How Many Friends Do You Have?

I only have 2 friends. I wish I had more friends like you guys. More fun, easygoing, sex-positive friends.

I feel like I'm too easygoing for the US (I'm Liberian). People here tend to shoot straight from the hip and can be very rude, not all but many. I belong in a place like Brazil. But I like the fact that US has sex-positive people like you guys, even if we are the minority.

I wish I had about 15 friends, mostly girls, because with guys it's more about sex and I already have plenty of that. I already have enough older men. I want girls who I can talk on the phone with a lot to have people to talk to, hang out, go to strip clubs, maybe take to one of my swinger parties, just come over and drink and watch Cathouse, stuff like that.

I have had a couple of occasions when that could have happened.

The first one I met this girl named Kimmie who listened to metal and had sucked some guys dick for coke. And her friend Kristen who used to be a hooker. But by the time I met them they had already gone the straight and narrow path and had boyfriends.

Another occasion I started going to DC BiWomen's meetings. I went to two naked pool parties, one coed and one all girl. There are no nude beaches as I live in a city so it was the next best thing. But they're basically prudes. They complain that when they say they bis people think they want a threesome and I found myself wonder who doesn't. They just want relationships and half of them are turning into lesbians. The discussions are interesting, like about religion and sexuality. But outside the meetings it's standard fare, happy hour, movies. I invited one to a strip club and she said it sounded unsafe, I was like WTF I used to work at them.

Another situation I went to the Momentum Conference, a sex-positive gathering. I saw Carol Queen, Tristan Taormino, Mikael whatever his named is, missed Susie Bright too bad. I got the numbers of four girls. One I didn't call because she's a dyke and I figured we have nothing in common. Another I called and she said she lives in TN and was just being polite. Another just wanted to promote her events. And another just didn't bother to call me, it was always me calling her.

So I'm starting to feel like what my aunt said:

In this world it's either everyone is friends but they're all normal conformists or everyone is interesting but they're all alone because they're too different.

So how many friends do you have? Are you also a loner?

 

Check out the chatroom. You might find more friends.

 

I would like one semi-close friend around where I live but otherwise I am happy that all my close friends live far away.

 

Why is that?

 

A cheap place to stay on vacation, they never make unanounced stops over. I can talk to them whenever I want but never have to do favors for them. Its the best of both worlds.

 

You don't bored or lonely? What do you do for fun?

 

Play hockey with people I dont know outside of the rink, go to the bar and talk to the people that I dont know outside the bar. Go to sporting events and concerts...the one reason I would prefer to go to a concert with someone but that certainly never stopped me from going. And when I have time I play online games. But with work being so busy I dont have a lot of spare time in the last month or two.

 

I doubt it. I live in Brazil, and I think if you`re sex positive you belong in Germany. Brazil is all about prostitution, but sex work (although more honest than marriage) is still short of full sex positivity.

But sex positive people are unicorns. I don`t think they really exist, other than myself and a bunch of gay guys.

Sounds like my polyamory group. I tried hooking up with a chick in it, but she fell "in love" with a polyamorist and posts about how much she loves him on Facebook. Pretty embarrassing. She also did the typical female thing of baiting and switching. First she was interested, then for god knows what reason, turned cold. I doubt she has much sex. The last meeting fell through. I was the only one that went. I don`t know if I would attend another meeting since they are basically vanilla, and sex-negative. Anyone who throws the word love around is.

This sounds like another group, Rede de Relacoes Livres (Free Relationship Network). The problem is they are lefitists, and feminists, and I already had an argument with one of the gung-ho "patriarchy" bitches there. So, as is always the case with leftists, it`s more about blowing off steam than actually having sex.

Sounds veeeery familiar.

I tend to be friends with gay guys. They seem to be the only ones who aren`t politically correct prudes who are deathly afraid of their own bodies, and need to cling to anyone in order to have a relationship. You can`t trust straight people because they get married and disappear.

One of them passed away from a stroke, and the other one fell in love with me and we`re taking a break.

I have one female friend. We see eye-to-eye in that she`s sex-positive. But she has a "paternal" type she goes for. And, I don`t consider people who can only fuck with one type fully sex-positive. If you only fuck one type of dude, why not get married to one?

But, I`m still very lucky to count her as someone to talk to, if not someone to do things with. Even though our friendship is mostly theoretical, she did lend me support recently when I had a crisis about some chick I liked that baited and switched on me. The usual female brutality.

She goes to swing clubs, and like me, she considers swingers vanilla. Swingers would have been ok if they weren`t homophobic, and put women on a pedestal. As it stands, the sons of bitches hardly even let me inside one of their clubs. Plus, I`m not into upscale pretentiousness.

Edit: I`m pretty sure this post will go unread by anyone who neither wants to fuck me nor marry me.

 

I doubt it. I live in Brazil, and I think if you`re sex positive you belong in Germany. Brazil is all about prostitution, but sex work (although more honest than marriage) is still short of full sex positivity.

Oh wow that's awesome!! What's it like living in Brazil? What are the girls like? What are the guys like? Why do you live there?

But sex positive people are unicorns. I don`t think they really exist, other than myself and a bunch of gay guys.

Yeah I know what you mean. I'm the only girl I know who's down to fuck. I have one friend who's bi but she's married now so she can't do anything. We do go to strip clubs when we have time and money though.

Sounds like my polyamory group. I tried hooking up with a chick in it, but she fell "in love" with a polyamorist and posts about how much she loves him on Facebook. Pretty embarrassing. She also did the typical female thing of baiting and switching. First she was interested, then for god knows what reason, turned cold. I doubt she has much sex. The last meeting fell through. I was the only one that went. I don`t know if I would attend another meeting since they are basically vanilla, and sex-negative. Anyone who throws the word love around is.

You'd be wasting time and money if you went to another one. I went to couple of poly 'munches' and all we did was chat about polyamory and eat. It was exactly like traditional dating.

This sounds like another group, Rede de Relacoes Livres (Free Relationship Network). The problem is they are lefitists, and feminists, and I already had an argument with one of the gung-ho "patriarchy" bitches there. So, as is always the case with leftists, it`s more about blowing off steam than actually having sex.

Wow I didn't know they had radfem in Brazil. I thought they could care less about 'sexism'.


I tend to be friends with gay guys. They seem to be the only ones who aren`t politically correct prudes who are deathly afraid of their own bodies, and need to cling to anyone in order to have a relationship. You can`t trust straight people because they get married and disappear.

One of them passed away from a stroke, and the other one fell in love with me and we`re taking a break.

I have one female friend. We see eye-to-eye in that she`s sex-positive. But she has a "paternal" type she goes for. And, I don`t consider people who can only fuck with one type fully sex-positive. If you only fuck one type of dude, why not get married to one?

What different types of guys do you go for? I go for a daddy type but there are huge differences between them. for example one is a Caribbean rasta man who's spiritual and always happy ('irey'). another is a lean muscular hard hat construction worker. another is much older pot belly commanding responsible type.

But, I`m still very lucky to count her as someone to talk to, if not someone to do things with. Even though our friendship is mostly theoretical, she did lend me support recently when I had a crisis about some chick I liked that baited and switched on me. The usual female brutality.

She goes to swing clubs, and like me, she considers swingers vanilla. Swingers would have been ok if they weren`t homophobic, and put women on a pedestal. As it stands, the sons of bitches hardly even let me inside one of their clubs. Plus, I`m not into upscale pretentiousness.

There are swing clubs down there? Is it safe to hook up randomly with bunch of sexy Brazilian guys?

 

I have zero friends

 

I really only have 2 friends.
Everyone else are just people I talk to.

 

I wonder why people in America have such few friends. Is it a trust issue? A matter of being too different from the norm? I had 2 friends when I started this post and now I already have eight friends.

 

It was very silly of me to suggest that I had anywhere close to eight friends. I have one friend.

 

I have one friend. And even then, our friendship is so complicated.

I have made some good friends on here, most I'll never meet because of distance but friends all the same

 

Friends are over rated man

 

I have a lot of friends. I have 8-10 that I am close with in the sense that we see each other or talk frequently and share our innermost thoughts and feelings, and then maybe 15-20 who I would consider my extended family, and another 50 or so I am very fond of and invite to dinner or call to hang out with, and then maybe 100 that are my outer circle of friends. I make friends quickly and tend to keep them for life, and since I'm getting up in years that means I have a lot of friends who have been with me for a long time.

I don't define myself by my sexuality, and base friendships on whether I find the other person interesting rather than on whether we have anything in common. Some of my friends are bisexual, some are poly, many are neither. Some I am attracted to, others not. Some I have slept with, others not. Among my friends are scientists, historians, doctors, lawyers, artists, tradespeople, engineers, and social workers. I don't care; it's about the human connection for me, and about whether, when I talk to that person, I'm genuinely interested in what they have to say, and I enjoy spending time with them.

 

I have no close girl friends. My maid of honor is the closest girl friend I have, we've been friends for 8 or 9 years but I'm just now warming up enough to tell her some of my deeper secrets and she lives about 4 hours away, so it's not often we see each other. I get along wonderfully both in and out of work with most the girls there, but I don't like hanging out with people I work with because the conversation inevitably always ends up being about work. I have 4 close guy friends, two who I am so comfortable with, I'll walk around in my underwear in front of them. We have a verbally abusive friendship, lol. I love being "one of the guys," it's so much more relaxed. I don't mind that I don't have many girls to spend time with, but I do like to be a girl every now and then.

 

Thousands tho I could count the true ones on two hands ...

 

Define "friend."

 

I guess, a person that you become close with, share things with, have good and bad times together, and consider them to be someone you are comfortable having around in your life. Someone you care about in a personal way, that cares about you too....

Dunno, I don't have any