I have seen some divorced couples make friendships work...especially if young kids are involved. But then I have seen other couples better off in seperate states after a divorce. So it just depends on the people involved.
It depends on why the person got divorced. From personal experience I would say just move on....they got divorced for a reason.......
I've tried it, and my answer is: NO Divorce is a bitch, well I'm not even there yet! in a few more months I can file for a divorce! I tried to remain friends, but I found out I need her out of my life in order to move on buh bye bitch! lol
Theres a reason why you divorce or a ex.. re think why and have mutual feelings because you don't want feelings hurt esp btwn both you guys.
Funny this is brought up. Well my ex is now living in my spare bedroom since she ( I will be nice) has no other place to go. Friends well not really but Im not bashing her trying to make her feel lower thasn she already does but its tough not to do that.
I have two exes, and a current wife. My first wife and I get alone well, but we went 18 years without being in contact. She decided she wanted me back, and that was nice for my ego, but my current wife said she wasnt finished with me.. yet.. lol Second wife: that is a whole different issue. Of course having a child together keeps us in contact. I think I finally gave up on trying to be civil last summer when she decided to refuse to allow my daughter to go to Paris for a 8 day vacation. My daughter was 10 at the time and it would have been a trip of a lifetime. Her older brother and I had a great time, but I am still pissed that she didnt get to come with us. Cuz, now I have to go back to Paris, and that sucks. My current wife says I am going to be given Saint Statues when I get to heaven for putting up with Ex No. 2. She has only talked to her on the phone a couple of times and she agrees with the rest of my family.. that woman is crazy. So anything the ex can do to make things more difficult for us, she seems to take delight in doing. She has remarried, so it would be nice if she lightened up. I keep trying, but I am tired of always going the extra mile. so.. short version.. NO.. nearly impossible for divorced people (who had children together) to be friends. really, I am not bitter.. lol
Well, they probably didn't divorce for nothing... If their problems with each other are not so serious, it would be civilized to keep civilized relations, but not too close though, especially if they are involved in a love relationship each of them with someone else.
I am friends (or at least friendly) with almost all of my ex's... Those of you who aren't and/or argue that you can't be friends, should (imo) choose better partners for yourselves. With a few notable exceptions, any woman I have ever been with, had been a friend first and remained a friend afterwards. When it comes to the mother of my daughter, there is no chance of us ever having a problem as our first concern is for our daughter. Even if we did hate each other (which we don't) we would still do everything in our power to get along with each other for the sake of our daughter. What I find the most baffling about the responses in here, is that so many people think you can't be friends with your ex's... All I can say to that, is either you are an asshole who treats your partners badly or have really shitty taste (or judgment) in partners...
I'm on friendly terms with my ex, after 14 years together. Yes, different states helps. He's keeping in touch with his step son, adult, barely. I was given the advice to let it go a year then test to see if there's a friendship there. I have a 15 minute civility limit with my son's father. I have issues with men who will not work, and he just hits all those buttons so fast.
My ex and I have no issues with dealing with each other or our kids. All decisions regarding them are discussed as parents together and we make the call as united. I have never said anything negative about him to anyone. There has never been a reason to. He calls the kids every night and at the end of talking to them he touches base with me in case anything is going on or wrong. They are with him every weekend and he maintains the same rules that they have here. Not sure why people think you can not remain on good terms.
