i'm fat. and it's been making me feel very unsexy. no offence to fat people, there are some very sexxxy fat people out there. but i don't feel sexy when i'm fat. i'm doing something about my weight, but i don't want to have to wait 6 months to give myself permission to feel sexy, wear sexy clothes....etc...etc..but i don't feel comfortable in the naughty underwear, short dresses and boots now that i wanna wear and i feel more driven to take care of my body when i feel sexy already. it's a base chakra energy thing. so...any suggestions?
Actually it's not just being fat. My face is covered in pimples. i moved to a really polluted city this year and it's fucked up my skin. And I pick at the pimples and they become scabs. Plus my partner is just NOT HORNY EVER. Well hardly ever. And he says it's not me, but it still makes me feel like shit. Why can't he just come into the room, scoop me up and carry me to the bedroom, rip my clothes off, kiss me all over and then make passionate love to me all night long like when we first got together?! I am lonely. When I'm horny I hide in the bathroom and use my vibrator. That's not right...shouldn't I be able to go and kiss my partner and we end up fucking? But no i have to hide away and get myself off like it's something shameful that I have to hide. FUCK!!!! Okay so this is more than just being fat yeah. But being fat is a big part of it. I fucking hate that I can't wear a tight shirt without having my tummy fatrolls being made to obvious. And my miniskirt and boots don't fit. I wanna be PRETTY, like one of those girls guys stare at!!! ARRGH!
is he on Xanax or things like that ? Once i knew one girl which complained all the time about this issue ("at least once in awhile a couple is supposed to FUCK, right?"), and it was because of pills. When you're on them you dont even feel like caring about your very home burning, left alone sex.
Donate some fat to me :tongue: Being sexy is not about size, get over it. Fat ppl can be sexy, you just gotta dress in clothes that compliments more flesh. I'm slim and flat-chested so there are clothes that I can't wear, like low-cut tops.
I had similar problems and it about drove me mad. Try exfoliating in the shower every day. This might sound a little odd but I use my fingernails, lightly, even on my face. It peels off all the oil and dead skin and makes the skin feel very soft -- plus you get the treat of pretending to give yourself a spa treatment Witch hazel also works. Try to find it as pure as possible, not cut with rubbing alcohol, as that will dry your skin out and make acne problems worse. Oddly, or maybe not, I found bicycling to relieve my physical and emotional problems. I used to be a workout freak and anorexic, and cycling makes me feel as relaxed as I did in the tedious days of counting reps and lifting weights -- yet without being trapped in the gym and worried about "burning that extra calorie." Instead I get on my bike, roll out, and don't even have to worry about it - my body tightens itself as I get to look at the scenery and feel the breeze in my hair. Not to mention that it is easy and efficient to do in a city environment. You might not like cycling, per se, but there is certainly something fun that you can do exercise-wise to make you feel sexier. It has a way of wiping your mind free of stress ... and it gets you outside and away from your partner for a while. Often that is all it takes. In the time it takes to boost your self esteem, your partner might be better too, and either way he will certainly notice the change in how you perceive yourself. More than likely it will motivate him to take more action ... especially (as crass as it seems to say this about someone) if he subconsciously feels he might lose your attention to the competition. (Men can be sweet, but they are a lot like animals in the way they think sometimes ... )
Just exercise a bit everyday! I started running for a mere 18-20 minutes a day and am now up to 30. Run 30 minutes weightlift 30 minutes each day and take sunday off. I started 9 months ago or so.. I am 5'11 and DID weigh 257 now I weigh 187 and can lift a hefty amount over my bodyweight. It works and it's soo much better than those lame diet pills that don't work and just make you put the weight back on. ^ Also I was eating and still am eating roughly 1,800 to 2,500 calories a day. And am still losing weight as I've still got a little fat left on me. You can do it! We all can, just have to put your mind to it!
Exactly. Laziness is the only obstacle to losing weight. People want to just take a pill and not have to put in any effort. It doesn't work that way.
the most important thing is that you are not comfortable. that should be your motivation,not just "being pretty". i understand that attraction is a huge part of sex but he should be making you feel sexy no matter what. that will make you feel sexier. i used to be overweight and not so very attractive and that was when my boyfriend fell in love with me. now that i have lost weight and dolled up,its no different.trust me though, what makes you feel better than looking like complete shit and out of no where he is like " you are so beautiful" ??? nothing.
Keep up with eating right and exercising. Get lots of vibrant colored fruits and vegetables to eat, also, cook as many homemade meals as possible. It's easy to cut calories and fat this way, plus preparing a wholesome meal from scratch will give you a sense of accomplishment and boost your confidence. Same with exercise. Find a trail that doesn't get much use, or go early in the morning for a walk or to the gym and wear skimpy exercise clothes. When I was heavier I loved running on a wooded trail in nothing but a supportive bikini. I was doing something good for my body, felt nice and free, and there was no one there to see me, so I felt comfortable and healthy in my skin. Another thing similar to this that helps me with body image is going out in the woods or outside at night and getting completely naked, even for just a second. It's nice to feel naked and free and comfortable with your body that way, and it also gives you an adrenaline rush. Also...just do lots of little things that can make you feel sexy and confident. Style your hair and do your makeup even if you're not going anywhere. Shave your legs, or go to a salon and have them waxed. While your there, why not get a massage? Get your nails done or do them yourself. Wear nice perfume. After your shower massage your whole body with nice scented lotion. Buy sexy lingerie and wear them, even if you're the only person that's going to see them. Spend a day at the mall going from shop to shop until you find a certain item of clothing, or a certain style that flatters your shape and that you feel comfortable and sexy in. The key is to build your confidence. Do things that make you feel good. Confidence itself is damn sexy, but the more confidence you have the more likely you are to lose weight and be happy with yourself as well! And if you truly are heavy, chances are you have large breasts. You don't need a short skirt and high boots to look sexy, just get a flattering top that'll show off your beautiful assets!
