Having a bi wife. Are you cool with it? (merged)

It's all good guys. Thanks!

 

Mrs H point out where you feel I have been disrespectful and i'll explain myself (Can't speak for anyone else) I did think my original comment might have been a bit hard hitting so I then went on to explain myself.
however if I think a comment is disrespectful then I tend to state whats on my mind
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It just seemed like the whole mood of this post was angry. I didn;t find the original poster's comments to be disrespectful. I don;t feel he was disrespectful, he just sees things from a different perspective.

I understand why you said what you said, it just seemed harsh at first. You did explain yourself though. No problems, Samhain. Let's talk about that hotel room thing and let this one go, ok?

 

anytime you think i'm harsh you can pull me up on it, in fact I would like you too, people should be able to back up what they have said, so when I asked for examples, it was because of that, not because i'm at all defensive with you, because I'm not
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Yeah but no but yeah but no but yeah.

let me take a wee first.

 

go to sacred spiral if you want to spam, little britain!
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Just trying to lighten things up again.



I thought that might make you smile. I will now return this thread to it's original intent.

 

Guys tend to say its okay until it really happens and they realize its not all about what they imagined/wanted...(three somes, watching, a fantasy)- that most likely they wont even be involved and oh... an emotional attraction can occur and the women could want that person more then them.

they want the idea/fantasy, say its fine... but when it comes down to it... they dont want it when they realize the reality.

 

hmmmmmm I've just read it again and saw the 'most guys' bit again I have to disagree, the people I know that are in a monogamous relationships would hate their partner to go with someone else would that be male or female.
I think (similar to what lucky says) theres a huge difference between a few blokes tittering about watching two women and a mans wife actually having sex with another woman.
I have no problem with open relationships, I am in one myself, but it does have to be thought through a bit more than 'oh gosh i get to see my sife with another woman' because the fantasy can prove a lot different in reality like lucky says
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Glad you got me. If a guy thinks its "just sex" and "hot" they often dont realize the emotional connection that can be involved and its not "hot" FOR THEM. haha.

 

yeah like women could never have an emotional fulfilling gay relationship, the only reason for them to have sex is to titilate men :toetap:

 

Yep.

 

I know you got the irony there, but I'll just point it out for people who don't know me
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I am so glad someone finally mentioned the 3 some reality....because I get so tired of hearing...can I watch...like THAT would really put me in the mood !!!!!

 

Can I watch?
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Hahaha.....Yes Sam.....YOU can watch...because you wouldnt want to jump in the middle of things ...or be doing something distracting at the foot of the bed !!!

 

I might pick my feet, would that be distracting!!!!!!!!
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lol. sheesh. anyway, dave is totally okay with me pursuing a sexual relationship with another woman. he'd be okay with me persuing a sexual fling with another man, as well. our only rule is about not allowing things to move past sexual friendship. to do so would destabilize our home, and the home comes first. neither of us are particularly the jealous sort. we're just not. we know where we are emotionally. it's about a constant interaction and communication with one another. should either of us feel threatened, we're able to say to each other "okay, something's not right here." and that's that.

 

has it ever got to the point that you have caught off the sexual fling quickly because you have felt an emotional attachment starting?
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My first wife and I had a similar relationship...more so her than I. She had a spiecal gf whom she enjoied spending time with alone; however I was "invited" to join in on a few occasions. I too had a female friend whom I enjoied sexually a few times. However it became aparent that it was the 3-some she enjoied the most. And begain to pursue mostly other women and even another man on 2 occasions to join in on the sexual bon fire that had been built.
Ultimately it caused the death of our relationship...it destabilized our home and we became desensitized to each others true needs and our feelings for one another.
So it isn't for everyone. In my relationship with my third and current spouse each of us has friend's of the other sex and there is no jealousy; but niether of us has a sexual relationship with them. Has worked out 100% better.