My girlfriend and I don't really have much sex. I am the type of guy who would do it everyday if he could. But my girlfriend isn't that way, she has a very low sex drive. She has never masturbated which I think has a big role in her low sex drive. I have thought of getting her a vibrator or something so she can get in the habbit of wanting a orgasm. She also thinks having sex more then sometimes is 'trashy'. She also is like scared of her own fluids from her body it's weird. If we have sex and I'm wearing a condom and pull it out she won't jack me off because she doesn't want to get 'vagina juice' on her hands. We are both younger 18/ 18. It seems like rarely is she in the 'mood' to have sex. I just want to have sex, she'll give me a blowjob if I ask her but sex is outta the picture. Also she is nervous of getting cervix cancer from having sex, she has never had a pap smear she doesn't want to pay a lot for that and doesn't want her mom to find out. I just want to have sex not have her give me head I wanna make her feel good too but she rarely wants it. Any suggestions, I feel her having sex with me a lot isn't trashy it's physically intimate and loving.
wow, i'm in the same situation as you! only, it's my boyfriend that's never in the mood. i lost my virginity when i was 22 and i was NEVER in the mood. I think i had sex with my ex boyfriend only 6 times the year and half we dated!!! i don't know alot of girls who are into sex at 18. just wait a couple years, around 24 25, we women really hit our sexual peak. there's really not a whole lot you can do to get her in the mood. there as nothing my ex could have done to make me want it more. and when he complained it made me upset. i'm puzzled by the fact she doesn't touch herself.... and the fact she is grossed out by her own juices on her hand. that's definetly wierd. i think you'll have a hard time enjoying sex with someone who seems so uptight about sex.
has your girlfriend ever had an orgasm? if she hasn't, that might be why she's not too eager. regardless, I have to agree with enjoi:
Well today we got into a long talk and she doesn't know what turns herself on. We have had sex before and she has had a orgasm even came before. Is there something I can do to help?
I think the key to getting her more interested is to focus on her pleasure before yours. You said you're the type of guy "who would do it everyday if he could"-well, yeah, you're an 18 year old guy-LOL. Most young men could get off humping a cactus. Women take a little more TLC in general. I would take the time to make sure everything is extra romantical and special. It also sounds like she has some discomfort/guilt around having sex. Make sure that you are letting her know how special she is and that she can trust that she is safe. Finally, there are a lot of public clinics that are no/low cost; most of these are completely confidential. She needs to get a pap. Her life could literally depend on it. Cheers
