When did you all first really starting to want to get pregnant? I overwhelmingly want to have children now, even though I'm only 17 and I don't plan on having children until I'm at least 30 (not that I have anything against young mothers, I just have very very very strict guidelines set up for myself and my finances before I will actively try to become pregnant). My boyfriend and I have talked about it extensively, including even different random parenting techniques that our parents used and what we think works and doesn't work. We've gone as far as naming our future children though we both agree that late 20s is a good time to start. Is it weird to be this obsessed?
I've probably always been broody. Am at exactly the same stage planning wise, just don't have a SO yet. Won't be having kids for years eithier. Just love the whole thing and can't see any reason not to. Tis a bizzare hobby.
I think of becomming pregnant on and off since about 3 years. I was 20 then. But now, it is very intense, usually it stopped after some weeks, but now this is constantly going on since late summer 04. so... we are not actively triying to get pregnant, but if it happens, it will be ok
I was 16 or 17 when i really started to want kids; not REALLY, because i knew it wasn't a good time yet, but I was with a great guy (now hubby), and that baby-making urge was a little too strong, lol, and we ended up getting one before we planned to (we were 17 when our sone was conceived). Also, some of our friends already had kids, so it was really hard to see them and not want one too! Maybe that's why something like 30 girls in our highschool (of less than 500 students) had kids or were at least pregnant before they graduated, lol, it's contageous!
Oy, I started getting broody and wanting children when I was around your age too. I was dating my husband at that time. But we ended up having our first son when I was 21, and he, 25. A little over three and a half years later, we gave birth to our twins, both a son and a daughter, when I was two months shy of 25, and my husband, 29. We also lost two babies in between, one before our first son was born, and one three months before we conceived our twins. I always felt a bit backward because when I was a senior in high school and everyone else was planning their futures, getting ready for college, etc., I had only one thought for my future. Becoming a wife and a mother. That was my goal, it was what I wanted in my life more than anything else. Regrets? None whatsoever. Do I recommend it for everyone? No. It's a personal decision, and you know yourself better than anyone else does. Some people are ready to settle down and start a family at a very early age and love it, and others are not, and would rather wait. Still some, are never truly ready. Being a parent is miraculous, beautiful, and rewarding in ways that I never knew possible until I became a mother myself, but it is far from easy. It is hard, hard work. Well worth every bit in my opinion, but it is cetainly not an easy ride. My children are still quite young, my oldest son is 5 years old, and my twins are 22 months old, so I'm certainly not a parenting expert, and I have much to look forward to and experience in the future. However, I do know that having a child, or children, is a very major step in your life. Much peace, love and happiness.
I have aspirations for getting my masters in something (preferably two subjects- business/law and a language), then having a career and a family at the same time. I won't start having children until I've been married a few years, have a stable job that would allow me to take time off to be with my children and when I don't have a newborn, allow me to only go to work 2 or 3 days a week for the next 10 years, and also gives me enough finances to hire a nanny (only so my children will have someone who will only speak and respond to Spanish so they will grow up bilingual and not have to go to HORRENDOUS daycare, not as substitute parenting). I'm really idealistic about it all. Personally, I would rather never have children at all rather than ever have to deny them of anything. Not to say that they would be spoiled, but I don't want them to have to wonder about how they'll pay for college or not be able to have guitar lessons or go on field trips because I can't afford it. My parents have been unemployed for the past 2 years and it's been hell for me because, although we can comfortably live off of our savings, there's alot of things that I can't do that would really help my education. Really, the financial thing is the only reason why I won't have children right after high school because since I plan on having 4 children and relatively close together (about 2 years), money will always be somewhat of an issue but I want to make sure there's as little strain as possible. Seriously.. I REALLY need to stop thinking about this. =P Or just get a kitten.
That's wonderful that you have those goals for yourself! You are right in wanting to do them before you try and have a family. Not that it would be impossible to do once you had children, but it would definitely be more difficult. You know, the kitten thing isn't a bad idea. Seriously. When I was bitten by the baby bug at 17, I ended up getting two kittens, and I swear, my hubby and I treated those cats as if they were our kids. I mean, we just babied those cats something fierce! I think it helped tame my baby-lusting appetite for at least a little while. Hugs.
Yeah... only problem with that is I couldn't bring a kitten to college with me and my parents hate cats so I wouldn't dare leave it here when I move out. My puppy is sort of like my baby, just a baby that tends to shred the bottom of pants, bites holes in cans, and eat chairs. But she's soooo cute while being destructive. When my boyfriend gets an apartment, he's going to get a kitten for us even though I won't be able to see it often at all.
Probably about 14. I have ALWAYS really liked babies. But I knew it would be best to finish college first, and I did, barely..........
about 13.. I'm always "broody" now. Though I def. don't need one at this time, I just love newborns so much... love pregnancy... aww its so special and sweet.
At about 14. I'm still dealing with it. More so right now because lots of people I know have been having babies. I have other plans, rather than going to college, so a baby would be okay now. But we want to wait another year or two. At one point I was totally obsessed, to the point that my SO would get upset because it was all I talked about. I'm past that now though, so I just write about it. If my period is a day or two late I start thinking about it... even though I know it's almost impossible that I could be pregnant. Then when it comes I'm kind of disapointed even though if someone asked me if I wanted a baby now I'd probably say "not really". Now that we've got our own apartment and such it just seems like a good idea.... but, wait until we're settled down somewhere, I keep saying. *sigh* It's complicated. I think a lot of women, especially young women, get the fever though.
You know, not all daycares are horrendous. They teach socialization skills when they create the proper environments, although I certainly am not an advocate. Nannies, my dear, are also "substitute parenting."
In all my experience, daycare just made me bored. The teachers there were teaching us to read when I had already known how to for 2 years, so they sent me off to a corner so it's not like I got much socialisation anyway. All I did was play on the computer. Also, my mom used to be a director of a daycare and the stories she told me of the reasons she had to fire some people were horrible: forgetting to feed babies, not giving children their medication, hitting children who misbehaved, not allowing children to eat lunch, etc. The only reason I want a nanny is because for one, I'm going to have 4 kids and that means I'll have to work at least a few days a week to be able to give them everything they deserve. Also, if they grow up speaking Spanish to the nanny (or Portuguese or French) then they'll be able to differentiate between the languages. Though I'll speak whatever language they're learning fluently as well, it's more effective that way because if my future husband doesn't speak the language then to have me only speaking Spanish to the children and he only speaking English would make things difficult. I also don't want my children to be the type of children who have to come home to an empty house when they're in school and I have to work to pay for their college. Not to mention I'm not going to college for 10 years to immediatly have children and never be able to put that knowledge to use.
um, I'm 29, is it supposed to happen yet? I thought around now I would start feeling that urge, but haven't yet, so now I'm thinking 35 heh.
I'm 30 and it's just really hitting me now. I've wanted to be a Mom for as long as I can remember but it was all a part of the eventual plan...that "someday when I have kids" attitude but now I am sick with baby fever. My husband actually told me last night that I was becoming obsessed with it.
I guess that I started to get "broody" when I was 15.....which I always thought was weird, but now that I've seen other people feeling the same way, I don't feel so weird. It did get worse as I got older, and now I'm 18, and expecting a baby. I still haven't completely finished high school (almost done), and I wanted to go into hair dressing afterward.....now I have to wait, which sucks. I'm looking foward to having the baby and all, don't get me wrong, it's just that unless your definate plans for the futre are to be a mom, be careful. I always had unprotected sex (i've only been w/ 2 guys) in the slight hopes that something would happen. I REALLY don't want to sound like one of those speakers who go to schools and stuff saying, "don't do this cuz i did and it was bad," I just wish that I wouldn't have been so naive.
First off...I love the word broody. I was never introduced to it until the forums but that's how I feel. I wrote in the forums about this last month when I just "felt" like I was pregnant. Then I got my period. I tried not to be upset because idealistically we want to wait at least a few months before we start (my hubby more than me) but I tried to think of all the things I could do in the meantime. Then one night we had unprotected sex and it was right around my ovulation time. It was more sloppiness than planned but now I keep hoping that I'm pregnant. However, because of last time, I'm trying not to get my hopes up but I have been treating my body like I am (hardly any caffeine or alcohol). I can't talk to my husband about this because he already thinks I'm obsessed so I told him that I won't mention it again until the time is right (the right time is a whole other issue with us) but he may be right about me being obsessed. I try to tell myself not to think about it, because if it turns out I'm not pregnant, I could turn myself in emotional somersaults every time we have unprotected sex.
