Help Me Plan Out My Life

I wasn't really sure where this should go since I didn't see any suitable categories or whatever, so I just figured I'd post it here. If it's not in the proper spot, it'd be sweet if a moderator would be kind enough to move it to where it should be.

On to the point though...

I'm currently 17 and a senior in high school. I'm in the last trimester of schooling and graduate some time in May (the nineteenth, I do believe). So right now, I'm getting hit pretty hard with all the people telling me how urgent it is that I figure out where I'm going for college and what not.

A couple of months ago, I did have everything figured out, collegewise: Me and my buddy were planning to go to a college a couple hours from my hometown. We were all set on that or whatever. I got accepted to the college and everything, sent in my information so I'd be enrolled or whatever, and so on.

However, five or so months ago, I ended up falling in love with this girl (that's all a story for another time). The plan was that me and my friend would go to that college, and then when this girl graduated, she'd move up and go to college with us, and it'd all be good.

Sadly though, the more that I thought about it, the more flawed it seemed. First of all, I'd only get to talk to this girl on weekdays, and we had planned to drive back and forth and visit each other every weekend or two. We both understood how quickly four hours of driving would get though, especially that frequently. And with both me and this girl going to school, and with at least one of us working, and with her doing sports and other extracurricular stuff, it'd get pretty tough to actually find time to talk, even on weekdays.

I know, some of you older and wiser folk are going to scold me and tell me how stupid it is to be planning my life around a girl. This is different though (And yes, I know that's what everybody says).



So after thinking about it a lot, I finally decided to back out of the leave-for-college thing.

This is where my request for assistance comes in (I figured that sharing a vague backstory was only fair). I'll tell my plan right now, and what I'm hoping is that all of you people who are wiser and smarter than I will be able to tell me how I should best go about fulfilling all of these plans.

Sooooo..

As of right now, I'm going to stick around here after I graduate and forget about leaving for college. One thing that I can't decide is whether or not to go to community college next year. I think that it's in my best interest to just work as much as I can and then worry about college once I get where I'm going and then get settled in there.

Me and this girl, we're planning on spending the rest of our lives together. Which is a pretty bold prospect. But we're young and stupid. Kill me.

What we'd like to do is live one of those exciting romantic lives together. We've talked about it quite a bit lately, especially with all this business of me trying to figure out what I should do. And what we've reached is this plan:

I'm going to stay here and work as much as I can until she graduates. Once she does, we'll stay here for the summer or at least most of it (and possibly get engaged in this time. A wedding seems a bit unrealistic with finances being as pressing as they are in this time, so we might put that off until a short time down the road once we're settled in and on our feet). During this time, we'll just be working whenever we can and whatever. Then, we're going to head down to California. I've talked about buying a plot of land, maybe a couple of acres (I'd love to get as much as I possibly can, but I'm afraid I'm going to have to settle for a small amount of land considering my status). We're hoping to live in some fairly rural area, though we're not certain where exactly yet (at all). And yeah. Once we get down there and find some land, we're going to put a down payment on that and then hopefully I'll build my own house. I've read a few things from in Mother Earth News that talk about building your own home, and I'd like to think that I can make it happen. I don't know a ton about construction, but I'm a very quick learner. The alternate houses look particularly interesting (the dome houses, etc.), but it'd also be really cool to go for the whole traditional cabin thing. I guess I'm just looking for whatever would be easiest and cheapest and that can be built quickly, without sacrificing usability and attractiveness and size and everything like that.

I'm not certain yet, but I was thinking we could just camp out until the house finishes or something. Depending on how long that will be estimated to take though, we might end up renting someplace until we can move in. Regardless though, as soon as we get to California, we'd like to apply for citizenship. Then, we're just going to build the house and then find jobs as quickly as we can. Not particularly great jobs, per se, just whatever we can get that will hold us over until we can get something better. After six months, we should be citizens, which will enable us to avoid paying the outlandishly expensive out-of-state fees for college. So we can probably catch the spring semester enrollment and do that, if all goes according to plan (which, likely, it won't).

I don't have great grades (GPA somewhere between 2.8 and 3.5, I'm not certain), although she has a 3.9 or something. So it's looking like she's going to end up going to a nicer college. Neither of us are sure what we want though, me especially. She expressed some interest in the medical field, though she's not set in that. Me, I'm absolutely clueless.

We also want to work towards being self-sustaining and at least generating our own food supply. She's vegan and I have no problem with converting to veganism/vegetarianism (I've been vegetarian for a cumulative time of two or three years (had to stop because of parents..)), and so hopefully we'll be able to get a really nice garden going once we get there.

This girl, she's remarkably intelligent. I'm smart enough to get by without any troubles. So I think we're going to be able to figure stuff out as we go, seeing as nothing ever goes according to plan.

So yeah. Hopefully we'll be able to do all this, and then get steady jobs and then as we go down the road, do whatever we see fit.

That's the gist of it.

Now, here are the things I'd like to know, on top of comments about the whole plan.

- How should I start saving up money now? The job market here is quite limited on account of Michigan's awful economy and the fact that I'm not 18 yet and won't be until August.
- Should I try and get any credits in at the community college next year?
- How would I best go about finding land that's near enough to a suitable college?
- What suitable colleges are there down there that aren't too tough to get in to? (Cheaper the better)
- Does anyone have any suggestions for house plans/designs?
- Where would we be best off heading to in California, from the position of poor financially-unstable completely-inexperienced young adults?
- What's the best way to go about putting all of this into action?
- What else do I need to know?

I'm pretty sure there was a lot more that I wanted to put in this post, but seeing as it's 1:00 and I'm already sleep-deprived enough as is, and I have to get up for school really soon, I'm going to get going. If you have questions or whatever about important stuff that I left out, don't hesitate to ask them.

Anyways, thanks for your time and (hopefully) for your advice.
~Seth~

 

umm, so i didn't read your post. because its too long. likely it is also boring, with boring anecdotes from your life.

if you'd like to be less boring, listen up...


throw out that plan.

 

If you absolutely have to murder a hooker, for christ's sake wear gloves and don't just leave the body in an alley somewhere.

 

GET A JOB.

this is the basis of all shit.(music, drugs, moving out, )
and don't complain about your economy, you can find a job if you really try.
I applied to like 47 places before I finally got a shit job.
I believe in you.

 

You suck testicles, brother.

Noted.

Yeah. I'm going to go look for a job today. The local Taco Bell is hiring, I do believe. That should be a whole lot of fun... /s.

 

Now you're fucked. Most likely, you'll end up with nothing in a few years. No girl, no education, and no job.

 

Drop the girl, she’s only a hindrance

If this relationship continues and she gets pregnant, you’ll slowly grow to hate her for holding you back while your friends are all entering law, medical, and business schools


Hotwater

 

if you're going to start your own meth lab, don't do it in your own house.


really though, you shouldn't plan your life around a girl. i thought i had it all figured out too, but then luckily i found out she was fucking someone else. if i didn't know that i would've re-enlisted and i'd be stuck in the army for another 6 years. you're too young to know that you two are gonna be together forever. give it a few years and experience some shit. if you're not gonna change your mind....good luck. its your life, kind of.

 

Yeah. I know I'm still too young to know all of that crap for sure, but I can definitely see us being together for some time to come. It's not really a normal relationship, it's different for sure. I'd say a bunch of stuff about how I love her and all, but seeing as none of you really know me, I'm just another kid throwing the 'L' word around.Dropping her is out of the question.
*Edit*I'm not saying anything about forever. As a 17 year old, I'd be pretty foolish to even think about trying to plan out my whole life from the vantage point of someone who's experienced next to nothing.I'm just trying to figure out what would be the best way to plan about doing the things that I've talked about.

 

Your posts not boring, I read it. When I'm high I love storys. Everyone does, some just don't realize it MMG! Unfortuanately though I'm 16 lol, so I can't give any advice since I'm in the same high school setting, figuring out what to do aswell.

But jobwise, what I do is grow shrooms, which is so easy to grow low scale, and it's in supply and demand almost always. No smell, no fancy lights, and nature does most the work for you.

 

I don't have to be too much older to tell you that planning your life around a girl is stupid after only five months.

If you can't do the long distance thing, it's likely not meant to be anyways. Go to college, let the relationship be tested, and stop being afraid of real life.

 

Well, I wasn't particularly interested in leaving for college next year anyways, so I was likely going to end up staying either way. I'm not planning all of this and setting it in stone now. It's obvious that a lot will change over the next year or two, and it'll be a lot more plain whether or not this relationship is worth planning lives around.All this right now is just trying to figure out how I'd be best prepared to handle it all.

 

I've heard that one a few times. :nopity: You are what the old-timers call pussy-whipped.

I was going to say that.

 

There's no use planning. No one gets to have it all.

Most well paying jobs come with a 60+ hour price tag, which means you dont have much time for friends or your family.

Even if you do get the well paying job in just 40 hours, and get the nice things, then you loose all your friends cos they get jealous you have it better than them.

A lot of people will try fuck you over, and half the time thats the ones closest to you, so time spent investing in family can also come back and bite you in the arse.

And just about any job you are going to get bored with, and your more likely to get ahead by shagging the boss, getting the boss laid or via some serious ass kissing rather than working hard.

Smoke, drink, do drugs, try and fuck as many people as you can, no use trying to live to long, fair chance at the end your family is going to dump you in a nursing home, you probably wont be able to remember your own name, and you'll be having your nappy changed on a daily basis by some one who likes to torture you for making him / her do that

 

That’s a rather cynical view of the world and its inhabitants


And absolutely correct


Hotwater

 

You make Australia sound like a hell hole.

 

and PS:

There's no such thing as love when it comes to someone you are rubging genitals with, its just positive reinforcement for helping get rid of the horny

The only people you are going to truly love are:

1. Parents: and thats only if they give up pretty much everything for you

2. Your Kids: and thats only if they end up smarter, richer or better looking than you

 

I'm thirsty, back to my glass half full of water

 

Well your plan is very idealistic and in reality has about a 5 percent chance of working out. What you should both do is go to the collages of your choice and try to get the best education you can if your going to be serious about the collage route. If you and your girl were meant to be the relationship will not only endure being apart but will be strengthened. If your relationship does not make it through being apart in collage then it will never make it through any of your other plans so you will have saved the both of you alot of grief. Both of you starting out with a good education and a chance to get good paying jobs would be the right first step in your plan though, and it will never be easier to do than this point in your life.

 

If I believed all that shit that you listed, I would kill myself.