Define good sex...................... what does it mean to you. how do you define good sex with someone?
if nothing itches/goes green/ gets crusty afterwards..... no "little surprises" pop out nine months later...... it's good sex
Good sex? Good sex is as Oz describes. GREAT sex is when not only what we do to each others' bodies, but when our minds explode. Violent chemistry, especially mentally. On the same page. Movement for movement, and our minds shift together - where one ends, the other begins and it doesn't stop. Yet just as there are many ways of caring or loving someone, there are many ways to express it in the form of sex/lovemaking/fucking. Sex isn't just sex. Great sex isn't just linear in polygamous or monogamous relationships. There are parallels for different situations.
Good sex is my face smeared with juices, my instrument flacid from overextension, my heart beating fast, my loins (for lack of a betterword) hurting, my brain numb, and a great sense of being loved - reaffirmed! ......and knowing she feels the same way.
So many things could be considered good sex... but i think its awesome when both people get off at the same time... its magical....and stuff
I tend to respond physically every time, even when it's forced upon me (yes, that's sad but true) ... so I don't define good sex by physical reactions. The best sex I have ever had -- the kind that makes me laugh AND cry AND have spasms AND want to explode -- has been with someone I truly love, truly trust, truly WANT. We have connections on so many levels : spiritual, social, emotional, and physical. I'm sure everyone has his or her different preferences, but those are mine.
I hate to say it but if it is forced upon you, its not sex, its RAPE... even if it is your man, remember, if he cares or loves you, he would not do that. My idea of good sex, is an orgasm for both parties... My idea of GREAT sex, is both people laying there, both bodies covered in sweat, both chests heaving heavily from trying to get air, and feeling your legs, abs, and genetalia pulsing from the release just moments before... THAT is heaven... especially if you both came together.. As Paris would say: "THats HAWT!"
I think great sex starts in the mind. Let's say you're meeting in the afternoon or evening. Make a phonecall in the morning, set the mood for a fantasy. Let that fantasy spin in your head all day, meet for a drink, casually touching each other, sharing another piece of info like "when we get back to mine I wanna..." Chew on that for a while, end up making out heavily on the way, getting inside, ripping each other's clothes off, unable to NOT be naked together, and let what's in the mind be shared among the sheets. You're so in tune that you'll listen to each others bodies and not let go until you know you're good and ready to finish together.
Nice..... "sex" is sex. great sex is like...laying there afterwards thinking.."wow! is it really possible to do that again?
