how did you feel when you first discovered you liked members of your gender.

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  1. WrathXXX

    WrathXXX Member

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    i was like 12 or 13 at the time and at first i kinda felt some self-loathing honestly. and i never considered suicide just for that, but for that and other reasons and i kinda felt like my life had come to an end... after a few months i started to become more indifferent towards me liking guys and eventually thought it over logically and now i like what i am.
     
  2. Strangeness

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    Well Im 14 just last year I found out that I was really gay and I was sad for awile just be yourself and it will pass over.
     
  3. Geneity

    Geneity self-proclaimed advocate

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    I was excited. I had only male friends at the time of discovery (around 9 or 10 if I remember, when I first started to explore myself), and I started messing around with one at the age of 12, right as I hit puberty. Great times that I'll never forget. At 14 I became more stable, and settled on the idea that I was Bisexual at the age of 15. At 16 I accepted it and have been completely content ever since. When I came out at 16, everyone was indifferant. No one was happy, but no one was unhappy. It was ok. I made some girl friends and I love them. =P
     
  4. SlickyPants

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    Hmm... I've kind of liked guys my whole life. When I was five I enjoyed playfighting with some of my friends... I don't know if it was the physical contact or if I just liked hanging out with them. I wasn't really concious of it at the time.

    When I was about seven there was one buddy I had that was very close. I think it was now that I realized that I was into guys although never really worried about it.

    At the age of nine I moved to a different city, met a new buddy, did some bodily exploration. Heard the word "gay" kicked around the schoolyard but never knew what it meant. A few years later I realized what it meant and it made me feel like a fuck up. Stayed with my buddy for a while longer until he became interested in girls and I tried to change myself but couldn't for the life of me enjoy it.

    By around age 16 I guess I kind of accepted I was gay (internally). I figured I'd just have a relationship in secret and never tell anybody. Eventually I realized that I'd be single for the rest of my life unless I finally came out. Took me a while to finally work up the courage to tell somebody, and even so it is only one friend so it is still a long road ahead.

    When I found out I liked guys I never really felt anything because at the time I was kind of sheltered. Everyone at my school was very polite, no bad words were spoken and nobody said anything bad about anybody else. When I moved, I heard all sorts of new four letter words and a bunch of other crap that the world could do without.
     
  5. *Andy*

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    I felt pretty weird but got used to it after a while. I still sometimes wonder how I felt back when I first figured myself out because I honestly can't remember too well.

    Oh and I think you mean sex not gender. Common mistake so I won't hold it against you ;) :D
     
  6. LJDV

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    I didn't really delve too deeply into it at first. My first experience was when I was 11 or 12 and I didn't really know what I was doing. I never really got along too well with "the guys" so it was actually really nice, because it brought be and my girl friends that much closer. Now I am openly gay, I don't hold back for anyone, and I don't think I should have to. Someone asks me and I tell them straight up.
     
  7. Geneity

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    Same, I'm proud of it =D
     
  8. CrazybutLazy

    CrazybutLazy Banned

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    I have liked guys for as long as I have had sexual feelings, but for some reason it never actually occurred to me that I might be bi. Then one day it just hit me... I don't know why. I was ridiculously upset for a year because where I live, people are having a difficult time even accepting the fact that black people are starting to move in and around our town.
     
  9. SelfControl

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    Sorta relieved, actually. It made it a lot easier to obsess of getting laid, rather than obsessing over the futility of existence and other bullshit.
     
  10. SelfControl

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    I was going to say this, but I was worried I'd sound pedantic.
     
  11. pianoperson60

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    ermmm in 7th grade. got a hard on lookin at this jock kid in my class...
    I thought it was the weirdest thing in the world, and dindt really understnad really what was goin on...haha
     
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    i realized i didn't find girls sexually attractive pretty early. when i was really little, like around kindergarten age, i told my family i like the boys in my class more than the girls, not realizing the gravity of what I was saying. But when I eventually, years later, realized what that meant, it was really intimidating. but I decided to embrace it full-on nonetheless, and now I'm more proud than ever that I turned out this way. I absolutely love being gay. No shame whatsoever...
     
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  13. xDeceitfullyYoursx

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    I've always been attracted to women. They're just beautiful creatures. I wasn't surprised when I had my first realization that I was bi. It was satisfying.
     
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    since I was old enough to think actually. If you need examples I can elaborate.
     
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    i feel stupid for this, but i tried to commit suicide by taking pain pills, but i realized its really a good thing
     
  17. *~nathan~*

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    and i was about 8 to 12 years old
     

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