Girlfriend gave another guy BJ

So i am / was quite depressed about the fact that my girlfriend gave her ex-bf a blowjob... she told me that because it was her first bf, she didnt want to make it seem like she didnt like him - she also said that she didnt enjoy it... i believe her, its just everytime i see that guy its like im being punched in the gut... i cant get over the feeling and the day after she told me i didnt even feel like kissing her anymore... i now realize that i dont care because i love her for who she is and not what she does... she regrets that it happens and so do i... any help on things i should say to her about it? should i leave it as it is? comments appreciated...

btw: we dont do any of that stuff, no sex, no bj, no 69... we are clean- for now

 

why are you still with her?

Got damn what the fuck is wrong with you people... only on Hip forums.

 

ok can we get a lil clarification here before rasprohesy her starts going on a tirade
are you saying that she did this while she was together with you, or are you just discovering that she had that experience with her ex when they were together & your having a hard time comming to grips with the fact that shes not as inexperienced as you?
i think thats what you meant right? not that this just happened?

 

youre 14. im assumign shes aroudn the same age. people make stupid decisions sometimes, epseically when theyre that young. youre going to have to find a way to deal with it or break up with her

 

this is from a while ago.... altho i just found out last week... she and i both know it was stupid, and i forgive her, its just that i found it hard to kiss her knowing that something like that had been in her mouth.... is that wrong? now im ok with it, but for a couple of days... i dont want to talk to her about it, cuz it will bring up bad memories... i think the thing that frustrates me most is the fact that she still talks to him... she brings him up in conversations sometimes and that really annoys me bcuz i know what he did with her - even tho it shouldnt b a problem, cuz i love her for who she is

 

rasprophecy:
i am still with her cuz i love her.... ur 19, u should understand that... im not with her cuz i wanna get in bed with her, im with her bcuz she has a great personality, we share similar interests, ideas and we love hanging out with each other

 

when you get older and find out who they have been sleeping with, thats when you look at people a diff way. Although i cant blame you for feeling gross about imagining her giving oral cuz us dudes are just gross and you know that lol. I as well think oral is gross and i to think of a girl in a different light after knowing of something like that. But thats just me, i dont think most people would lose any sleep over it.

But it was a long time ago, its one thing if it was like 15 minutes before she was making out with you at a party ir somethin cuz that would be whack as hell. But shes clean by now. And it sounds like she is being really honest with you and i think you should try and focus on that instead of her past sexual experiences. We all have them.....but when you start talking to your current lovers about their past sexual experiences, i think its better off just not to hear about that shit lol. As i have gotten older i have learned more and more how to block out negative thoughts like that, or anything for that matter a lot better. You should try it....just look at things on the bright side.

 

wait till your ready for her to give u 1 & you'll be glad she has a clue what shes doing..
damn like they said in a few years, every1 u meet will have a past..pasts dont matter at all, on;y now matters & if shes honnest open & faithful with you, then thats all that matters

 

yeah dude thats normal...best advice is dont ask questions you odnt want to know the answers too.

I found out my wife slept with a guy who used to kick my ass as a kid. that really bit me to the ass....I didnt need to know that, it didnt effect buddy just me, next time dont ask what your girlfriend did or didnt do with other guys,especially if you know the guy.

theres always tension when your young with the old boyfriend.....dont worry about it
you may not grow out of it but you will learnnot to ask questions like that again.

by the way, ive never passed the creamsicle into my wife ....I like kissing her and I just dont think I could kiss her if she did that

 

Damn dude if you are only going to date girls that have had no previous sexual knowledge then you are going to lead a lonely excistence. I do think at your ages that you could hold off a while on this knowledge however.

 

agreed
i dont really get some of the prudish attitudes in this thread. so she sucked some gusy cock while you two werent dating. whatever. if both parties enjoyed oral sex, theres nothign wrong with it. ive gone down on almost every guy ive dated (a whopping 7 people now at the age of 21), its not liek their cum is still in my mouth or anything

 

she didnt enjoy it.... she was pressured into it and that makes me feel worse... i dont hold it against her.... you may call me naive but whoever said i would want other ppl over her later on in life?

 

if we were older i dont think i'd mind as much - its just that she gave a guy a bj at 14?

 

Edit: your story wasnt straight little kid.

 

some of you are helpful
rasprophecy --> you can go fuck off plz stop replying

 

I think naive is an understatement. Fisrt off, she enjoyed it, thats not what she tells you but yea. She is just relecting back your additude on the subject, a lot of girls do this. Second, you won't be with her for the rest of you life, I know you think that but nope.

My wife lost her virginity at 13. Maybe I should leave her?

 

^ well guys that IS kinda young to be doing that shit. makes her a little slut. sorry kid. move on. shes only gonna do it more. jus tellin the truth...

 

14 years old is pretty average for people to start dicking around.

 

wow ok maybe i thought u guys could help, but obvious i was wrong... u guys are retards, i dont want to leave her just bcuz she did that...
Haid: y would u want to leave her? i never said i wanted to leave my gf...
alawlesslulu: it doesnt make her a slut... i guess only a real slut would automatically assume other ppl are sluts without even knowing them

 

a very common problem in this forum, every one knows everything, dude listen, if you love her so what if she sucked some kids dick, age does not matter nowadays people are sexually active much sooner than of yesteryear.she is not a slut. who gives a fuck how many times or how many people someone fucks, as long as your responsible and not hurting yourself or others and not spreading diseases. and by the way no body really KNOWS how many partners their lovers have had.i would stay with her and in time maybe it won't bother you so much.if it does than maybe you shouldn't be together. good luck dude.