Getting with a best friends EX?

What do you think about this? Personally i think it's wrong but don't have much to go into just 'i can't help the way i feel'.

 

depends on how long since they broke up and how your friend feels about it.

and how hot she is of course.

 

I tried to do that once but had little success. It was way back in 11th grade and she had way too many hangups over him. I spent some quality time with her and told her that what she was going through was normal, and I didn't really like her ex either (even though we were close friends). I found out later that he had taken her virginity and she had thought because of it she'd be with him forever and was completely heartbroken over it. I dunno what happened, but I think she was just a weirdo who was culturally ingrained into the abstinence bullshit. So I gave up on hooking up with her and let her suffer in her own pity.

 

Well, I can't really say much on the matter since my boyfriend now was high school friends with my ex fiance, but I think it all depends on timing and how close you and this friend are. I'm with my boyfriend only because he doesn't talk to my ex anymore, but he wouldn't date me for the longest time because he felt it was morally wrong.

If you feel ANY guilt, don't do it, but talk to the friend and see what they say...and ask them to be honest because you can't have a barrier put between you over a relationship

 

I'm pretty much best friends with the girl and split up with her only a few months ago, the guy is also my best friend i've known him since i was born and always spent loads of time with him.

I've told them both lots of times that i would find it wrong and horrible if they ever got together they say they wouldn't but it doesn't look that way at all.

Then my Mum today was trying to tell me it would be ok for them to get together...!!? she thinks they are gonna get together as well

 

Why its important to get out and meet new people, so your not continually looking to poo where you eat

 

Depends on how serious it was and if your friend thinks it's cool.

 

Don't know my friends opinion but my EX thinks it's fine and thinks i'm being unfair in my opinion even though she claims she won't get with him.

 

Emotions aren't rational so I doubt whether they can be be fair or unfair..

Personally; I think it's wrong to get between other people's (potential) love just because you'll feel awkward about it -- I'd say suck it up; but it's your life :mickey:

 

Yeah i get what your saying but i've done a lot for these two people and i ask for this one thing in return and would like to get it even if i may be being a pussy.

 

Would you fold to salvage the friendship?
Do you think your feelings may change over time?
Are you still into her?
Who broke up with whom?

 

I broke up with her. I do really like her but staying in the relationship didn't seem right and i feel better in a sense single as i think that i'm better looking for a new relationship rather than being in one i'm not 100% happy with.

Over time my feelings could change i guess.

I would accept it but i'd be a bit let down.

 

I don't get what the problem is then.

To be fair, I've never broken up with someone, but it seems to me if you did the breaking up, the other should be fair game to any.

 

Even when i was in a relationship with her i always told her if we split up i don't care if you get with any of my friends just as long as it's not him. She always claimed she wouldn't.

If i never said this to her and she never claimed she wouldn't then i'd probably be a lot more accepting of the situation if you get me.

 

Shit my best friend started dating my boyfriend...while we were still dating. And yeah...it kinda put a damper on the friendship for awhile, but I got over it. And my boyfriend now...my ex once said, "He's probably one of my best friends." But my ex dumped me and pussyfooted around for the 4 months I actually did wait on him (because he said, "Give me some time, I'm just not ready right now.") and someone came along and struck my interest. You broke up with her, it's none of your business who she chooses to see.

 

Weird.
Why him, what's the difference?

 

Because we're best friends and we always hang out, i don't want it rubbed it my face like that.

 

my friends (Ex) best friend recently started dating her ex boyfriend whom she dated for 3 years.. it's been about 2 years since they broke up, and has been in a relationship with another guy for quite a few months now. when she found out they were dating she was very angry and told them that she didn't want to have anything to do with them at all anymore.

when i heard about it all, i could understand that it feels like a betrayal to her that her 'best friend' would date the guy she dated for years, but i also thought that if these two people love each other, and she is supposed to love this other guy now, why does it matter? she obviously didn't feel they were supposed to be together, so she shouldn't feel as if she owns this couple as the 'best friend' and the 'ex' only and not acceptingly acknowledge them for what they want to be together.. not sure.. its a sticky one.

 

She guilt tripped me and i'd been on an all night bender so i told her fine you can get with him.

Don't think he'll get with her though after something i said awhile back, time will tell though.

 

i would only care if the person was one of those friends who you always blatantly knew fancied your girlfriend, and were trying to get with your her whilst you were still dating each other. we've all known one.