I am indeed a student in high school. I have been in this school for a few years now, have virtually no friends (2 or 3 that talk ocassionally). That being said you may or may not be able to deduct that I am a very shy person. This is about a girl I've been tearing up the insides over, apparently. I really like her but have literally no way of talking to her. There has only been one chance I have ever had to talk to her and I blew it because I am such a shy person. None of my classmates I know of are in any class with her. I really don't know her, but she seems pretty swell from what I have heard and what I have seen. Literally the closest I have had to being in contact was last Friday, she sat 20 feet ahead at the Veterans Day ceremony. She happened to glance back and I gave a rather daring (for me) wave at her, and she smiled. It looked as if she smiled at me but I'm not sure. Well.. since I have had this huge boost in confidence that I have some sort of chance, but like I mentioned before I don't have a way to talk to her at all. I was actually in one class with her, library, every Wednesday sixth period. However for whatever reason I was switched to taking S.S. at sixth period and don't know exactly when it is that I go to library. I mean fuck I've been thinking about this gal all night, I can't sleep! It's caused me to take a serious shrink in my sleeping time (which beforehand was practically not a wink) So what do you guys suggest I do? I know I'm going to try something tommorow, (or more like a matter of hours as it is 1:13AM EST where I am located) if my shyness doesn't overcome me, although it probably will. If I knew her Myspace or something about her online this would be soo much easier (I have such an easy time talking online but a hard time offline).
Breaking the ice is easy...go up to her...if she's in the library and she's reading a book, ask her what she's reading. If you happen to notice her in the hallway, compliment her! "That's a great shirt." or "I really like the way you are wearing your hair today." Make her feel special. I know, easier said than done, but once you break the ice everything else is cake.
Well, now I'm not in library with her. Got moved to doing Social Studies at that period. I see her in the lunchroom (she walks by my table) for 20 seconds at the most. Sometimes I think I'm antisocial or something.. What I participate in is rather less-than-average. The only time I really leave the house anymore is to go to school. It's sad, I used to be one of the most popular people in my last school , now I'm at the bottom. Oh well. Women aren't exactly my top subject either, but before I go off the topic too much I'll hit "Post Quick Reply".
Does any of your friends associate with her at all? Maybe you could get her IM or myspace URL from them if they are friends with her?
I have no idea if they do or not, actually. Although I feel it only neccessary to go ahead and admit I'm only in a regular classroom for 3 periods.
hm...christmas is quite soon, maybe you could kill 2 birds with one stone and do something nice for everyone, like buy a box of candy canes or something. then you could intentionally pass her in the corridor and give her one btw i got the idea because this really shy girl in my school actually did that, and everyone was so touched was awesome!
i lke the candy cane idea...that's awesome...but how about tying a ribbon w/your email address or something around it...so if she emails you...you would know if she was interested or not...my BF is quite shy also...i was the one that went up to him...but now cuz of his shyness i'm really his first GF and he's 30...so just something to think about...
its almost as easy off line once you get started. Aw, the hell - what have you to loose: march up to her ,"I'm Bill, I'm shy, I don't know how to talk to anybody let aloneva good lookin girl like you, but I'd really like to get to know you better. How about helping me do it?" she may shit all over your ego- but you sound low anyway. What's new? You'll know she ain't worth dick and you can forget her. On the other hand she might be attracted by your admission, by your need to be helped, by the challenge. You might hear her say, "well, we could start with a movie or a meal.." and you've beat your chances. Go for it and report back. Not that I'm not crazy or anything, but quit hiding! Go become Just talk.
ooh that's a good idea! put a little note on it, something very short and simple...and leave your email on it haha but make sure you give it to HER...bit embarrassing if the big guy down the hall thinks you have a crush on him
Just Smilin - All of us guys have been where you are, so just suck it up and think of something you have in common with her, and go up to her or turn to her when you are in a common activity and start a conversation. If she likes you, you may get something going. If she shuts you off, it may be for any number of reasons: (1) she already has a boyfriend; (2)she doesn't like boys; (3) she is in her period and has PMS; (4)she is in a hurry and doesn't want to talk; (5) her parents don't want her to date boys: or (6) she doesn't feel attracted to you or want to be your friend. Take stock of the similarities and differences you have with her (in addition to what is between your legs), and see how much common ground there is, and try to exploit that. Rent the movie "Love,Actually", which deals with unrequited love (look it up), and you will see that you have to make your feelings known to her. In one scene in that movie, both the man and the woman desperately wanted to meet and get to know the other one, but neither would make the move to do so, and the opportunity was almost lost forever. Don't let this happen. But don't stalk your girl - you don't want her to think you are weird. Report back to us on your progress.
