Hi. I was just wondering if anyone could offer me some advice. Recently my wife told me that she thought I had a gay streak and that she sometimes wondered if I was going to come out as gay in 10th years time or something. This is because I sometimes like to wear woman's knickers and for her to give me a seeing to every now and then. I replied that I don't fancy men in that way although I have wondered what sex with a man is like. A couple of days later and I started to get a bit curious... Do I have a gay streak? A bit after that I also remembered a couple of years ago a good friend was with me and when we were having a laugh I thought to myself... "i could do you" and thought it a few times also I looked at his lips a few times with a little urge to kiss him though never responded to these urges. After a month or so these urges went away. I have sometimes fantasised about giving oral sex to another man though not for quite a while I tried watching gay porn to see if this did anything for me to help find out my orientation though it didn't do anything. I did however come across some with really sexy ts's and found them really, REALLY arousing as much as straight porn. I've always been really attracted to women and love sex with them. Now I'm all confused as to my orientation. I was hoping someone would be able to tell me what there opinion to my orientation is.
Eh I don't really know what to say what's it really matter if ur mRried wht if u discover u like guys to ur Gunna leave her?
It sounds to me you like you may be a bit bi curious but having those thoughts don't make you gay like u said u enjoy sex with women so to me that rules out being gay
I know I'm not gay. But the more I think about it the more confused I get. I'm starting to believe I may be bi
I'm not really qualified to advise, but I have wondered about what I perceive as a media push toward same sex experimentation. It started with women I think in generation Y getting onto each other in public places after the likes of Paris Hilton and friends creating the "trend" for want of a better word. It's just a theory of my own, but what is put out there for us in mags tv etc we end up minicking. (fashion being a basic example) In my opinion it's being pushed. It's far more common place on tv shows now to. Call me paranoid but I think it's being pushed through media...Perhaps, and this is just my opinion, you could be suffering from this normalisation of the same sex stuff? Just a thought, my own opinion. Just thought I would mention it. Otherwise if it is doing your wifes head in, you could see someone in a professional capacity to discuss it before you do something that you end up regretting, and your wife leaves! That would be the worse case scenario. I would exercise extreme caution. I would leave my bf if that happened to me. Good luck with it all.
just stop worrying about it, you don't need to have a specific name for your orientation, because its not gonna change the way you feel
Media coverage on topics that used to get you jailed, put in chains and thrown into a dungeon or be burnt at the stake with other witches, has indeed increased and people are no longer gathering a mob with torches and pitchforks to pay you a visit, if you come out with your feelings. Furthermore, we do have communities and virtual village suqares like this one, to find support or at least a supportive clap on the back (or playful slap on the butt... ). On the other hand, media coverage about perverts and criminals committing sex crimes on women and kids have made people wary about anything against the "norm", considering love, sex, nudity... but that's a different topic. To the OP, I would say: curious at least, perhaps now gathering the guts and will to go and explore... If your wife is of the supportive sort, enjoy it, too. Wiggling bare toes, ~*Ganesha*~
I'm not worried to be honest. Perhaps slightly excited that I might have discovered something new about myself Thanks
I'm not one of those that really bothers with stigma etc I am after all only me. I don't really care about views of others. Confused a little yes. Excited about finding something new about myself possibly. Concerned... not at all I just want to be sure about what Im thinking.
i think if you are happy with your wife but you find men arousing in some ways thats perfectly healthy, i wouldnt worry about it. there is no need to be bi or gay or straight.
Something, I'd like to add. You go about this whole "Am I gay?" business, don't forget that you have a choice. Apparently, this choice is more clear to gay men and women. The fact that you still haven't made a conscious decision reinforces the fact that you have a choice. Suppose you think you COULD be gay, but that would jeopardize your marriage... You still have a choice, your biology obviously isn't strong-arming you into a particular lifestyle. It's not a question of are you or aren't you gay and if it is, we should all be asking you. So, think it all through and decide. -BlkBks
I never knew that my Voice resided in Scotland... Welcome to the Forums from me, :sunny: wiggling bare toes, ~*Ganesha*~
Then what are you waiting for??? :daisy::love: Get out and explore. Wiggling bare toes, encouragingly, ~*Ganesha*~
