How long do you wait to first have sex when your in a relationship with someone?

And how soon is too soon?

 

im a guy so u know anytime is good but i think its generally about 3 months before anything starts to happen.

 

Usually if I don't get laid on the first date, I don't bother asking for a second. I'm not really the romantic type.

 

How long do I wait?
Till I feel like it.
First relationship- 2 years.
Second relationship- 2 weeks. Of course I knew him a little while before we started "dating" if that's what you would call it... It was kind of a weird and awkward start. All we knew was we liked each other a lot and wanted to spend every waking minute with each other... I think that's definitely a sign of something.

 

It usually happens before were "dating".

 

It just depends on when it feels right.

 

There is no too soon, as far as I'm concerned... it isn't about setting up a schedule, or about getting laid to a certain time frame...

when the people involved feel it's the right time, then it's the right time, whether or not that is 5 seconds into meeting or 5 years. As long as all involved agree.

It's only when the participants, have a different idea of when it should happen that issues start cropping up.

In a case where one isn't interested and the other is for too long, and one of the people start feeling like their mental and emotional health is being negatively affected, then it's been too long.

For me personally, most of my relationships started with sex with someone I either considered a friend, or at least seemed to be friendly at the time...

For young people reading this, I will point something out that I feel a lot get confused about.

Sex is not everything in a relationship, but it is one of the legs of a three legged stool.

Sex (physical connection), Love (emotional connection) and Respect (intellectual connection.

If any one of those aren't there, the stool will fall over.

 

the last two posts are really all that need to be said as they are absolutely the correct answers. gotta give props to you to chronictom and sophieclair. put simply. when its time it will happen on its own. when i said 3 months that just tends to be about how long until it happens for me. every relationship is different. it will happen for u at some point. just relax and be happy with the relationship as it is and be happy with where its going. if u can say both of those things then talk to ur partner about it. just dont force sex because it will be awkwad and a bad experience if you do.

 

when you're both ready. every relationship is different. some couples wait months/years, and it works for them. others only wait days, or may have begun before they started dating, and it works for them too. there is no magic number.

 

This. If the girl digs me and has anything in common with me, after an hour or two of the first date she'll be thinking, "If he doesn't make his move soon, I'm going to have to jump him."

 

but thats becasue standingseated rents his girls from a whore house. jk

 

it's never too soon

 

Well I am currently still with my first bf and sexual partner and I only waited 5 months for sex, but recieved and gave oral the 2/3 month; however, we were couple-like for 4 months before that...so more like 9 months.

If i wouldnt have been a virgin then probably before 3 months, I just think that if it doesnt happen before that then theres no lust/attraction going on.

 

i kinda agree but everyone is different so u never know. some people may just simply want to wait.

 

First date, usually. If the guy is no good in bed, I don't want to waste my time getting to know him better. I also don't want to waste time on guys who have narrow-minded views about girls having to wait a certain amount of time before putting out.

I'm living with a guy, so I won't be dealing with this issue again anytime soon.

 

no offense karen but that kinda sounds a little shallow. u could try to teach him how to be good in bed if he isnt that great at it.

 

whenever is clever.

 

Shallow? You should know all about that.

Some guys just don't have any potential. I can identify that right away. I'm not dating teenagers either. They've had plenty of time and opportunities to learn.

 

It depends on the person and the connection. In my first two relationships it took 2-3 weeks before I slept with them. However, it took only the second date before I slept with my current boyfriend. It sounds horrible, but we had an intense emotional connection and things just unfolded that way. Things must have turned out okay though, because we've been together for quite a while now, and we're planning a future together.

 

my first time i had him wait like a year n a half....
2nd person i fucked it was within hours (like maybe 3hrs) that i knew him....
3rd person i knew him for years but we r and are just friends...
4th person i knew him for like 5 months...
5th person i knew him for like a week...
6th person i knew him for a year n i just agreed to teach him the ropes on sex
7th person was a guy i became cool friends with i knew him for 4 months
8th person within 24 hours i fucked with him....

point is there is not a certain time frame
u just gotta go witht the flo...