Harassed while nude

Hey guys, I'm new to the forum *waves*.

Speaking of waves.....ok. So a couple of nights ago, after some partying, me and some friends decided to go to the beach. It was 3am, and I was with three boys, and two girls. The two girls didn't want to go in the water, or take their clothes off, so whatever, I went skinny dipping with the guys. It was so much fun! It was the first time in 4 years that I had gone skinny dipping! I was having the time of my life, and the guys weren't being pervy/weren't trying to start anything with me.

To give you an idea, we were in Tel Aviv, a huge city, on the beach (obviously). Many people go nude at the late hours, in the beach. It was 3am. Near us was this "on the beach" bar, but we were maybe 200 meters from it. Just having fun and all. Suddenly this guy walks towards us, he must have been around my age. I had my back to him so I didn't notice him walking towards me, but when he was close enough, and saying something to the guys, I turned around, and he grabbed my boob.

So one of the guys I was with jumped in front of me, and started yelling at the guy. And I started yelling at the guy "who the fuck do you think you are? you fucking perv!" etc etc. I was quite upset about the situation.

Later on my friend told me that I didn't handle the situation well, that I shouldn't have said anything, just walked away, and left.

My question to you all, is have you ever been harassed while nude? Also, how would be the appropriate way to handle it? Was it perhaps not the appropriate time to be nude?

 

If some freak decides to randomly grope you, put his hands all over YOUR body, then you have every right to punch him in the face. If you didnt do this, you handled the situation incredibly well and better than I would have!

 

'lo!

My friend's reasoning was that "getting a rise out of you is what they want". I'm all, please, it ain't the school bully and this isn't the 3rd grade. Or somefin like that.

I agreed with that reasoning when she said it later that night, as we were walking home (clothed!) and these men were shouting rude comments at me, and I shouted back, but I think the difference between saying and doing is huge.

*shrug*

 

*waves back*

i think u handled it very well, if you dint puch the guy u deserve a medal

 

All your friends are pussies, because they all should have jumped on the guy and beat him 3 feet under the sand.

And the guy who told you that should just go ahead and emasculate himself. He can carry it around on a platter with a sign that says, "I'm a really, really nice guy. You can take this and more, but please don't get mad at me!"

 

You were assaulted. You have every right to be pissed off & offended.

 

havng read over the previous posts, I can't see why you think that.

Anyway yes, if you get assaulted by someone who's been drinking till 3am, you're not going to deliberate on how to "manage" the situation, you're going to freak out and yell at him. Sounds like he wouldn't have been amenable to a more reasoned approach in any case.

 

Sorry if I didn't make it clear. It was one of my female friends who gave me the advice to ignore him. I don't know if the guy had been drinking until 3am, I mean we were definitely tipsy (I don't get drunk); he might have just been a creep (he was a random person, and it happened so fast so I couldn't really tell if he was drunk).

Even though I guess my friend did give me bad advice, I'm thankful for what she did next. See I yelled at the guy a few choice words, and the guys I was with yelled at him and banished him to another part of the beach (I think they were scared to physically fight him because they were naked, and it could have gotten political real fast since the guy was an arab). After that I was content to continue bathing in the beach with my group of friends, because I felt comfortable with them. My friend who gave me the bad advice, however, quickly ran out of the water, collected my clothes, and demanded that we go back home.

Which was a good idea. We should have left at that point. Anyway the sun was coming up, and the hours were becoming more and more dangerous for a girl to be nude in.