the hell I want. But for what? In the end I'm just alone and living for myself (which as appealing as it is just isn't fulfilling.) If you can be truely happy and single than I give you props. And who knows maybe 10 months of being alone I'll get used to it too.

Nice sig, btw!

 

I have been single for a long time. It's been the best thing for me. It's taught me to be independent, that I don't need to depend on a partner for happiness.

 

It makes you a stronger person, I understand you and when that certain person does come around, you'll be ready to love again seriously, you took time off, enjoyed it and now its giving back. I was engaged in may when i had to break it off because i just did not see him in my life, im very ambitious and he was lazy and I do have commitment issues from a bad past but again, im happy single

and wandering soul- right on! and when the time is right, you'll meet an awesome person someday but keep on ridin that single train if you like it!

thank you! I love the movie

Anyone else like the single ride?

 

I've been leading the single life for almost 9 years now. I love it. I get lonely at times, but that's what fuck buddies are for. I'm not sure how it happened but I am not complaining. I like being able to do what I want, when I want and with who I want. I guess I just like my independence. I'm getting older now so I'm not sure if I'll ever meet my dream woman and settle down, but I'm not stressed out about it at all. If it happens, it happens and if it doesn't, I'll be just as happy leading my single lifestyle.

 

well bill, some people are like that. fuck buddies and flirters can be all you need to get your life fulfilled to some. Most of you are probably independent people also and its kinda hard for independys to find someone that will give them enough space, so therefore, they stay single

but if people will take the time and stay single- they will learn so much about themselves

 

I've been single for years at a time, the occasional fling in there, and I've been in multi-year relationships. Each has its own charm and ups and downs. Right now I'm actually looking forward to being single and just dating casually... you know focusing on career and my own shit for a while. Not that you can't do that when you're with somebody but it's different.

I think that being single is a great experience to have and I recommend not only being single but also living on your own. I lived by myself for three years and it was fucking great. I miss it a lot sometimes. I'm very independent though so solitude suits me.

 

thats a journey in itself. Id like also to accomplish that

 

It's about learning to love yourself and being alone before you can really love someone else and set aside the human instinctual need for a partner. I agree with living on your own, it's a great experience, but only for the right person. I have been doing that for awhile now and realize there is certain things I would love a partner for, but nothing I need. Right now I live everyday for myself but with space for someone else, sooner or later the right one comes along....great insight everyone

 

I have stints where I wasn't in a relationship.

Like I took breaks for like 6 months where I would date and have sex but not have a real relationship.

That count?

 

lol nooo being single straight on, having sex here and there but not all the time and nooo dates

 

I have been single for about 10 months now as well. For me, I had to overcome many issues because my exmessedme up something fierce. I do wnat to be in a loving realtionship:however, for me the dating scene has been filled with many disapointments it is like I can not find a decent cool girl that is baggage, drama free or void of some sort of crazy issue.

Ihate being single after having my ex living with me for 7 months I got so used to having another person in the house. I actualy was able to put up with her crap being all over the place makeup and clothes scattered around like a twister came through the bedroom LOl

I am an organized neat kinda person. I was surprised that I accepted her un neatness and in a messed up way I miss that chaos :-(

SIGH... I hate being single I do so much better and have so much more motivation to be the best i cann be when I am in a realtionship it is like I have something to work for

 

Im jaded, I was married for 14 years got divorced and thus far I enjoy my single life. Its the little things I love, like I know that when I leave things I put down will be there, that my bank account is at the same level I last left it, the car is not broke down, the house is clean or messy but its my fault for real, I dont have to run and save a person from another stupid fuck up ect.

 

its not treating me too well anymore. i was in a 4 year relationship from when i was 15 till my second year of school. now its been about a year and a half and i cant stand it anymore. i went crazy at first with the girls, but sex just seems meaningless at this point if i don't care about them. its becoming a lonely life, although i got to do many things that i could not do before, so there are benefits, but i think i got everything i needed out of the break...i need someone again

 

I am "usually" single
haha
I only had one boyfriend so far, two years ago.

I can see what you mean by getting to know yourself, so I do know myself pretty well...maybe.. but also we are social beings and dont seem to truly know who we are unless there are others.

do we see ourselves as how other see us? at least in part we do.

 

Update: Still single and loving it!
Guess it wasn't much of an update, was it?

 

I was raped when I was twelve...and ever since then, I've had this insatiable need to always be wanted. I move from one lengthy relationship to the next, never giving myself a break. I don't understand why it makes me this way. But I don't feel whole unless I have a signifigant other.

 

My ex is the same way jumping right into a realtionship even if it is not a healty realtionship. she jumps around allot. I was her longest realtionship over a year.

She I think can't tell the difference between sex for sex and love.

Do you find problems with sex love and stuff like that?

 

I seem to atract the guys who are super clingy and always want to be around me 24/7. They get into this "i love you soo much, i want to be with you forever" thing, and of course after a year or so, I believe that I love them too. AFTERWARDS I always realize that I did't really love them. But I can't help that I crave the attention, and once I get it, I want my space.

as for the sex, I keep it seperate. I don't like to tie emotion into sex. I think thats probably why I've never had an orgasm during sex. I'm so wrapped up in trying to figure out how I should feel about it, that I can't concentrate on the sex.

I've lately been having a "no strings" sexual relationship with a guy I've known for about a year. I've taught myself to keep emotions out of it.

 

I don't care for being single, it's just you have no one that cares for you.