How would you reply to a couple looking for mmf?

Okay here is a question for you guys out there that would be interested in joining a straight man and woman couple for a threesome? What would you say to them to try to be the one they choose? I am asking, because the reply's we get when we put out an ad for this are ridiculous! It is like guys just don't have any clue about what it is to a couple. Not every woman who would do this with their man is a cock hungry whore who just can't get enough from their man. Not every guy that would do this with their woman is a cuckloid. Some people do just enjoy the things that can happen when an extra person is involved.

 

I'd like to hear some of the replies. I never had the urge to be the third wheel even when single but I find myself interested in reading about it.

 

So you actually advertise for a guy to join you both for a 3 some in real life or just as a competition to see who would be the winner but not in real life?

 

Actually, I wouldn't "try to be the one they choose," in the sense most would mean that, because to me that's basically more like marketing than honesty, and honesty is important...like really important...like super-duper-mega-important to me. Instead of "marketing" myself, I'd introduce myself, explain who I am and what my experience with such a situation has been, and give all parties a chance to make a fully informed choice about whether I and they would be compatible. I'd hope that by going about things this way, the experience--should they decide to select me--would be far, far more enjoyable to all than if I gave a sales pitch to try to "convince" anyone of anything.

 

No Thanks.

 

And you would tell them what sex acts you are / or would be prepared to carry out with either of them (or both of them) if they wanted to do something to you which was out of your own comfort zones?

 

To me, that's such a basic part of communication about a relationship that is or could be sexual that I guess I didn't think to even mention it--kind of goes along with the "fully informed decision" part of what I said--but yes.

 

Our lives are real, yes.

 

Honesty is great in this lifestyle and being real is a big plus with us!

 

I would ask which one of them was going to seduce me - her only (?) or both (?) and that no harm being done physically & protection a must.
Or if us 2 guys were the dominant one's to seduce her in anyways she was wiiling to try.

 

Thanks for your input!

 

So you both have sex with males or just you with her & the other guy joins in to seduce her only?

 

Considering I said a straight man and woman couple that might not be hard to figure out!

 

I am a straight man so no I do not have sex with other males! My lady and I are involved with the swing life we sometimes have other people join us. She is bi so when there are other woman involved she does have sex with them.

 

Oh, I would like to see to a woman seduce another one & see them do kinky stuff together in real life - not videos etc.
And how old are you both?

 

I've found that in general (though this is not true in each and every case) the sites that cater to "adult lifestyles" are chock-full of less-than-honest people. The people who are the most likely to be real and honest are the ones who enjoy sharing partners and/or being shared because that's just an extension of who they are rather than as a...what's the word I'm looking for?...I'll put it this way. The one experience I've had with this, in which a woman I loved dearly also was attracted to a close male friend (we're both hetero), what made it such a great experience while it lasted was that they genuinely liked each other. It wasn't "OK, we're in this lifestyle, so we're going to do X, Y, and Z, but it's separate and in its own little Lifestyle bubble." It was more like "Hey, we like each other, we all have non-monogamous leanings, and things are going this way, so let's see what happens." Unfortunately, she was in kind of an intense life transition and we had some communication difficulties over that, so it didn't last longer than a summer, but I remember it being a very real, intimate, and inclusive thing while it lasted.

 

Yes it is a lot of fun for both of us! I am 41 and she is 28. Age has not been a factor in our life together. We just are a good match all around.

 

Heck, I'm 53 (just) & the thought of a 28 yrs old female (or even much younger) of ever being with me sexually is a big turn !
So I envy you in some ways mate. My wife is mid 50's doesn't like some of the things I want to try with her (alone) at all. Doesn't like me touching her butt hole at all or even giving her oral much either. She's going thru menopause to now & that has benefits & drawbacks to.

 

Yes there are a lot of less-than-honest people in the lifestyle, but there are people that are in it for the right reasons and really get what it is all about. We have found other women and couples in the past that were good matches and great people. We have yet to find another single guy that seemed to get it and follow through with even meeting. The few we have found that could talk have chickened out as soon as we tried to make plans to meet them. I can understand it being hard to go out and meet a couple being the odd man out though. If we did feel they were the right person they would not be the odd man out in anyway when play time came. We both go out of our way to make sure people we play with are well takin care of.

 

So when you both get together with someone else, who gets to choose who makes the first move or initiates foreplay first etc?