Maybe this isn't a parenting issue but I am so frustrated. ICan't seem to make enough money as a single parent. I hate the idea of welfare but I am running out of options. I have been freelance writing and copyediting but it isn't steady work. I need more gigs. Or, I could go for broke and go get a real job but there is still a year to wait for a childcare voucher. I am getting freaked here. What to do? Any stay-at-home single moms here? How do you do it? H
Maybe you could do some childcare in your home? And if you have to go the welfare route try not to feel guilty about it because it's a temporary thing,your child won't always be little and being there for your child is your primary job in life right now. In some European countries I understand the Gov't pays a sort of salary to moms with children under 5 years because the idea of them having to work is just not acceptable for society. Here in the US our Gov't would rather have as many taxpayers per child (mom,dad,and the babysitter) as possible rather than think about what kind of society is produced. I think all the rude,impatient, and just plain mean crap we see people do to each other these days comes from not having enough parental contact as little ones. Good luck and just keep your chin up sister.
It's right, Here in Gemany, a mother gets for every child under two years about 300 Euro, for the year until three 250. (if the mother is not working, or only doing very limited hours) Then about 150 from Birth until the education is finished. That is to cover the basic needs of a child. I think that is a very good thing, cause you probably would not have to have an abortion just for financial reasons. (Which is the most inhumane cause to have one anyway) So basically, at least for the basic needs of clothes and food, there's money. But taking other kids in would be a possibility, right? Or maybe tutor kids for money?
I keep saying I want to move to Europe. Ha ha ha ha! It's really hard. My husband worked two jobs for a while and now is working a day job and trying to start his own business. I am also starting my business. We are always trying to make ends meet and never really have enough money from month to month to pay ALL of the bills. We just do what we can and know that one day, things will be better. Just have to stick it out and try not to stress too much. We know that we are doing what is right for our kids by having me stay at home. If I were to go back to work, almost all of my money would go to paying for childcare. Paying for somebody else to raise my kids? That doesn't sound right to me. Hang in there girl!! I'm sorry we didn't get to chat last night. We keep missing each other! I'm going to be here all afternoon if you want to call. Hopefully we can get connected with a moment to chat soon. I'd love to help you in any way I can.
I'm sorry you are dealing with all that. I don't really have any advice....I had to work outside of the home the whole time I was a single parent. Now I'm lucky enough to be able to stay home, but DH has to work 2 jobs for me to be able to do it.....and we still barely scrape by. It certainly is not easy. I hope things work out for you. It would be nice if you could stay home, but that's not always an option, unfortunately.
my mom watched kids at our house. i don't know how old your little one is, but, when i was in grade school, it worked out great. i'd have playmates all the time, my mom would not have to suffer to find toys and entertainment for the kids since it was already there (in form of me and my stuff) and she made ends meet. she did it due to the reasoning that it'd cost a salary for child care; ridiculous notion, ain't it! try it out...
