I do everything alone.

And when I say everything. I mean, everything. I go to bars alone, I go to watch bands play alone, I went to Chicago alone for a long weekend, I go to restaurants alone. I went and watched Charlie and the Chocolate Factory at the movie theater alone. And now, I'm going to see the Allman Brothers and moe. alone.

At times I like my alone time. But it sure would be nice to do things with other people once in awhile.

 

can i come as well i like doing things alone sometimes but sometimes i like people around but as since most of my mates have kids or work its diffucult to see them, come to england and i'll show u a a good time we can have a festival yay

 

You must be a strong person to be able to do all those things by yourself! Venturing out and going out on your own and trying new things is always somewhat scary because it is new and having someone with you, can make you feel stronger. Be grateful you are able to be independent, because co-dependency isn't healthy! I understand the need for companionship though...but you are a lucky person to be blessed with the ability to go out and have a righteous time by yourself.

 

^ What she said. At least you're not sitting at home waiting for someone or something to happen to you. That makes you the interesting person you are, which we appreciate.

 

Going out alone does allow me to mingle and meet other people, which is nice...but doing everything alone gets a bit ridiculous and monotonous.

I'm beginning to feel like a big loser!

 

u arent a looser at all, i think its a good idea, and surely if u meet new people then that proves ur not a looser

 

no,no,no,NO! You would be a loser if you sat at home and whined because you can't do things alone! There are lots of women who have never even gone to a restaurant alone, you are a strong independent woman! And when you meet that special someone for you, they will appreciate your independence and experiences. If you sat at home sad, that someone might not even ever notice you.
Independence rocks. Being with someone only because you don't want to be alone is sad.

 

if you were a loser you wouldnt be going out alone, youd be staying in alone
or you would go out alone and not meet anyone.

take this from a real loser

 

i admire your ability to do that..i have just in the last 4 years gotten to that point.

 

annie ge t it together and come over to england for a visit i have 7kids ranging from23 down to 12 you would definatly not be alone and would have a great time.we live near country and are self sufficient pretty much,we have lots of animals and i bake yummy hash cakes.i think you would have a wicked time

 

I'm just like you Annie. I went through a phase where I was afraid being by myself so much was abnormal so I forced myself to interact with people more than I normally would.
It just made me apprieciate my own space that much more.

I realised at one point that the only thing that bothered me about needing my own space as much as I do was that it didn't seem "normal", but that was just based on what I saw everybody else doing.

Once I got to know the social scene from the inside, once I found out what "normal" is like for most people, I came to the conclusion pretty quick that most of it is just alot of unnecessary drama.

Most people get on my nerves pretty quick, most people talk too much, most people seem really needy to me.

 

Annie,
my first impression of you was of your individuality. With no pretentions to fall all over yourself, you expressed, with yourSelf, that a bit of you falls in many categories. Maybe its just me, but this is a sign that a person is developing themselves, consciously or not, giving breadth and span to their inner person, to compliment the depths we all have within us. i'd like to say I can relate very much to how you feel.

how many spring summer fall and even winter nights, driving down ida-center road, dixie highway, secor, summerfield and ones i don't know and could never tell ya, searching the perfect place for the sunset. times like that were visceral experience of life, beauty, perfection, independence, and doing what i wanted for myself, but had this lingering twinge of emptiness, of solitary desolation, well, i had both boats, and prolly some others. while sometimes too much to balance, i wouldn't trade those shoes for nothin, there is/was so much to learn from having some of both.

I'm going to try my best to give my 2cents of what i've garnered from a variety of sources, its a bit of a paradox, but ill give it my go. We're all alone in this world, we're all in our own inner-world that is entirely our own, which we can never verifiably know is a similar world or experience as anyone or anything else, as long as we're alive. However, this experience of an entirely seperate, life-long inner world continually unfolding, shared by all peoples, is what lets us share with one another, what allows us to be close, and what allows us to find meaning, care, importance, and love with other people. so, we're all seperate, but what we all share together and what connects us, is our seperateness. I think that last sentence says it succinctly.

some words i've very often milled over, from a time of life that was epic for me in its dismal proportions, but which was shared by another who could connect with my feeling of seperateness:

you're never really,alone
alon e
alo n e
al o n e
a l o n e
a l o ne
a l one
al one
when you're, all one

its a long quote and response, but its helped me a great deal, and maybe it gives you something to reflect on to find some solace.

peace be with

 

heh... im the same way. well, was when i had my car more so then now...

i do a lot of things with my husband, and sometimes my friends but i also do a lot of things alone... going to bars, restaurants *restaurant bars*, over night trips to the beach... sometimes its even better doing those things alone then if there were other people around me that i didnt wanna be around, ya know?

altho i am glad i have dan to do things with me.

anyways, yer not a loser so dont worry....

 

i know exactly what yer sayin ...im one whos perfectly capable of being and traveling solo ....but after a while its like you dont even have a contrast to feel good being alone . i shouldnt complain caause i get ta talk ta all kinds a fools .

 

I like to do things alone too, and sometimes I feel like a big loser because of it. And then I think, I'm having fun. How can you be a loser if you can have fun alone and with people?

 

I'm in the exact same position. I don't think I've done anything that involved another person (other than argue over the phone or AIM) in over a month. I'm like this wild-eyed hermit at 18.

 

Well at least you know you're not the only one, Annie. I also go out alone all the time. I have no friends to go out with or dates to go on. What a sad life I lead...

 

I do a lot alone as well. I don't really have any good friends. Hardly anyone ever invites me out.

 

im scared of being alone...im scared of lonliness

 

i'm alone alot..but even alone we are all here together
annie..i love ya..your never truly alone