How do you handle stress/time management?

I've never been very good at handling stress. Right now I'm in school, working full time, and raising a newborn and I'm finding that it very difficult to find time to balance all three, plus maintain a relationship with my partner, see my family and friends when I can, and keep on top of mundane household chores.

Does anyone have any advice? How do you manage your time and maintain balance in your life?

 

I am so not good at handling stress. I end up crying when things get too stressful haha. I'm on anti anxiety meds which work a little bit, but I'm going to try to get off of them because meds are not really a way I want to handle stress.

 

I don't. 2013 - I hope to.

 

I am extremely bad when it comes to handling the stress. I generally cannor cope with the pressure. As soon as there is an element of stress, I just fail to cope up with it. I love working in calm, cool environment and circumstances. You are dealing with the 3 most difficult things in the life. All I can say is best of luck to you.

 

i scream..i have to walk away from people and just scream sometimes. It makes me feel like a crazy person.

so everyone is just like me, not good at handling stress...this makes me feel better about being absolutely frantic half the time

 

I get crazy like that at times...not so much lately since I'm working a normal job now, but it still gets crazy with everything we have going on.

You need to take 1 day...mark it on the calendar...and dedicate it to YOU.

 

Haha me too! I thought it was ridiculous how I handled stress. I'm glad I'm not the only one!

 

Make sure you keep having a good sex life.

Work, school. parenting, realsionships all very important.. from a friend (r.i.p) to make them all easier is you keep at the task but try and ignore the details. If every little thing gets to you, the load will only get heavier...

Kinda cliche, but i loved that guy and i like the advice : )

I don't got kids so i can't say much about that task...

but you a strong woman Meliai you have showed that over the years here...

You'll be fine..just keep having lots of sex...if your partner not doing anything active...then fucking attack him tie him down and fuck....

yep yep

 

I've heard you shouldn't worry about the things that you have no control over. I have a hard time applying that to my life right now, though haha

 

I would so love to do this. I think I need to at least clear out a couple of hours and get a massage.

thank you man I agree about the sex. we work really hard to make sure we have time for each other and don't neglect each other...having that connection and having someone on your side definitely makes things easier.

 

Prioritize what matters and curtail things that don't.

Most people justify time wasters as "that is my down time" and then wonder why they have no time or accomplish less than they wish to.

It takes discipline to manage time. It also takes being able to recognize what is important and needs to be done.

Start with a list and honestly evaluate it. You will probably find more time than you thought possible by making a few changes.

 

Maintain a schedule. If you organize your daily routine you can manage your stress and time much better. You might be taking on to much. I tried furthering my education when my kids were babies and it was more than I could handle. If my husband was more helpful I could have done it but he was not supportive. I hope you have a supportive spouse. That makes all the difference in the world. i waited until my kids were teens to go back to school. You may have to spend less time with friends for a while but your friends should understand because of your busy schedule. Take some time out of each day to relax and breath. When you are stressed the most that is when you need to stop and breath.

 

He is supportive, and he has no problem playing with the baby while I study. Thats really the only reason I can handle school at all right now. If I were a single mom or if he wasn't as helpful I don't think I could handle it.

I'm not really a huge time waster (except for HF lol). I'm usually busy from the time I walk in the door until the time I go to bed. I don't really have a set routine though. I do think I need a schedule. My baby's schedule has been so erratic. Sometimes I can't get him to sleep until 12 or 1 in the morning, and as a result I'm walking around like a zombie all the time. I'm hoping in the next couple of months I can get him settled into a good sleep schedule so I can get into more of a routine. If I could have him in bed by 9 every night that would give me plenty of time to spend time with him before bedtime and study and clean after he goes to bed.

 

I completely understand your situation, and I would reiterate the necessity for
organization. Having a baby myself, I understand the difficulties of having an actual routine and sticking to it, however the sooner you can figure it out, the better.

I suppose a subdivision of organization that I would suggest are lists. Stick to them.

 

i'm actually pretty good at it, i just didn't say anything because i really don't have any advice beyond "just deal with it," which i really don't think is particularly helpful. i really think it's largely one of those things that you just are or are not good at (of course you can improve things, but only to a certain extent).

 

nylons, lingerie, heels.

 

That is totally excellent your partner is helpful, and that will make all the difference in the world as far as you being able to do well in school - which I'm sure you realize.

Good luck on getting the baby to bed or on a schedule. I know/knew women that had babies that set their own schedules, slept through the night by month 2 and so forth and so on. HOWEVER, when my baby arrived, I'm fairly positive he did not sleep "through the night" until he was about 2 yrs old...and he NEVER EVER went to sleep before 12 or 1 am during the entire 1st year of his life.

I can remember putting him in his carrier and setting him up in the bathroom just so I could get a bath before the wee hour of the morning he went to sleep. My husband was about as much help as getting the cat to watch him. lol

As far as what I did to handle stress, I played the piano and exercised and smoked (LOTS of) weed - outside.

You are smart and strong, just like they said. I guess I just wanted you to know I also had a baby that just would not be put on any schedule. Around age 2 his awake/sleep hours got "normal". oh - and hf is also a great stress reducer, as long as you don't let the asses get to you.

 

thank you. Lists are a good idea. I used to use them a lot. I had like a 3 page list of things to complete right before I had the baby. I didn't really care about doing anything when I got home from the hospital except taking care of the baby so I got out of the habit of making lists. I think lists would help me maintain focus instead of just erratically running around the house trying to figure out what I need to do.

It might not be helpful but it is true. I started this thread because I was feeling really tightly wound but in reality that tension is really what helps me deal with it and face things head on. I just hate feeling like that though.

thanks lynn Its really nice to know I'm not doing anything wrong with my baby. Two girls I work with went on maternity leave around the same time I did and their babies are both sleeping through the night so I was starting to feel like maybe I was doing something wrong. He actually is sleeping through the night but his night doesn't start until 12 or 1 in the morning. Its almost 1 now and he just drifted off to sleep. He'll sleep until 8 or 9 or sometimes even 10 on days that I'm off, which is a blessing, but I have to get up at 6:30 on work days so it doesn't really make a difference to my sleep schedule if he's a late sleeper lol.

I've tried every trick in the book to get him to go to bed early. I give him a bath, a boob, a story, a song, I'll rock him in my arms...and all he does is stare at me the whole time and smile, wide-eyed and bushy tailed.

I do need to exercise. That is one thing I'm missing in my life. I was active up until my delivery date and I haven't worked it back into my routine yet.

 

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