Girls telling guys when to have sex

Ok, so this comes up now and again, yesterday I was drinking with friends a buddy of mine was telling me about his new girlfriend he's been seeing for a week.

He went on like 3 or 4 dates with her and the last date she brought up sex and asked him how many girls he's been with, and then after he told her she told him and then said she usually has a time table so she has sex with a guy usually after a month.

One of my few female friends I know does this too, when she goes on more than 2 dates with a guy she brings up sex and says she usually has sex after a certain time, she told me she did this because that's the easiest way to keep a guy so he won't want to date another girl at that early stage in a relationship.

Good strategy right?

I'm just wondering how many girls here do this, like, tell a guy you've been seeing for about a week that he will get some at a certain point if he's a good boy.

 

lol, thats some dumb shit. like seriously, trying to leverage sex like that.

i let the ladies i'm seeing, if its more than one, know that if im not blowing her mind then im probably having 6 hour pornstar sex marathons with someone else.

on the other hand, if i'm into a girl enough to seriously "date" her then i'll be monogamous, but that stage comes after i decide if we click both mentally and physically. i'm not about to pussyfoot around for a month, especially if i've been on mad dates and hanging and shit;if we click, we click and our pieces fit together, ya hear?

 

I think that it's lame that someone would have a time frame anyway, I treat it as a case by case thing. My ex it was 3 months, I slept with my fiancee before we were offical. Each guy is different.

 

Do it when it feels right.

It's not something the woman gives to the man. It's something two people share.
The perception that the opposite is true is, I think, a very disruptive factor to a lot of relationships.

 

I think a month is a good bar to set.

Not that I don't believe in clicking but most of the women I dated before my fiance were strangers, and I wouldn't be comfortable having sex with a woman I just knew for a week, and my fiance I knew for 2 years before we started going out and it was like 5 weeks before we had sex.

It's about restraint, when you stop and think, I find it hard to believe that a guy that's only gone on 3 or 4 dates with a woman has thought things through.

Although I don't particularly like girls who TELL the guy how long he's gonna wait, cause that kinda ruins the surprise, but I can see how useful it is in having the guy know he's not getting some next day, lol.

 

No time table. When its right, its right, whether its the first date or the tenth.

 

I think that's pretty stupid. I'll sleep with a guy when I want to sleep with him... could be a week, a month or a year from when we start dating.