Having a relationship with Stepsister?

Hi, during the past I knew my stepsister (before our parents were married) and I used to pretty much be obsessed with her. I was until our parents got married at least. I knew then and there that I had no chance with her, but that made me want her more. Anyway, that was like 5 years ago and recently she broke up with her boyfriend, and while she was sad and vulnerable, I told her about my feelings in the past and how they haven't completely gone away. We had a long talk about it, and eventually she leaned in and kissed me. All these feelings I used to have came rushing back, and now I really look at her as more then just a stepsister or a friend. It would be the greatest thing in the world to have a relationship with her, but she is my stepsister. I really have strong feelings for her now and I think if I don't act on them I will be incredibly sad. I'm just not sure what to do?

 

it would be awkward, but not necessarily wrong. you both have to make sure it is something you really want to pursue and take it slow. just my advice.

 

Yeah it would just be hard to tell any of my friends or parents about. Plus I know that if we ever broke up it would completely ruin our relationship, which has always been really good. But if we don't pursue it, I don't think i'll ever be able to let it go.

 

maybe you should wait to tell people about it until you are sure things are going well.

 

But still have you know anyone dating their step sibling? But that's not my biggest concern, its if we ever break up sometime down the line.

 

she's just your step sister. it's really not a big deal. it's not like y'all still live under the same roof with your parents right?

 

She lives with me and goes to school with me, and we are like best friends.

 

It could make family reunions awkward, but answer this question before you do anything;

When you are an old man, would you rather be living with regret, or a strange awkward family?

If you're that close with your family, they'll hopefully always be there. Some regrets never go away.

The thing is, if you never act on your feelings, you'll have to live with regret. If you act on them and things don't go as planned and your relationship with her is ruined, you'll probably have to live with regret.

 

I don't want to come off completely negative, but I am sure its going to sound that way... sorry...

Young love/infatuation tends to be a fleeting thing..
Young people are not notorious for handling breakups well..

I have experience both working and living with ex's (adult mature woman mind you) and it was a miserable experience for the most part..

Keep an eye on the future.. You might live today sooner than tomorrow but when it rolls around you dont want it to be a total mess.. (our environment is proof of that)

 

So your saying don't pursue it?

 

Stay close, be friends... I would fear much more could be..... well potentially quite regrettable...

 

yes i understand that but you don't know how strongly I feel about her. After 5 years of not being able to have the one thing you want most? and then finally having a chance and not taking it?

 

I certainly don't.... and can't even begin to imagine your situation..
I cant offer you the direction you will choose.. Only offer a perspective that might be worth consideration..

I wish I were more a romantic, that I lived for the moment guided only by my heart..
But in this situation I wouldn't wish it on you....

 

Well im thinking i might go for it, you don't know how long i've dreamed of this, seriously like I don't think i've ever wanted anything more then the love of my stepsister. Honestly.

 

Love each other then.. mentally, spiritually...
Be careful and think hard before loving each other sexually..

Action is an individual thing..
All actions come with repercussions..
Its up to the individual to gauge if the repercussions are acceptable.
If so, they are responsible to accept the repercussions when they come about...

 

Ok, how old are you and how old is she? Until both of you are 18+ you are under the authority of your parents.

I think that legally you two can do anything you want as you are not of blood relation. Would be a shocker for friends, family may be dismayed, but the fun you two could have!

Walk into a restaurant, and start making out. People comment on it and you tell them "Nah, she's not my girlfirend, she's my sister!"
ROFL!

I bet that would be a hell of a giggler for ya!

And THAT is a stunt that is perfect for a small bible-thumping Christian town anywhere!! :smilielol5:

 

I'm with guile on this one.

I don't think its "wrong" or off limits, but much more likely to be regrettable than a good lasting thing.

And, by "much more likely to be regrettable" I mean I would bet large sums of money on it not working longterm. My bet isn't against you; its against the odds of this type of situation working well.

 

I say go for it if you both want to. All relationships have a potential to be "regrettable". The fact that she is the child of the person one of your parents is married to doesn't mean anything. Your family can also have issues with anyone you're with, but that's their issue.

 

easy. break up your parents.

 

I came.