has romance died?

Seriously do you think people have become so ackward and or obsessed with just getting laid that romance has gone out the window. Has the whole process of someopne treating you bad then you treating someone else bad and so on and so fourth gotten out of control and strangled the desire and apperciation for romance? have we become a society where hook-ups and fuck buddies are prefered over actual relationships?

 

I don't think it's a societal thing. It's an interpersonal thing.

I also don't buy the idea that people are more promiscuous today than before.

Romance requires a lack of neediness, and capturing someone's imagination. That's all.

It can't go away. It's a human need.

 

Things have changed, no doubt. In highschool I was awkward looking and rather quiet but I had no problems finding gf's. Couldn't really get laid though.

After highschool it seemed like getting laid was a walk in the park and actually finding somebody suitable and willing to date was much harder. Still seems that way from what I see though I'm not really in the market for either.

 

it changed with the language hookups n hit that like fulfilling a habit nothing more

i think the lack of romance is whats making the more primal addiction adicting ..i mean total lack of romance leads to quest to fill that voide .. the wanna get laid instinct ..lookin for a hookup comes in...

 

For me, intimacy has become more important with age. In my 20s I would fuck anything.

 

I'm the type of dude that needs romance in my life. I haven't had it for a long time though. I prefer to feel close to someone, emotionally, as opposed to physicially. Sure, sex is wonderful, but only when you find a person you can connect with on a spiritual level, can sex reach it's full potential and be as wonderful as it is supposed to be.

Pussy is pussy, but when sex is with someone you really care for......it's so much more than that, and people don't realize it because they've never had that connection with someone.

I believe it HAS gotten out of hand, and it's society's fault. People these days are more concerned with bustin a nut than finding love, or so it seems. Kids are taught by the media that sex isn't really a big deal and they see people "hooking up" all the time, with no emotional connection, and it's twisted their ideals. There's nothing wrong with fuckin for the sake of fuckin, but people do need to know that there is something more out there.

 

I think you are all right. Ok sidebar have people gone more toward hookup and flings because they have been hurt and are afraid to put themsleves out there again?

 

In the 70s people were saying the same thing. "Romance has died" dun dun dun.


In the late 19th century...the same. Just read Chekhov.

I really don't buy it that people are hooking up more today than before. If anything, post-AIDS, studies seem to show the opposite.

But because people live vicariously through the media, there is a general IMPRESSION that people are fucking around more.

Go to the how many partners have you had thread: Very few astounding numbers. Most people haven't even had 10 partners!

 

i've had more than 10 does that make me a man whore?




"in the river ganges god damns my name"

 

No. I wouldn't say that until you get up there to 50-100 range.

 

i had my high numbers in my low numbers
ive also wspent the last 20 years around the most open loving beautiful people but by choice have chosen not to be with anything easy only with what i thought had a future

ive gone long periods without and i'll admit to concidering a couple mistakes


i had been hurt alot over the years and thats why i graduated away not towards hookups

romance is woven through every fiber of my being
romance and love are the 2 things fading the most and love is the 1 thing that can pull us outta the mess were in

 

hmmmmm

 

I think that it is like cancer
not in the bad form though

I think that when you get rid of cancer (romance) from the brain (relationship) by using medical crap (sex) then there is alwas a chance of cancer (romance) to grow back into the brain (relationship).

Basically, romance is hardly holding on, but it's a strong mother fucker

 

brilliantly said..lol

 

I'm going to have to disagree. Loyalty is the most quickly fading of virtues and that loss and lack of loyalty results in the lack and loss of love and romance.

So I guess I don't so much disagree on the point as much as where it stems from.

 

well its a delicate recipe and too lil of any 1 ingrediant and it all goes to waste

 

alright well i get what praxis is saying but coming from someone being in the younger generation, i feel like things changed. Even from when I was growing up to now when my little cousins are growing up. My little cousins are already cutting their underwear into thongs, lol...Theyre like 8.

I know ONE girl in my age group whos still a virgin. Most of them actually lost their virginity at 13/14.

I just think that since it seems mad easy to get laid, that guys dont even really have to try anymore. And I see these guys that get pussy, and theyre all immature dickheads who do NOT even deserve it. So yeah, thats how i feel about it....

 

I guess this makes sense. People are more mobile. Neighborhoods are non-existent, etc.

That's the only socio-analytic concession I'm willing to make. But there is such a thing as fleeting romance.

 

My experience is that people assume a lot of people are having sex when they aren't. Either because of dress or demeanor. The thongs and the banter don't really tell me much.

But maybe I'm wrong. I AM from a different generation from yours.

 

actually this is wrong.

now we have myspace and cellphones and text and instant communication to the point where, we DO know who fucks who, when it happens, and lots of the details.

I know therse still of course always just talk. People think I fucked a rockstar haha
and theres always gona be people having lots of sex no matter what generation. it just seems its starting at younger age now, and taken even more less seriously.