I used to be a stoner... and I guess once a stoner always a stoner. Anyway, i was so honest and upfront about everything, hence i was so easy to get along with and i didnt have many worries... so i met this girl and fell in love with her over 2 years ago. At least i thought i loved her and i still do, i can't stop thinking about her and it is driving me crazy... I live in denver, co and i flew to boston, ma two times last year to see her, once for a suprise on her birthday. she seemed so much in love with me, wrote me letters, sent me stuff, called me all the time.. she transfered to denver and i thought it was to be close to me, the first couple weeks she was so into me wanting me to stay with her all the time... then about 2 weeks ago all of a sudden she says i smother her, and she needs her space.. it was a couple days and she was callin me saying she missed me and wanted me to come see her. I was dumb enough to go see her, we slept together and talked about it and she said she wanted to work it out and start over but not as intense as we were before, i asked her what i did and she says nothing. i havent talked to her for like a week and all i can think about is her.. i miss her so bad but i can't bring myself to call her... i hurt more than ever.. seems like i can't get over it.. what should i do? i love her to death and just want her to be happy but i am sick to my stomach and miss her constantly. I really dont know what to do? Later i found out she kissed this kid and said she would go to some dance with him, but she says she doesnt want to go and really doesnt like the guy... or so she tells me. What should i do??
It sounds to me like the problem is with her. If she wants space one minute and the next wants to be with you..It sounds like she's sending mixed signals out. If I were in your shoes, and I know how uncomfortable they are beleive me.. I'd back off a little and let her come to her own conclusions. If she's kissing guys she says she does'nt like, she is either trying to get some reaction out of you..Or is starved for attention. Either way.. There is little that you can do to fix the problem on your own. You have to wait for her shit to get together. That could take a day, or 10 years. Don't wait too long. There's a lot of deserving girls who won't play games. Maybe she does have some shit to work out. But she's pulling you into her confusion. Sometimes that's an ego boost for the confused (in this case it's her). I hope it all works out. Blue Skies...
Time to aks here whats up I think. I mean you thought you were both madly in love and nothing could be better right. So say that to her "I thought we were both having so much fun??". Sounds like your pretty confused I tihnk you need some answers.
Yeah thats all i want is some answers, because at this point it feels like this is all my fault! I hate it because i tryed so hard to make her happy and in the end i just get this... and for what?? what did i do?? I have asked those questions to her and all she ever says is "nothing.. you didnt do anything" ... "i just dont know what i want"... but then she calls me saying she misses me and we have sex and talk about it, and a few hours later she is back to the same ol bitch that just wants me gone... i dont understand!!!
