having a WTF moment...

so my husband went to a week long conference in atlanta. some work, some schmoozing, all that. after work they'd have all these nice t hings like being bussed to ball games, with free beer, free dinners, one day they went golfing at a posh country club resort. they stayed at a big, gorgeous country club with all the best amenities. dave would call me up, having a great time, a bit tipsy, laughing and joking with his coworkers and new friends.

from there, he took a week-long vacation. he's out in the woods with all his buddies, doing what he loves best. calling me up in the middle of the night, drunk and happy. all's well..

here's the wtf moment. apparently he thinks that this has been just as hard on him, being out there, as it is on me, being home with the two children. one just cut two brand new teeth and got sick. i haven't slept for over a week. i'm still working, with no help at all. i did take a trip to denver to hang out with a friend of mine, but the leak he'd been ignoring on my car was apparently brake fluid. my brakes went out, thankfully when i was only going 20mph. so my car is still in denver at my friend's house. thankfully i have his jeep to use to get kai to school and such.

what pisses me off is that i've been completely and utterly trivialized. i know that when he gets home, he's going to be too exhausted from his trip and vacation to lend any serious help with the children. i can handle all this when he's exhausted from work, but i'm having a really hard time sympathizing right now because HE GETS TIME OFF. AND he got a vacation. being tired from vacation, not a big sympathy winner in my book. i'm tired, i'm cranky, and apparently i have no value.

thank you for allowing me to rant. because i know he won't let me.

 

Have a list of chores for him to do.

*cracks her radical whip*

 

sounds like you should take a vacation right about now....

 

and hopefully you're wrong about how he'll act and he will help out... but maybe some chores are in order anyway

 

i'm tired. i'm a bit hurt. i'm totally not wanting to have sex with him the moment he walks through the door. this will make him annoyed with me. i'll be accused of using sex as a weapon.

mind you, i'm running through the worst case scenarios in a very bad temper. i will most likely be totally over it within a few days, as soon as his post trip trantrums cease. the first couple days after he gets home from a trip are always kinda harsh.

 

hehe. he'll show up, filthy and stinky and horny...and i'll probably give it to him. then i'll feel better and will totally forget that i've been a total psycho bitch and was mad in the first place. then i'll come on here, remember how irritated i was, feel guilty and never say a word. *sigh* i can be such a doormat.

 

Kick his anus

 

naw, man, i'm not like that. i'll just have to cool off so i can tell him in the most rational terms possible. i never saw anything settle with a fight.

 

hmmm...to do it in a way he can't get mad or blame you.

what if as soon as he gets home you say 'oh thank god you're home baby and can take care of everything. I am exhaused and the kids missed you so much so I hope your VACATION left you well rested' and give him a hug and go to bed...and do not get up the next morning to make breakfast and just kinda sit out. pump lots of milk and leave it in the fridge.
good luck, that's a toughie.

 

if you're just 'too tired' to have sex then he won't say a thing about it, or shouldn't. you're the one with the vagina, use it to your advantage...nothing wrong with that imo.

 

he's promised to tie me up. AHAHAHA. okay, i'm not mad anymore.

 

now thats what we like to hear!

 

the best defense is a good offense. i think he knew he pissed me off. he came through the door, we showered, i totally got laid and i just can't stay mad when i've had sex. pre-emptive make up sex gets me every time.

 

God dont you hate that. I guess we all feel the same sometimes. My s/o would come home after work and expect me to be all pumped and ready to rage for hours cos thats how he feels after work, and its like "No bugger off, I'm shagged and I've had a hard day. I'll go out for a few drinks, but not all night" vbut apparently thatas not good enough ./.. phft!

 

This is why men suck so much. They are so fucking selfish and actually can't see anything from any other point of view but theirs. I have heard this kind of thing so many times from so many different women. I honestly don't know why men think that after both the man and woman have been at work all day the woman will still have the energy to cook clean and shag when the man is apparently so worn out he all he can do is sit and watch the TV. Fuck that. And don't even get me started on what happens when they get sick.

 

lol. mine caught my cold. he's coming home early from work to sleep it off. wish i could do that.

 

Yeah, when men get sick, the whole world comes to a hault, but women, we have to just keep on going!