Heterosexual Experience--Painful? Frustrating?

I'm sorry if this is totally inappropriate, but I wasn't sure where else I could find answers to my questions.

I am actually a bisexual woman, so I don't know how this would go.

I am writing a story that includes a lesbian character, and I want it to be accurate. She, at one point, wants to have a relationship with a man that she loves very much, but as a friend. She feels no physical attraction to him whatsoever, but still wants to see if a physical relationship would be possible.

My questions are these: have any of you ever tried to have heterosexual sex and have it fail completely because the physical attraction wasn't there? Is it possible, just not nearly as good? Is it painful? If you loved someone like that, wouldn't it be horribly frustrating to not feel anything physically?

I know these are extremely personal questions, and I'd like to say thank you in advance if you feel comfortable enough to answer.

 

I was with a guy before but it felt awkward and just not right. I wouldn't do that with a man again no matter how much I liked their personality haha

Good luck with your story

 

I'm living this . I'm gay and currently have a boyfriend. I love him and our relationship is nearly perfect but sex is just not cutting it for me. I love him and he is physically attractive but I'm not that physically attracted to him. Sometimes I enjoy sex but most times its mediocre at best and not because it's bad but just because I'm not that into it. I like to be somewhat dominant and please the other person and this isn't something I feel like I can 100% do with a guy. The comfort level is not there when I'm having sex with a guy, I feel inexperienced and uncomfortable. I love him and I wish so much that I could make it better. I feel like I'm always pretending.

 

We'll be together one year in December so this has been going on for a while by the way...not just a fling