getting older, masturbating more

So here I am, firmly in, ahem, middle age now -- I'm in my late 40s -- and I find myself masturbating as much as, maybe more than, I have at any time in my life, except those glowing, excruciatingly horny months in the middle of pregnancy. My dear, dear husband, whom I love deeply and would never betray by having an affair, is slowing down -- fewer and weaker erections, and general decline in interest. Me, on the other hand -- whew. It started happening a few years ago -- peri-menopause maybe? I arouse more quickly and easily, and find myself craving orgasms more often. Masturbation has been my refuge my salvation, my greatest pleasure of late. So I was wondering -- any other women my age out there feeling the same way?

 

I can't speak for women but I can tell you it can be the same for guys too.

 

I'm glad it's been that way for you, but not in our house. Twice a week now for him, maybe -- it used to be daily.

 

I meant my house is similar to your house except the genders are reversed.

 

Oh, you mean your wife's the one who's slowing down, and you're the one who's masturbating more? Well, I'm still glad for that -- that you're still able to enjoy it. My experience is limited to my husband's accounts of his own life, and my memories of a few boyfriends before him, and it's hard to imagine any man masturbating more in his 40s than he did as a teenager.

 

My wife masturbates as much now, probably more than she has at any other time in the past. It seems that middle age has opened up a new level of horniness in her. We have sex a lot more too.

 

those of you who mentioned that their husbands are not performing like they used to,

I was recently diagnosed with low testosterone, common among guys over 40, by doctor prescribed me a gell that I apply every morning to my shoulders, I'm horny as a 16 year old again, wife can't keep up with me, been cumming at least twice a day since I started using the jell

 

So that sounds as if it's been good for both of you. It has been for us, too. It bothered my husband at first -- not that I was masturbating (that's something I've always done, and we've always shared), but that he wasn't able to keep up with me. He felt like he was failing me somehow. I had to keep reassuring him that he wasn't, and that I was enjoying this new burst of libido -- that I loved, LOVED, to masturbate, that it was a wonderful addition to, not a subtraction, from our sex life together. Is that how you and your wife feel?

 

I'm going to start a new post on the testosterone jell .

My wife wants sex once or twice a month . I love her and don't want to fight all the time about it . Sex is great , the few times she is willing , so I masturbation often and have a few online girlfriends for the extra excitement . Everything is just for fun , we respect each other's private life .It"s usually the guy that gets shorted , but the other way happens too .

 

I am 54 and I am masturbating more and more. I can do it 4 times a day if I had the time. My wife is slowing down big time. She watches me masturbate and does not mind if I do but her sex drive is not there. We are working on that. I could have sex many times a day and love it.

 

Women masturbating more in their 30s and 40s I can understand- men I would expect less so.

 

no, I think it is often more as some of us get older, I probably masturbate less now but am having probably more sex, and feeling like more a lot of the time. Just a shame not to be so capable as before.

Simon

 

I posted this somewhere before:

Hell, I'm 52 and I masturbate more now than I ever have!
(pretty much daily)
On some days, 2-3-4 times in a day.

And I'm quite happily married with a very healthy and active sex life with my wife.

 

i jsut turned 30 and i pretty much quit from doing it once a day. (see my mis spelled thread!)

for me i just found it to draining. soon as i stopped it was like everything was better, not tired anymore, spunky, women look more attractive.

 

I am 48 and only masturbate once or twice a week now. It used to be every day, even when I was in a relationship.

 

i'm 60 and i'm horny pretty most all the time, i masturbate sometimes 2 or three times a day, not every day of course, in fact i'm getting hard just typing this lol

 

I'll that more masturbating group. Used to masturbate a few times a week, but my wife is amourous maybe every couple of weeks. So a daily dose is what I take.

 

My hubby has problems, so I've found at 57, being hornier than ever & watching porn, in private as when I once watched porn at a motel he got insulted that the porn turned me on more than him, plus he is quite small & defensive, plus breathing problems, so I said to myself, God helps those who helps themselves ummmm

 

as a 40 year male i love older women. i would love to watch porn and mastubate with you :devil:

 

This thread dates from fifteen years go so I rally hope that this woman is still as vigorously enjoying her body as she was back in 2010.Age has an impact on sexuality for women and men. Posts on threads here from men regularly claim a level of masturbatory activity in later age which was possible when we were teenagers but not post 50! There are hormonal causes of reduced libido, and emotional, psychological, and cultural factors including guilt and social taboos which are still common. Many of us will grown up with and reached the onset of masturbation in a very repressed and repressive environment especially those of us past 50/60 which can still impair pleasure. It is also widely assumed that past 50/60 we become less interested in sex and experience physiological/hormonal decline even though this is by no means the case. Society's preoccupation with youth and media/marketing definitions of beauty lead to an inevitable loss of confidence as one ages. We need to develop a positive and encouraging attitude toward partner sex and masturbation in later age that recognises both as beneficial, natural, and healthy. However. on the positive, later age often means we have less pressures and commitments and more free time providing ample opportunity for self and partnered orgasms leading to the real possibility of a reinvigorated sexual awakening