I am lost....

Discussion in 'Relationships' started by Tie-Dye Dream, May 4, 2009.

  1. Tie-Dye Dream

    Tie-Dye Dream Member

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    I am back together with a girl that I've known ever since the 5th grade. She is so sweet, and I love her so much. But the thing is, she is very immature for her age on some grounds. For example: she has never french-kissed anybody, including me, and she's a virgin and won't let me make love to her. She is so sweet, yesterday, she was at my house and she got on my bed and cuddled with me under a blanket, and fell asleep, it was the most beautiful thing I've ever seen. Also, before she fell asleep, I held her really close to me and by human nature, I put my hand on her breast, and she didn't mind. If she doesn't mind that then why won't she let me at least let me french-kiss her. Please anybody help me out!
     
  2. rollingalong

    rollingalong Banned

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    maybe you have horrible breath ?...it could be somethin simple like that..maybe she has a retainer.....herpes......a phobia about germs...she doesnt know how?...you dont know how...maybe she believes that it can make her pregnant...she has missing teeth and is embarassed.....maybe her order of whats next is not 'your' order of whats next...relax dude it will happen...
     
  3. fricknfrack

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    SHE is NOT IMMATURE she is respecting herself!! YOU NEED to respect her decisions.

    I will give you a heads up on what happened with me in High school. While I was in highschool i was in the outcast group because i never got pregnant smoked up did ANY type of drug didn't have A BABY partied hung out with ANY type of drug addict (to this day i wouldn't know what drugs look like), I drank my first drink at 19, smoked my first doobie at 19 and lost my virginity at 18. I would never let ANY guy touch me or disrespect in any way. When i dated my 2nd bf he never knew how to kiss me help her go along with it. Its growing up, teach her without telling her your going to . like her for who she is. Let her have time, maybe something terrible has happened to her and she wants to take things slow. Don't rush. If guys rush into things with girls the girls will get dcared away. Just like her the way she is till she allows you to make the next move. Kiss her on the cheek or fore head. nothing wrong with that. I'm married and i love getting a kiss on the cheek or forehead , just knowing someone cares or a hug just means so much ​

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    I am back together with a girl that I've known ever since the 5th grade. She is so sweet, and I love her so much. But the thing is, she is very immature for her age on some grounds. For example: she has never french-kissed anybody, including me, and she's a virgin and won't let me make love to her. She is so sweet, yesterday, she was at my house and she got on my bed and cuddled with me under a blanket, and fell asleep, it was the most beautiful thing I've ever seen. Also, before she fell asleep, I held her really close to me and by human nature, I put my hand on her breast, and she didn't mind. If she doesn't mind that then why won't she let me at least let me french-kiss her. Please anybody help me out!
     
  4. Oxymorph

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    haha, lol
    drugs are better
     
  5. missie

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    Take it slow… and remain respectful. Allow her to establish feelings of comfort when around you.

    A girl likes to feel safe.
     
  6. Carlfloydfan

    Carlfloydfan Travel lover

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    Chill and respect her choices. Perhaps you are the one who is acting immature by trying to force her into certain situations?
     
  7. sarahrei

    sarahrei ~Lover~

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    I'm going to go against the general opinion of this thread. Have you told her how it makes you feel that you guys aren't on a physical level? While it's not fair for you to ask her to put out before she wants too, it's not fair that you have to wait.
     
  8. Tie-Dye Dream

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    We haven't talked in a while. She almost forgot to say ''I love you'' at the end of our last conversation. I think our relationship is dead. I really thought that we had something special, it's really sad, especially considering how much history we have, man.
     
  9. PurpByThePound

    PurpByThePound purpetrator

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    Seems like you are trying to force things that aren't to be forced.
    Maybe she takes things slow, if you like her enough, go at her pace - but it seems like you might be becoming too serious too quickly
     
  10. Tie-Dye Dream

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    The girl proposed to me over the phone two weeks ago! One that's not the way to propose, two we haven't even kissed before because she is ready for that yet, she told me, I think she's losing it, man!
     
  11. fuzz_acid_flowers

    fuzz_acid_flowers Aqueou§ Transmi§§ion

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    there are couples who don't do anything before marriage.Just imagine how explosive the honey moon would be o_O
     
  12. Tie-Dye Dream

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    Well it's all over now, man. We broke up. I planned that we go out for lunch tomorrow and she said that she does not like dates. Well how are you suppost to get to know somebody if they don't even want to go on a date with you, DUH! I also wrote her a poem the other day, and believe me I'm no poet, but I poured my heart out into it and she didn't like it. So we split up, we don't belong together, especially under those conditions! But thanks everybody for helping me out.

    Peace!
     
  13. Carlfloydfan

    Carlfloydfan Travel lover

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    Yah, it makes sense, all of this, considering the age of the two people involved.
     
  14. Tie-Dye Dream

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    Oh god here we go again with that bullshit! I'm not the one with the problem she is. You don't know her.
     
  15. fricknfrack

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    Carl -
    If i'm not mistaken you had a problem with your gf not too long ago stop assuming age is a factor
     
  16. Tie-Dye Dream

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    Thank you fricknfrack! I hate when people do that!
     
  17. fricknfrack

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    It seems sometimes some men aren't as understanding in some circumstances and SOME women are just so hard to figure out. Maturity plays a big role in relationships esp when growing- i heard on tv that the last part of the brain to develop in a child is the reasoning part of it - So that is why when young adults as well as children get consequenced they can't figure out why that happened because it truly hasn't developed well enough.
    If it has they need to reason more with their communication skills
     
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