Friendzoned again

I fear that I've been put into the friend zone, yet again.

I don't know why I allow this to happen to me. I'm gonna give it a shot anyways and if she tells me that she just wants to be friends, I'm gonna have to tell her I can't deal with that.

The situation between her and I has been so awkward and heavy with tension (that I feel) for so long that I just don't know exactly which way to view it.

It makes me feel like shit calling it quits just because she wants to only be friends, because I've just been friends before and it hurts me more seeing and hanging out with a girl that doesn't return the same sort of emotion than just not seeing them at all. She's a cool girl and I want to be friends, but I can't handle being JUST friends with another chill girl that I'm attracted to in many ways.

 

yep. the whole "i'd rather have her as a friend than not at all" is a huge self-delusion that does nothing but make guys miserable.

 

damn perp, i thought you'da mastered the pussy game by now.

in good time, my son...

 

Maybe you are looking in the wrong places...

Seems to me like you are falling into patterns with these girls.

try a new approach

 

when a girl wants to be friends she just wants to be friends. it sucks but its the way it is. I don't understand why guys feel that it is so hard to be friends with a girl they are attracted to. To me it would be much better than nothing.

 

that's unhealthy.

 

to prefer being friends than not having a relationship?

 

how so?

 

how is it not unhealthy?

 

not sure time to revisit sickology class

 

it's unhealthy because i have to stifle myself in order for the other person to gain a friendship.

i'd say i'm a damn good friend, too, so being a good friend while not being able to act out my urges is damaging to me. especially when my friendship grows and i still have feelings of attraction.

tough shit. i just hope that i can salvage myself from this wreck that i easily make.

 

good luck

 

happens to me to mate. it sucks. sometimes you just wish ya never met em :sad:

 

agreed!

For the OP , you need to put your feelings aside and just find someone else because you can't force someone to have feelings for you. I hope you find someone better and that have the same emotion for you.

 

I honestly don`t even remember how to get friendzoned, anymore. It happened to me once when I was 17 and never again.

To me it sounds like a special skill, or something. :smilielol5:

 

not gonna force anything on her. i just don't want it to sound like an ultimatum when i say i don't want to be 'just friends' if that happens to be the case.

you'd be surprised at how well i can do it...

i'm going to keep positively thinking about it lol
she has dropped some heavy signals on me that i have just let slip by...i think that maybe she is tired of it...and i'm hoping i still have a chance

 

If being around her is causing you more pain than pleasure, dump her as a friend. In an ideal world you could continue hanging out with her, but that's just not the way things work. She might even respect you more, even if she doesn't like it, and then there's the outside chance that in your absence she'll miss you more than she thought she would and start to really like you herself.

 

just gonna go ahead and go with the flow...

the flow is away from her it seems

 

I just don't know how to approach the situation...do i just ignore her and keep her out of my life? do i tell her what my motives were? do i tell her what's up without giving her a clue to what i'm feeling?

i figure that she'll try to hang out sometime soon, which i'd like to...maybe i should just be straight up whenever i'm with her and allow the possibility of hurting her feelings or just a completely awkward situation...i'm not too fond of either, but i'm not against it either if it means that i get it off my chest