So, I went to my doctors office today and told her I was spotting in between periods. We talked about a bunch of different possibilities and she just bursts out and says, "well, how tall is he? You're a tiny girl!" and I told her he was about 6'5'' and she was shocked. She did the pap and told me that A) I'm going to have either a really hard time or too easy of a time getting pregnant because my uterus and cervix are not where they typically are due to the fact that I am so small and B)my cervix is bruised and bleeding and she thinks it's because he keeps slamming my cervix every time we have sex. She even had a hard time getting the speculum in! Most girls like being super tight-I'm tired of it! She gave me some pointers on things to try-lube, shallow penetration, etc. But I'm not up to losing the full effect of sex. Anyone have any ideas? Or has this happened to anyone else?
Being very tight does not make the sensations of sex too pleasant. Every time I have sex with my boyfriend, I feel like I've never done it before and even though he goes slowly, I still have the urge to remind him to slow down. Given that the average vaginal canal is around 4 inches in length, most guys are too big to fit all their length inside, yet most women do not wince along with bruised cervixes. I don't think it has to do with him being too large or you being too small - my boyfriend is much bigger than am I and in regard to his penis, it clocks in somewhere around 7.75" to 8" long and is very thick (I never whipped out a tape measure but I can barely stretch my mouth around him during oral sex, if you'll forgive me for getting graphic). I think in your boyfriend's enthusiasm, he is pounding away at it too hard. An A+ for effort but not for technique. A few suggestions ... more foreplay. Take the edge off a bit. My boyfriend is going to be 40 in a few months so he has more self control than a younger guy but someone in his early 20s (from your gallery that's how young your bf seems) shouldn't be able to hold out too long. The foreplay should be mutually satisfying, of course. Then try changing the angle of penetration by trying different positions. Let's see ... with you on top, it will give him the sensation of deeper penetration yet he won't be able to go too fast or too hard. Forget what you see in the movies ... IMO, it is best to straddle him while balancing on the balls of your feet (think cavemen around a fire) ... don't bounce too hard or anything ... don't want to rupture any of his internal organs or blow out your knees. Another thing to try would be to do it while he's spooning you from behind. Speaking of doing it from behind, not only does it seem more satisfying (informal poll taken over the last 25 years) but if your g-spot is going to be stimulated during sex, that is about the best position for it to happen. Sometimes if you're having sex a few times in a row, it is easier for the guy to be gentle after the first time. Also, some guys are under the misapprehension that they must make their partners climax every single time and they can try too hard. It can be very satisfying to satisfy one's partner without seeing stars oneself, once again, in spite of pop culture stereotypes. Because I love my boyfriend as much as I do, seeing his eyes roll up and his smile (like a little kid who sees just what he wants under the Christmas tree) is, in some ways, cooler than an orgasm. Hope this helps and that others have some more advice. LL
Sometimes if there is not enough lube or I am not relaxed enough it will hurt, but it seems like I can take it a lot deeper and harder in the doggy style position.
what on earth are you talking about? this site is open for all and if you dont like someones posts you can block them anywho, more foreplay. the more aroused you are, the more your body prepares for sex and the easier you can accomodate a bigger guy. tell him to go slower, let him know when it hurts, and make sure hes informed of your doctors opinion on the matter. plus wiht more foreplay for both of you, hell be turned on more which means hell cum a bit faster, thus reducing the lenght of time where he can bang into your cervix
Um what? Sex is a part of life and if you don't feel comfortable reading or talking about it, then don't. But some people realize that its not actually disgusting, its just part of being a human.. get over it
I think responding to a dip with six posts is rather like the Special olympics..... Harley honey, if you don't like it, find a site suitable for you. Don't expect this site to change for you.
I'm sorry but I was asking for advice and I appreciate the advice I was given. What do you mean that is my problem? I'm 4'9''! Neurotica's post was not piggish at all. Actually it was helpful. Don't read it if you don't like it.
of course it is. hell, we have part of our body dedicated solely to pleasure and orgasm, nothing to do with procreation
"As for the rest of the posts on here some are really disgusting and beyond tasteful, some women today are such pigs." A 19 year old woman is asking for sexual advice and we are attempting to assist her so she can have pain-free intercourse with a man she obviously loves, judging from the photo of them in her gallery. As someone who is quite small myself with a large boyfriend, I decided to give practical feedback. I suppose I could have been more ladylike and written, "Lie back, relax, close your eyes and think of Mother and Country." I don't think that getting graphic when giving advice about sex makes anyone a pig. Sex is messy ... writing about it more often than not will not read like the conversation at a decorous tea party.
Haha! I have the same problem! I spot after sex usually. I'm 5'0. My boyfriend is 6'2! So, yea I'm leetle....he's biiig. But it's oh so good! I suppose I should bring this up to my gyno.
First of all, good for you for discussing it with your doctor. I went into the doctor specifically for the same problem and she said she was relatively surprised since most 19-20 year olds don't discuss it (which surprises me a bit because I would think people our age would feel more comfy) and that women in general often just take it and think that sex automatically comes with pain. Really sad Anyway, play around with lubes. It seriously helps. Not all are made the same, however, so you should try out a few to see what works best for you. I don't know if you go to college, but some colleges have good Student Sexuality Centers with that sort of thing- or at least mine does. Discounted lubes and even taste testing for the flavored variety, so it makes it cheaper to test out different kinds. Is being on top better or worse? In conjunction with lube, that might help out. According to my doc, I have an "oddly angled vagina" (umm.. yay uniqueness?) so for some reason that position is painful as all hell, but that GENERALLY isn't the case for most women. Is this really an issue of overall body size? I mean, I suppose logically if you are more petite, your bits would follow suit, but I'm average height and have a large frame and this is a problem for me too. Not that it really matters, but I wonder...
Harely, I think you need to find a new board. This is a liberal place, and all views are welcome, but you seem to be more insulting than helpful. Anywho, on with the OP... I know how you feel, it really sucks. I sound like a broken record, but the lube is a big deal. Make sure it's good quality, too. A lot of the cheaper ones are mainly water and dry up alomst instantly. You should be able to use only a tiny bit (the size of a dime maybe?) and have it last for a good while. Astroglide it supposed to be an awesome one that my OB recommended to me after I had my daughter. I never ended up getting it, but it's one of the most recommended ones. And your guy may have to start taking it a little easier on you. I, for one, can't handle rough sex that well...it hurts sooooo bad when my cervix keeps getting beat up. A little slower pace with not such deep penetration should help you out. I hope I helped a little bit...lol, but I think I mainly repeated everything everyone else said!
