How do I tell a friend I want to be in a relationship with her?

So if she says she yes and wants to turn our friendship into a relationship, what do I do next? Just continue on as we were friend, but now refer to her as my girlfriend? Should I kiss her after she says she wants to date? Can someone give me some sort of step by step guide here?

 

stop being friends with her, and start dating someone you're not friends with.

 

Wait! You wanna step by step dating guide? REALLY?

 

i'm not trying to completely discourage you here or anything. since you're not going to be friends with her anymore anyway, there's no reason not to tell her how you feel. but 99.9% of the time she's going to shoot you down, so don't have any expectations or anything.

 

If you're dropping this out of the blue, you're fucked.

If there's a mutual attraction, why not? Go for it.

How the fuck do you think someone on the internet can tell you who to kiss, and when?

 

lol jimny is so dryly hopeless it's kind of funny too.

 

if it doesn't feel natural then she probably doesn't return your feelings.

Its hard to say since you didn't really give a lot of details, but I feel like if there was obvious mutual attraction there you wouldn't be asking when its appropriate to kiss her.

 

Just say her girl I got something real important for yeah so just sit back and listen, girl u know we been together such a long long time such a long time and now I'm ready to lay it on the line well u know it's Christmas and my heart is open wide open wide gonna give you something so you know whats on my mind what's on my mind a gift real special so take off the top take a look inside it's my dick In a box it's in a box

 

what, are people supposed to just be born with this piece of knowledge already in their brain?

 

Hmm to an extent I'd say yes. It's the artificial society that complicates the natural social interplay between the sexes. If one listens to a certain level of instinct I think flirting, foreplay, and sex can flow very naturally.

 

Just go with what feels right.

 

If you feel there is a chemistry and mutual attraction you should go for it. If you're not sure tread carefully. Perhaps just ask her can you talk to her and say that you like her as more than just a friend and you were wondering if she would like to go on a date some time. If she says yes just go with the flow, treat her as you normally would and be kind to her, like Lady-Lover says just go with what feels right. Don't worry about labelling her as your girlfriend or rushing in to kiss her. These things just tend to happen in good time.

Good luck!

 

nothing "just happens," you have to do these things. and you do need to kind of rush it, or she assumes you just want to be her girlfriend, no matter what you already told her about your intentions.

 

The obvious solution.

 

I give this idea my endorsement.

 

Indeed, it's not really knowledge but instinct.

Now I have it's my dick in a box stuck in my head

 

i agree but clearly it gets complicated by society because the OP has to ask us (and tbh i'm pretty bad at picking up on this kind of stuff too), so if he can feel it out and listen to instinct i say that's the obvious better option but if he can't and needs to ask her directly to know, then he just needs to ask plain and simple.

step by step guides are stupid dude just tell her how you feel if you need to

but also be prepared that if she doesn't share your feelings, there's a pretty good chance that you're going to lose her as a friend on top of not dating her. i don't know how close you guys are but there's a pretty obvious question you need to ask yourself before doing this-

is the risk of losing that worth it?

 

Give her a super sweet kiss, and ask her to be your girlfriend.

 

yep, it's obviously not just instinct, considering just going by instinct works approximately never. instinct may be a part of it, but it's largely based on having the knowledge of what to do.

as far as losing her, it's really the only option. maintaining platonic friendship with someone you are really romantically interested in is a very cruel form of self-torture.

 

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this is completely true if it's a matter of "i've never felt this way about someone before", but i've been in a situation recently where i thought i liked someone, but really it was that i haven't dated anyone in a while, and i wanted to have sex, and other random things (which are perfectly valid also btw but not as personal) but i'm glad i didn't say anything because i'm happier to have this person as a friend, and i think it's better as is... so i do think a lot depends on the nature of the friendship- how long you've been friends, where the other person is at in their life, where you're at in your life, and what your motivations for wanting to date the person might be- you need to be aware of that stuff about yourself. sometimes it's actually not fair to the other person to ask things like this, you know?

but really, who could ever actually claim to really know, anyway?