Frustrated with stupid hair.

These stupid 'dreadlocks' of mine are driving me crazy. I am ready to comb them out and just get them professionally done.
Well, for over two weeks, Ive been trying to backcomb them myself because there is no one to help me. MY family doesnt approve, and I just moved to a new city. No friends. No one to help. So, Im only about...two thirds the way done. I still need to do the whole back. and I cant reach, and it my scalp is about to fall off and die. Grr. I am really hating this hair Ive got.
It just isnt working! it is poorly sectioned. and half-assed-ly backcombed. And I am so sick of it, it looks awful.

I go in a cycle from loving it to hating it and being so frustrated by it I just cant stand it.

Ugh. Anyway...

Im just rambling.
I guess what I want is a good start with my dreadlocks. I want them to be good enough now to assure a great future. And My scalp, poor thing.

I just dont trust anyone else to do it, they would make them too big...or two small...or to perfect looking, or....oh noes use wax....

Alright. Anyway,
Is it a bad idea to get them professionally done?
How much would It cost? I mean, I love the messy look. But I dont feel like the mess I have on my head is getting me anywhere.


Ugh. rambling!

Thanks for listening.

I guess what I want is for my dreadlocks to look lovely to someone other than me. Im my family situation, they just couldnt take a mess head like what Ive got. And Id like for them to look nice. you know?

edit-here are pics!
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eh do what you want, you shouldnt expect anything close to dreads in 2 weeks though it takes much much longer

 

Bad idea... Cost a lot, either just stop brushing, or wait till you meet someone, or use the twist and rip method.

 

I am well aware. Like I said, I saw first hand the transformations they go through, because my brother has had his for two years now. The whole first year, his looked like crap. Looking like crap is OK with me, infact, all I ever do is look like crap. But I would like my own to improve with time, and the frustration is unbarable. What I want to assure is that my dreads get a good start to promise a good and beautiful future, and I dont feel I can do it by myself.

 

The process takes a long time sarah, and 'professionals' tend not to know as much as the people on this forum... Have patience.

 

Yeah, even over the week from sectioning the back to now, they were really really knotted at the top, and a bitch to comb out to start backcombing it for real. I figure, knowing that, my hair type (frizzy...messy....curly....) will be quick to dread if I give it the time to do so.


(and, it isnt STOP brushing, man I havent brushed in years. I just always wear it up in a pony tail, and it never got a chance to knot!)

 

Im sure you know how it goes...I just get so frustrated, mostly just because I have to reach my tired arms back there to do it myself, not a mirror in sight...
This post was pretty much just another try at releasing my stress..and that it did.
pretty selfish, eh?
oh well.
And I know what you mean, Like I said, I would be very hesitant to let someone else do it, much less someone I dont know who just wants me to give them money.

 

Take your time, vent as often as necessary, and happy dreading!

 

you could try the all natural way ya know where you just dont comb your hair, and you hand roll them all the time

 

Post pics, show us what it looks like

 

Expect pictures tomorrow, my dreadlocks forum friends, for I am destined to finish them tonight..er, this morning. it is now midnight!
No sleep. Hurray.

 

i wanna see pics

 

professionaly done locks are a scam thats all
they can cost a ton


a hairdressser once told me that no hairdsresser can do dreads as good as natural dreads
they make a mess on purpose to get u back in every 2 weeks for tightening and maintanbance
they always use wax...or worse..weve seen em use latex even glue


stop worrying stop backcombing stop everything give them a couple monthsd they will dread on theyre own beautifuly

oh and pain free

why torture yourself dreads shoulde begin in love not pain

 

that is not the all natural way

hand rilling is not needed!

all natural u dont do9 a damn thing to em

 

Sounds like your main problem is patience, or lack of it...
regardless of how you start them... dreads will become dreads. Its pretty much nothing but patience. They're gonna look like shit for a while, it just comes with the territory. Invest in hats or bandanas... just cover them up for now if you're not happy with them at the moment. I have a feeling that, if you stick with it, you're definitely gonna learn that good things come to those who wait. There's no fast way to get nice looking dreads. Personally, to me a year isn't a long time at all, but I've always been a patient person.

My dreads look like shit right now... little short nubby things, and even people on these forums have talked shit, as shitty is that is (you'd think we'd be giving people support instead of trying to push them away.) But you have to have a thick skin. People are gonna talk shit and push you away from what you want all of your life. What you have to learn is that no one's opinion of you matters but your own. Your family may not like them, but keep your personal goals in sight and don't let anyone sway you by what they think.

 

shave it off--go bald--demi moore style in gi jane---can u pull that off?

 

I'm excited about your dreads.

 

Post those pics soontime

 

yeaaaah 'professional' dreads are pretty much the one kind of dreading i fucking hate.
you'll spend WAY too much money doing some bogus method the 'professional' hairdresser dreams up for you (some chick on here was told to use latex, i've met random people whose dreads are loaded with wax, honey, all kinds of fucked up shit because 'pros' told them how to get wicked cool dreads)

can you get your brother to help you? sheesh you'd think your parents would calm down if your bro has had them for so long

and yeah, dreads aren't instant regardless of how you do them. relax, guy.

 

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